I want to share my Stepmother experience so far..........................

Original post by Sassy

Nov 10, 2003 05:21 PM

Well, ladies, it's been 5 months, and I have to say to all the stepchildren/mothers out there, my heart is so open to my Stepson. I am so in love with him. We have gotten extremely close and I consider it a blessing.

When he is with us at the house, he barely leaves my side.
Sometimes he'll sit there with me for hours upon hours and watch the Wedding video (that I am obsessed with) for the entire time. This video is UNEDITED ladies, so we're talking about 5-6 hours !!!!!!
He'll do that with me INSTEAD of going to the other room with Daddy to watch football, which is his favorite sport.

He tries to 'protect' me and it's the cutest thing. He's 11 but now 6 foot tall
He may end up taller than DH who is 6'4'
So he thinks he has to protect me, since I'm smaller than him, LOL (I'm 5'4')

Anyway, he showers me with hugs and kisses like I do to him, and he takes it all when I give it. Never winces ever. He even told someone he 'doesn't mind' it, LOL.

This weekend I was out of town for 1 day, and when I got back, he told me he missed me and 'It wasn't the same without you'
He was so happy to have me back home.

It really warms my heart and I feel like he is truly my son.

I cry sometimes when he leaves to go to his Mother's. I suppose this is natural, but I am always sad to see him go. He gets pretty depressed when he goes too. This is the only thing that breaks my heart. And I called myself 'Mommy' when I spoke to him on the phone the other day from out of town. Then I corrected myself and said 'StepMommy'.
He didn't seem to mind, but I got a little sad b/c I WISH I really were the real MOMMY.

But alas, I feel truly blessed with our relationship, and just wanted to share. It is a wonderful feeling being a stepmom to him.

Thanks All for listening

swags1016 Posted: Nov 11, 2003 08:53 AM

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Liz,

I think that it is absolutely beautiful that you and your 'step' son share such a loving relationship! That is going to be more meaningful to him then you will ever possibly know. Since I have a stepMONSTER and a stepfather. I can tell you my stepMONSTER has helped pretty much put the nails in the coffin of the relationship that I had with my father. My 'pop' (stepfather) has been the most loving and wonderful man that he can possibly be. I thank God for him everyday. It means the world to me to have him. To me it also shows what an amazing man he is to take over the raising and nuturing of someone else's kids.

The same is true for you.It takes an amazing person to do this and do it with such love! You are all truly blessed to be building such a loving family!!!

PS (I am half awake so I apologize if this does not make sense!!)

curly2003 Posted: Nov 11, 2003 09:35 AM

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I knew you had a greta relationship with him and you know how I feel but i must say it again...............you are amazing!!!!!!!!

Seeing it in writing makes it so emotional. I wish you and your 'family' continued blessings.

Cira Posted: Nov 11, 2003 09:35 AM

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Liz ... the relationship that you have with your 'son' is wonderful. I'm so happy that you are happy!

Sassy Posted: Nov 11, 2003 10:07 AM

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Ladies

Your words mean so much to me
I got pretty emotional last night.
Len and I were talking about the whole situation, and I broke down
I started crying hysterically, b/c I was so sad Ashton wasn't with us. I want to be able to take care of him and shower him with love all the time.

Len was real good about it, and we talked about moving up our TTC since I seem to be in need of a child sooner than later. It's still up for discussion b/c I want to run the Marathon next year. He doesn't want me to run if I'm pregnant. So in January my next appt with my GYN, we will discuss all options, and whether or not I can begin TTC while training for the Marathon.

But he basically said he wants us to be happy as a family, and we will also start making moves to keep Ashton longer than 2 days at a time, since it seems to be affecting all of us. This made me feel better.

So thank you all so much for listening. I feel I have so much love to give, I just want the opportunity to give it to Ashton and his future siblings.

nrvbrd Posted: Nov 11, 2003 10:18 AM

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Liz, you are awesome!!!

There are some women out there who would not display this type of love an emotion to a child that they did not bare.

Some women are bitter and see the stepchild as a nuisance and a competitor to their husband's attention.

You are a great example of a what a blended family should be. You should be very proud of yourself.

What an inspiration you are!!!!

NIHA Posted: Nov 11, 2003 10:45 AM

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Wow!! That's so wonderful that you are really enjoying being a step parent, and that your stepson seems to really be bonding with you so well. I have to say that I think it's always in both parents hands (step and bio) to build that relationship that you have. Good job mom!