I want to crawl into a hole

Original post by Rosie0613

Mar 24, 2010 01:28 PM

FH doesn't think he's ready to get married. We're 59 days away and today he decides to tell me this! At work no less and now I am a flipping mess and I can't even concentrate. I don't know what to do. I told him that he has to decide sooner rather than later what he wants. I think if I saw him right now I would punch him. I can't take this. I just want to crawl into a hole and cry.

Clover23 Posted: Mar 24, 2010 05:43 PM

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nanpink Posted: Mar 24, 2010 06:04 PM

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I'm so sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you

jackieee Posted: Mar 24, 2010 06:05 PM

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Im so sorry :(

Windy Posted: Mar 24, 2010 06:13 PM

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Wow I feel like i've seen this a lot on here lately! It's prob just cold feet. Take a breather and when you are calm then have a talk.

bluj786 Posted: Mar 24, 2010 06:16 PM

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im so sorry that you arr going through this right now. it seems like all these guys are getting cold feet and thats wayu that they are handeling it. go home and talk to him and maybe take a step back from the wedding for a bit. good luck and im sure everthing will work out. hang in therehuggy:

Diana508 Posted: Mar 24, 2010 06:24 PM

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I think the pressure is getting to all these men since 2010 weddings are all due.

I agree that you shouldn't 'pressure' him into an answer. Try and see what his concerns are. Is it the lifestyle change, which can be the normal cold feet, etc? Try and address them first and see why he is feeling this way. I hope it's something you can talk about and hope things work out for you

GracieJMay2010 Posted: Mar 24, 2010 06:41 PM

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I will come down and kick his a$$ for you. No charge.

But serioulsy, im so sorry you are going through this.

Marianne13 Posted: Mar 24, 2010 06:49 PM

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Don't worry.. Try to take a break from the wedding planning and do something fun. It's probably nerves and aggravation from the wedding stress.

CristinanBen2010 Posted: Mar 24, 2010 07:02 PM

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Its a stressful time all the planning and stuff. maybe hes just stressed out

Chrissy216 Posted: Mar 24, 2010 07:06 PM

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I would do worst then just punching him i mean i am getting married the same day you are and if my fiance was to say that to me i think i would just die. not to mention i could only imagine how much time and money you have put into planning this day... i think you should talk to him and let him know where you stand and see what he has to say cause this is a choice he will have to live with for the rest of his life...

JAAMS Posted: Mar 24, 2010 07:08 PM

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jmgoncal Posted: Mar 24, 2010 07:09 PM

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I'm so sorry! Try to talk it out

Bride825 Posted: Mar 24, 2010 08:02 PM

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jennybee Posted: Mar 24, 2010 08:14 PM

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Take a deep breath and talk. I'm certain it's cold feet. Keep wedding talk to a minimum and try to gently get to the bottom of this.

Thinking of you...

Sandradv121 Posted: Mar 24, 2010 08:31 PM

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LovinMichael44 Posted: Mar 24, 2010 08:37 PM

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Oh my gosh, my heart breaks for you....I've been through that situation once before and it's horrible.....just try to talk it out and remain calm......I'm so sorry that all works out for you

Rosie0613 Posted: Mar 24, 2010 09:08 PM

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Thanks so much everyone. I'm sorry I couldn't reply to everyone earlier. Work was crazy which was good because it kept me distracted!

We are supposed to meet with our priest on Saturday and I suggested that we not meet with him since he is unsure. FH couldn't understand why?!?! I told him that I don't want to meet with the priest if he is unsure about marrying me. And he said that he does want to marry me but that he is going to through so much right now and doesn't even know what he's saying or feeling anymore. So I told him that if he wants to talk then I am here but I'm not going to pressure him to talk. I'll wait until he is ready.

Thanks so much for everything girls! I don't know where I would be without all of your advice. You are the best!