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Same here, I got engaged back in August, but after what felt like years, so when people asked about what I was 'thinking' of doing, I already knew. Everyone was telling me I had 'a year and a half' and not to rush.. I booked all of my top vendors right away, and I'm excited in knowing that I got first pick as to what I wanted and didn't have to settle. Now, I can relax while the clock ticks, and before you know it, it will be here! Don't worry, as long as you get what you'd like, I'd say do what you want! :)

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crashing!! I HATE that. I feel like saying, 1. why do you care? and 2. I want to book my dream vendors before they book up.

Now you get to have who you want, not have to scramble, and you'll be organized and well off!

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im having a 28 month engagement; i now have 13 months until my wedding and people STILL tell me i have plenty of time....ummmm really? its annoying but you do what works for you and like katielynn said-its nice to have the choice of what you want and you have more time to shop around and not feel stressed!

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I just got engaged a little over a week ago and I am not planning to get married until Fall 2016. Everyone looks at me like I have five heads but it's what works for US. FH is finishing grad school and it gives us time to save for our dream wedding. I plan to have our venue and photog booked by the end of this summer (a little over 2 years in advance). My mother thinks I'm nuts but I am a control freak and I want to KNOW I got my dream vendors!

Do you and don't let anyone tell you that you're planning wrong!! You'll have everything you wanted and it will be perfect :)

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Posted by katielynn

I had this problem too. We had EXACTLY a two year engagement (now I'm down to 13 months!) and we had everything major (venue, dj, photographer) booked within 6 weeks of being engaged. I wanted first pick of every thing and I knew how indecisive I could be. I wasn't expecting to fall in love with the 2nd venue we saw.

I also think that people who aren't wedding planning on LI.. don't get it. There are only so many places and so many weekends. Brides want certain things. a HUGE requirement for me was one wedding at a time.

Plus. I was able to take a nice break from like... march until now from MAJOR wedding planning. Now I'm back in wedding mode: I need a hotel block, florist, limos... I'm ordering my dress in December.

This year has FLOWN and its insane. When I started on LIW I was like... like.... 725 days away. Now I'm at 400.

Its. flying.

Tell them to leave you alone. lol

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That's all I wanted early so now I am relaxing until July then I will go crazy.
I had the Venue, DJ, Limo, photographer, dress, florist and officiant.

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Oops I had all by September.

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Posted by rcotter90

I just got engaged a little over a week agoGe and I am not planning to get married until Fall 2016. Everyone looks at me like I have five heads but it's what works for US. FH is finishing grad school and it gives us time to save for our dream wedding. I plan to have our venue and photog booked by the end of this summer (a little over 2 years in advance). My mother thinks I'm nuts but I am a control freak and I want to KNOW I got my dream vendors!

Do you and don't let anyone tell you that you're planning wrong!! You'll have everything you wanted and it will be perfect :)

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just a heads up, when I was venue shopping idk but some people heard me say March of 2016 and they told me they weren't biking for 2016 yet. but that was back in Aug so who knows now!

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Posted by rcotter90

I just got engaged a little over a week agoGe and I am not planning to get married until Fall 2016. Everyone looks at me like I have five heads but it's what works for US. FH is finishing grad school and it gives us time to save for our dream wedding. I plan to have our venue and photog booked by the end of this summer (a little over 2 years in advance). My mother thinks I'm nuts but I am a control freak and I want to KNOW I got my dream vendors!

Do you and don't let anyone tell you that you're planning wrong!! You'll have everything you wanted and it will be perfect :)

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just a heads up, when I was venue shopping idk but some people heard me say March of 2016 and they told me they weren't biking for 2016 yet. but that was back in Aug so who knows now!

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Thanks for the heads up! =)

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People have said the same thing to me and my fiance, we now only have 14 months (from today). PPL don't realize that even though it's 2013 this yr is almost over...u keep goin at the pace u feel comfortable with, don't worry what they think !

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If you already know what vendors you want why not book them!! My Fiance and I already booked the church, venue and photographer and we are getting married in April 2015. Less we have to worry about later on. Plus it helps because you know much money you need to save and can start making payments! That drives me crazy too people should just mind their own business! Enjoy this time because from what I hear it goes so fast!! There is no need to rush... enjoy every moment that is what I am doing! :)

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I hear this every single time I even try to talk to someone about my wedding, it drives me crazy. Yes, I am getting married in 2017 but I will not have time to plan my wedding. I start nursing school in March. Those classes are all day every day plus the clinicals then I work and we have a three year old on top of all that. I do not even graduate until a month before my wedding.

So I hope you ladies don't mind me crashing the 2015 board until they make one for me ;)

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agreed 100%! When all is said and done we'll have been engaged two and half years. We wanted to do it over two years so didn't end up in debt after.

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FH and I have been engaged since 2010 and have been making little plans ever since. If anyone started to give me flack I just told them it's easier to start now so I am not stressing out. This way when we actually come down to it and having to know what we are doing about table numbers and stuff it's already done and we can focus on the more time sensitive things, like vendors and dresses,etc.

We have known for years who we wanted to invite, that we aren't using table Numbers, we are using pics of places we have been, making as much as we can for the ceremony and reception ourselves to save as much as possible and make it more personal, warm, inviting and unique.

We just bought 1/2 the stuff we need for our favors. It's December, it could have waited, but we didn't want to. We have to stamp and polyurethane them and won't be stressed and running out of time like we would it we had waited until 4 months before the wedding as the timeline suggests.

We don't have everything on the timeline done, but we do have at least one thing checked from each stage of the timeline - right up to 2 months before the wedding. One less thing to worry about when we get down to it. One less stress on our mind and shoulders. We are about 6 months out, and we have a Lot to do, but we have less to worry about doing it our way and not the way 'they' (the eternal they) tell you too.

DON'T let anyone tell you that you are starting too early. You get the best ideas and stress less as you have more time to work things out. It's about you and your FH not them. It's Your Wedding...do it Your way.

Good luck, stay strong and ignore the nay sayers.

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Posted by KimnAndy

FH and I have been engaged since 2010 and have been making little plans ever since. If anyone started to give me flack I just told them it's easier to start now so I am not stressing out. This way when we actually come down to it and having to know what we are doing about table numbers and stuff it's already done and we can focus on the more time sensitive things, like vendors and dresses,etc.

We have known for years who we wanted to invite, that we aren't using table Numbers, we are using pics of places we have been, making as much as we can for the ceremony and reception ourselves to save as much as possible and make it more personal, warm, inviting and unique.

We just bought 1/2 the stuff we need for our favors. It's December, it could have waited, but we didn't want to. We have to stamp and polyurethane them and won't be stressed and running out of time like we would it we had waited until 4 months before the wedding as the timeline suggests.

We don't have everything on the timeline done, but we do have at least one thing checked from each stage of the timeline - right up to 2 months before the wedding. One less thing to worry about when we get down to it. One less stress on our mind and shoulders. We are about 6 months out, and we have a Lot to do, but we have less to worry about doing it our way and not the way 'they' (the eternal they) tell you too.

DON'T let anyone tell you that you are starting too early. You get the best ideas and stress less as you have more time to work things out. It's about you and your FH not them. It's Your Wedding...do it Your way.

Good luck, stay strong and ignore the nay sayers.

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wow 2010 I give u credit! I was concerning only having a 9 month engagement and whe we changed it to 20 months I had mixed emotions! time and saving was great news but we have been together 7 yrs I want to be his wife have our own life u. know. but its ok I will be his wife and less stress for me is much better! although the holidays have put a big hold on things! but come jan 2nd it's time to get my butt in gear!!
u sound so organized! I'm so jealous!

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I am a bit organized, except for my desk at home. lol

I just go with my gut and think, ok what is the next important task we have to work on?

FH called about 20 hotels because I was at work and he had the time to do it. We were able to do a room block because he did the phone calls and we knew it was time sensitive.
As we are getting married in June we had to remember we aren't the only ones, there are also graduations, seminars at the local universities and proms that take up a lot of rooms.

We already have the limo done because we didn't want to fight half of those same people for them.

Maybe, if you haven't already done it, you should print out the full list of the timeline of checks to do. Cross off what you Won't do at all - we are not using a coordinator, or having to deal with flower girl dresses, purchase wedding insurance, send invites to calligrapher among others. That narrows our list right there.

We are holding off on major things during the holidays too. However researching vases or favors and stuff on a break between cookie trays coming out of the oven is ok.

Go easier on yourself or you will go crazy. It will all work out and you will turn around and wonder why you had been so stressed. Take time to enjoy the ride.