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DebOst Posted: Mar 23, 2014 09:56 AM+
DebOst MEMBER SINCE: 10/13 TOTAL POSTS : 523 WEDDING DATE: Feb 21, 2015
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Ideas Please!!

I posted this in the 2015 brides, thought others might be able to help...
Is anyone else in this situation? What are you doing to please all?

OK. So I have mentioned this in a few posts today. I am getting a lot of kick back from our families over religion. I am Jewish, he is Catholic. We are not religious at all, I would say we are traditional in that I like the symbolism of the traditions. He enjoys the traditions of getting together and having a good time around the holidays. But that is it! My family is very religious, but they have accepted the fact that the only Jewish traditions I will have at the wedding will be breaking of the glass, under a chuppa, and possibly the horah. FH is all about it, anything I want he will do. Now we find out his mother told him that for every Jewish tradition we have to incorporate a Catholic tradition. I said okay, what traditions are there that are symbolic? He cannot think of any. So I told him, 'Let's ask your mom what she would like us to do' his response was that she does not work that way. We need to figure it out or she will hold it against us. He said she will flat out tell us she doesn't want anything and then turn around and hate me for not figuring something out. ***!!

Please Help! Do you know of any traditions we can try to incorporate into the ceremony or at the reception.
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Gambigoo Posted: Mar 23, 2014 10:06 AM+
Gambigoo MEMBER SINCE: 4/13 TOTAL POSTS : 664 WEDDING DATE: Aug 02, 2014
Posted: Mar 23, 2014 10:06 AM bride-minus.png

Ideas Please!! - Long Island Weddings

The unity candle, although not really catholic, but done frequently in church weddings. Or a reading from a scripture.

I'm Christian and my FH is Jewish. Neither of us are really religious. It's more like traditions, as you said. Our families aren't too overly religious either. My sister in law had a priest/rabbi combo at her wedding. They did an awesome job of incorporating both religions into the ceremony. You may wanna look into that. They would have great ideas for you that you'd both be comfortable with. FH and I decided to keep our wedding religion free. No mention of anything, just love, family and us. This way everyone is happy and no family feels upset. Plus, since were not overly religious it would seem outta place for us to have a relious ceremony. It just doesn't fit us.
FH really wanted to break the glass at the end. We talked to our officiant and she had a way if describing to the guests as a symbol of ending (smashing) our old lives as a separate couple and beginning our new lives together (or something like that, lol). It's not going to be done as the religious custom (ii forget what she said it meant, something about freedom from isreal or something). My point is, def talk to some officiants. They will steer you in the right directions and create the perfect ceremony for you! Good luck!
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cets1290 Posted: Mar 23, 2014 10:09 AM+
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Ideas Please!! - Long Island Weddings

there aren't really alot of catholic traditions lol- for our catholic ceremony, we are doing the readings, lighting a unity candle (this could be something you guys can do), and saying the vows haha... I do know that in some catholic ceremonies, the bride will crown the statue Mary, but I didn't really want to do that when they asked... Sorry I can't be of more help :(
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