ideas for memorial

We are printing names in the programs and I am having the florist put a small bo-k on the outside pew that my mom would have sat in.

Memorial candles are another way to remember a loved one. I went to a wedding recently and the MOH read a poem that was meaning to the bride and her family in memory of her brother.

My father passed away 6 months before we were married. This is how I remembered him.


My father would not have wanted a candle or a table of memorial pictures at his daughter's wedding. He would have wanted the day to be about us. So I kept his memorial private for myself by having this picture in my bouquet. When you lose a parent so close to a wedding day, it is impossible to forget who they are. In my faith, happiness always comes before the sadness and grief is held off for that day. Technically, the period of mourning lasts a year in the Jewish faith, and I did not think it fair to my mother, siblings, aunt, and cousins to remind them of their sadness. My father's spirit was comforting enough - it was too soon for visual reminders. the pain was still very raw.

Those we love dont go away
They walk beside us everyday
Unseen,unheard, but always there
Still loved, still missed and very dear






We thought of you with love today
But that is nothing new
We thought about you yesterday
And days before that too
We think of you in silence
We often speak your name
Now all we have is memories
And your picture in a frame
Your memory is our keepsake
With which we'll never part
God has you in his keeping
We have you in our hearts
In Loving Memory of




'Those we love don't go away, they walk beside us every day. Unseen, unheard, but always near, so loved, so missed, so very dear.'




'If tears could build a stairway, and memories a lane, I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home again..'





'Those we have held in our arms for a little while we hold in our hearts forever




'I thought of you with love today but that is nothing new, I thought about you yesterday and days before that too. I think of you in silence I often speak your name, all I have are memories and your picture in a frame.

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Posted by portjeffbride

I wanted to write the names in the program and mention them in the mass, but it is actually forbidden in the catholic church to mention someone deceased at a wedding mass, becase the mass is supposed to be dedicated to the couple, and not the deceased.... some churches might let you get away with it, but my FH's family is old-school, and they would stop it even if the church let me write it in the program



I think the bo-k thing is the only subtle thing I can do....

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Really! oh my! I'm Catholic, getting married in a Catholic church and my mom died 8 years ago...if someone told me I couldn't mention her in my ceremony or program boy would I flip or breakdown. She'll be on my mind my entire wedding day and is a part of me. If its supposed to be dedicated to the couple only then they should not allow a bridal party or escorts for the bride...look at the bigger picture...the wedding day is about what is important to the couple and that means people living or deceased.


...oh, I read your previous post...I'm Roman Catholic...I would be very hurt if I were told that.