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If FH gives you $$$, do you take it?

Jenn04 Posted:

If FH gives you $$$, do you take it?

Ok I was not going to post this but just want to see what others would do.

Background info....so we dont have joint accts yet and I pay all my bills, and FH pays his, etc.

Ok so I had my bachelorette party last weekend and FH wanted to give me money for the trip and called me right after I left. This was very sweet of him and he said...'well you only live once!' I was only 1 block away but just didnt feel like turning around and I didnt really need the $$$.

So yesterday he gives me the $$$ and said to go shopping with it. But I feel so so so bad about taking it. I could use some new clothes but at the same time I have credit card debt and an auto loan (on a car I never drive anymore...trying to sell it) and well I just havent been able to save much for the wedding. So part of me wants to be greedy but the other half says NO...HE ALREADY DOES ENOUGH FOR YOU.

Ok thanks for listening. I probably wont take the $$$ after all but just needed to talk!
gabbie83 Posted:

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take it -
we have joint accounts already
after 2 months of dating he was giving me money for manicure, pedicure, rent, food shopping

im like ---- YOU're crazyyy!!
I felt bad, but he knew i had debt and it was harder for me, and since he makes more money.....
its ok - plus you're almost married so its like :your money anyway'
missliss Posted:

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Take it. He wants to give it to you.
JoeJo Posted:

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Wow what a nice guy!..I agree i dont think i could take it either...For me FH is paying for the whole entire wedding..and pays my cell phone bill and my credit card bill...i pay my car bill and car insurance..we do have a joint savings account that i put into every week..but he puts in a **** load!....so I always feel bad about taking his money....He already does way to much!

Kimbalina Posted:

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Honestly if he has approached you twice for it now... just take it.
My FH gave me all the money I needed for my hair to get done recently and I wanted to pay him back and he will not take it.

I think it makes him feel good to know he did that for me.
Bride908 Posted:

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I dont see anything wrong with it...he is offering, its not like you are asking. Before you know it, it will be yours anyway

Future Mulligan Posted:

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sometimes FH and I 'borrow' money from eachother - well usually its me borrowing money from him like the other night i went out to dinner with my girlfriends from work and he gave me the money to go out because i didnt have any cash....we live together so its not really weird for us to do that....he doesnt give me money for no reason because thats what i have my own money for - like he doesnt give me money to spend on myself - i use my own money for those types of things - but if we are out and i dont have my wallet and i want something he'll buy it, or if im going out and dont have cash he'll give me money...things like that
jennandrolo Posted:

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i would take it. it seems like he really wants you to have it.

Jenn04 Posted:

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I know I just feel so so bad. He already thinks I spend money frivously....which btw I really dont.

Yes I have my hair appt and occasional mani/pedi but for the most part I have been shopping on sale racks and havent bought an expensive pair of jeans in over 2 years (love jeans btw). PS - I had a temper tantrum when we went to vegas and I couldnt buy a pair of diesel jeans bc I had no $$!

Hmm I already denied the money...well I left it on the counter....so I wonder if he will try and give it again tonight.....we'll see.
Mici n KC Posted:

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Well the only time he gives me money is because I'm running late for something and have no cash and can't stop at the bank. He's always yelling at me to carry cash
Browneyesncute Posted:

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I would take it! he wants to do something nice! its a give and take i'm sure you do plenty of nice things for him! show him the cloths you buy when your done! i bet he will be happy man!

kabo0831 Posted:

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ill take it and put it in an account

madseason Posted:

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I would take it - i kno for FH to do that it means alot to him to contribute to my happiness in that way - even tho he does everyday!

Jenn04 Posted:

Re: If FH gives you $$$, do you take it?

Posted by Future Mulligan

sometimes FH and I 'borrow' money from eachother - well usually its me borrowing money from him like the other night i went out to dinner with my girlfriends from work and he gave me the money to go out because i didnt have any cash....we live together so its not really weird for us to do that....he doesnt give me money for no reason because thats what i have my own money for - like he doesnt give me money to spend on myself - i use my own money for those types of things - but if we are out and i dont have my wallet and i want something he'll buy it, or if im going out and dont have cash he'll give me money...things like that


Yeah we are like that too. FH 'lends' me $$$ if I need it....but also always pays for food, dinners and vacations too. And he foots the bill most of the mortgage.
jessnstu08 Posted:

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take it, its your FH offering !

cmjd Posted:

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I would take it. We combined our accounts once we bought our house but even if you dont have joint accounts, pretty soon you will be a married couple and your money will be shared. Why not get some practice now??
Toucan311 Posted:

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Right now, all of our money is in joint accounts, but if prior to this FH would have tried to give me cash, I would have been insulted. I'm a career woman. I make my own money. I don't need a man to give me anything.

redjasper32 Posted:

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I dont see anything wrong with taking his money if you're not asking and he's offering.

Annoulak Posted:

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Once we got engaged, Fh and I pretty much agreed that it's no longer 'my' money but 'our' money, so there's no need to 'pay back' if someone spends or gives to the other.

bluekat16 Posted:

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FH never lets me pay when we got out or when we go food shopping. I try but he just doesn't. now he says it's 'our' $$ anyways.

I say take it at this point.

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