I want to share my Stepmother experience so far..........................

I want to share my Stepmother experience so far..........................

Well, ladies, it's been 5 months, and I have to say to all the stepchildren/mothers out there, my heart is so open to my Stepson. I am so in love with him. We have gotten extremely close and I consider it a blessing.

When he is with us at the house, he barely leaves my side.
Sometimes he'll sit there with me for hours upon hours and watch the Wedding video (that I am obsessed with) for the entire time. This video is UNEDITED ladies, so we're talking about 5-6 hours !!!!!!
He'll do that with me INSTEAD of going to the other room with Daddy to watch football, which is his favorite sport.

He tries to 'protect' me and it's the cutest thing. He's 11 but now 6 foot tall
He may end up taller than DH who is 6'4'
So he thinks he has to protect me, since I'm smaller than him, LOL (I'm 5'4')

Anyway, he showers me with hugs and kisses like I do to him, and he takes it all when I give it. Never winces ever. He even told someone he 'doesn't mind' it, LOL.

This weekend I was out of town for 1 day, and when I got back, he told me he missed me and 'It wasn't the same without you'
He was so happy to have me back home.

It really warms my heart and I feel like he is truly my son.

I cry sometimes when he leaves to go to his Mother's. I suppose this is natural, but I am always sad to see him go. He gets pretty depressed when he goes too. This is the only thing that breaks my heart. And I called myself 'Mommy' when I spoke to him on the phone the other day from out of town. Then I corrected myself and said 'StepMommy'.
He didn't seem to mind, but I got a little sad b/c I WISH I really were the real MOMMY.

But alas, I feel truly blessed with our relationship, and just wanted to share. It is a wonderful feeling being a stepmom to him.

Thanks All for listening

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OMG, please dont make me cry so much. How beautiful!!! You are so wonderful to be so caring and loving to him. I wish everyone felt that way. It saddens me b/c my SIL wants no part of my nephew (bro's son from 1st marriage) and he's a great kid. He lives in Atlanta and they're in NY so she doesnt even have to deal with him, lucky her.

What a beautiful relationship you have. HE sounds like a great kid. You are both so blessed. I bet your DH is thrilled.

This post really warmed my heart. Even though my PMS has my bawling.

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Thanks Liz
I could see why you are saddenned by your SIL behavior.

When I made a decision to get serious with DH, I made a decision to love him and all of him, which to me includes his son. I knew when we married, we were becoming a true family, and it included the 3 of us (that's why I made sure to include my SS in our engagement pictures)
I personally think this is how it should be, well if the child is willing anyway.

Now, get through your PMS - your response is making me cry !!!!!!

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Liz I am so proud of you. What a wonderful example of parenthood you are giving this young man. Your love for him shines through clearly in everything that you write.

Don't worry that you are aren't his actual 'Mommy'. Biology means nothing when it comes to parenthood. It's all about love, my dear and you have it in bunches. Believe me, from the behavior you describe he feels it for you too!

They say you get back in life that which you give and it's clear you give much. Big hugs to you for being the sweet and special wife and 'mom' that you so obviously are!

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He's lucky to have such a wonderful 'step'mommy! Not many women would take the time to get to know their husbands child. You are a remarkable woman!

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My stepmother is truly a mother to me, in nearly every sense of the word. That doesn't mean I don't love my mom or anything, but the truth is I can count on my stepmom more. My mother actually told my dad a few years ago how grateful she is that I have my stepmother because she knows she cannot give me what I really need emotionally or even time wise.

I think it is wonderful that you love your child- remember giving birth doesn't make you a mother. Being there, love, caring, listening, hugs and kisses make you a mom

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He is VERY LUCKY to have you!

Being divorced and having a child myself, I know what a special person it takes to accept a child into their lives. Luckily, my FH is one of those great people, and so are you.

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What a beautiful post! I loved reading it.

to you and 'your' son!

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What a beautiful story Liz!

You will be all ready for your biological baby when the time comes!!

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That is so sweet. I'm so happy that you have such a great relationship. You are obviously a wonderful mother.

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I think Wendy said it best - being a mommy doesn't necessarily have to be biological. Thanks for sharing your wonderful, heartfelt story. He deserves a 'mommy' like you!

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That is so sweet Liz. I am proud of you and your DH and stepson is very blessed to have you.

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I think it is wonderful you have such a great relationship. He is approaching adolesence and I think having you will help him get through the next few years that can be tough.

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Liz, you know how I feel already, I am so jealous of you and that relationship. He was not shy when I asked him, how do you deal with all the kisses he loves it. You are genuine and he knows it. You are his mom in every sense.

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That was so sweet Liz thanks for sharing.

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Thank you all for your kind words. I was feeling so emotional this weekend. It's nice to share.

Thanks for listening

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That's such a nice story. Your DH and his son are so lucky to have you.

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What a great heartwarming story. It's so nice to hear about kids that are so respectful and full of love, and for great gals like you that have so much love in their hearts to share with a child. Im sure your bond will only get stronger and you will have the best of memories together.

Keep posting your great stories.

You have a wonderful family!

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