I went to a wedding on Saturday, some ideas

The bride and groom had matches with there names and date standing up against a glass votive holder with a little bit of sand then a tea light on top. Before they were introduced by the DJ, he asked that we light the candles. It was so nice, because it was in a big white tent and it was just turning dark, so once it got dark, the candles looked so nice. And I'm sure it wasn't that expensive. Buffet suggestion. They had a buffet but they said that we will come to your table when it's your turn. This was good because then there wasn't a big line. Parent dances. If you don't want the entire father/daughter dance, if you pick a song for both mother/groom and father/bride then the father//bride dances a little then the DJ calls the groom/mother up. For my wedding we just called both parents at the same time. but if you want more time and attention with yor father, this is a nice way to do it. when your walking down the aisle, look up. It's hard, I looked down for mine, and this bride did too. You miss seeing your guests. I just watched my video for the 100th time last night and I wish I looked up. Cake cutting. Get the details of what the coordinator does, so they stand there and put the cake on the plate for you, or is everything up to you guys. Every place is different, so if your not sure, ask. Use a tooth whitening toothpaste or treatment. Especially if your dress is white. I noticed it with this bride because she was tan and dark features, with a stark white dress, your smiling all day and you could tell the hint of yellow. I used a teeth whiting treatment, over the counter for 3 months before the wedding. It helps a little. It could have been because we were outside also, maybe in a church or darker recption hall it would not have been as noticeable. Hope this was useful to some of you. Good luck and have fun. It's been 9 months for me, I want to do it over again.

I went to a wedding on Saturday, some ideas...thanks!!! *NM*

Brenda

Looking back is there anythng else you would do differently? Where did you get your hair and make-up done?

I went to a wedding on Saturday, some ideas

Thanks for the tips...they were very helpful!! Star

some advice

You know looking at my pictures I found that I held my casading bouquet up too high. Try not to do this. I don't know if I did this because it was heavy or because I had a sleeveless dress and wanted my arms not to look flabby by making a muscle??? The muscle part did work for the pictures though!

some advice

Michelle, I did the same thing with my bouquet! It was so heavy, and after a while, my wrist was killing me! In most of the pics my bouquet is up around my chest area!

what I would do differently

My sister did my make-up and we had our hair done at Bocu in Islandia. They came in at 6am for us. It probably sounds like a lot, but it's little things. I would forget about all the anger I had built up about all the family issues that came up during the planning and just enjoy. Talked with my hubby about how we were going to do a speech to thank everyone for coming. He did it and then shoved the mic in my face and all I said was thank you, i felt like such a jerk. Either have something planned or let him do all the talking. Told the photographer to take pictures of all the tables. Spent more time with my guests. I danced a lot, which is good, because it was fun. But I live in CA and rarely see my family and friends, so I should have spent more time talking to them. And my husband doesn't dance, so we were apart a lot. Fixed my make-up. I did not go to the bathroom at all. I really didn't care what I looked like, the formal pictures were over, but people were still taking pictures and so was the photographer and of coourse the video was on. The videogrpaher wanted us to say a few words for the video and I was caught off guard, so I sounded so stupid, at least I think so. The 11x14 picture I got, which is hanging on our wall, I also have the same one in the album, I shouldn't have done that. Had a get together before the wedding, I chose not to have a rehearsal dinner and it created problems, but that's another subject, it didn't create excitement. I felt that no one else was excited about our day, but us. I'm probably imagining, but that's how I felt. And finally, not smiled as much. Just kidding. But be prepared to have a hurt jaw. You smile all day and your jaw hurts that night. Just like for my shower. Your just so happy, you can;t help it. And most of all have fun. I remember everthing about our wedding and I love that, so don't drink to much.

Thanks Brenda-great stuff for us to hear *NM*

ditto

..... on the hurt jaw. Some of my pictures show me not smiling because I was just too tired to smile. After a while it was a fake smile because I felt like that was all I did all day. The church is a total blur to me. I was a nervous wreck! I got all emotional right before I walked down the isle. I'm a shy person, so to me I felt like I was under a lot of pressure. Little did I know my husband had a drink or two before the church. The while time on the altar I couldn't figure out why he looked so calm. I wish I had a drink, I really needed it! I barely had time to eat. I had a sleevless dress and the weather outside was 30-40 degrees and everyone was freezing, but me!!! I was soo happy that I didn't get the sleeves on the dress. On the limo ride to the hall we had champagne and it made me losen up. We drank the whole bottle and I hate champagne!!!:)