if you are young and getting married..respond...

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Posted by lealea

I agree! I think that sometimes age is just a number...some people act older and are alot more stable and mature while for others it might take longer. I think that if your old enough to support each other finanically and mentally and truely love each other then age doesnt matter. Dont let people get to you, YOU are the only one who knows if your ready to be married or not. Dont second guess yourself because of other peoples opinions.

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exactley what i was trying to get across!

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Posted by aliska21

m 20...my wedding is in october 2009, so by that time i will be 22. Anyway, people at my work..and by people i mean man, keep telling me that im too young to get married and that i will be cheating in 2-3 months..that makes me feel like ****..coz is so not true... i hate when people say that...i love my fiance and we are very happy!!!

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Like everyone else said, don't listen! I feel the same way and it is nice to hear that I am not the only one. I have been best friends with FH since we were 14. We got engaged this year at the age of 22 and when we get married, I will be 23 and he will be 24. So many people give me their unwanted input, especially people at work, and especially men. Sadly, it seems as though a lot of people I know are unhappy in their marriages! Many people shamelessly admit that they cheat on significant others. I just know that FH and I are made for each other and we are both honest and loyal. I just wish everyone could be as lucky as us! I feel bad for all of the people giving me their 'experienced' opinions about how marriages don't last. Too bad for them!

Don't listen to what anybody tells you because, simply, they're NOT you. Everybody is different, but unfortunately, everyone likes to make sure everyone else fits into a cookie cutter life.

Everybody is different and everybody has a different life and everbody has different desires in their lives.

My sister got married at 23...18 years and 4 kids later she's as happy as a clam.

My brother got married at 27...15 years, 2 dogs and a cat later, he's also as happy as a clam.

Me? I'll be 38 when I get married and for the life of me, I couldn't ever imagine being married in my 20's. But that's ME. I'm sure there are plenty of you who might think, 'OMG...I would never wait to be that old before I get married!' right?

Sometimes people are just so miserable in their own lives, that they have to try and bring someone down to make themselves feel better. Try your best to let it roll off your back and get on with the living the life that makes YOU happy!

I'm 20 & I just got married in September. I cannot tell you how many people came up to me at work right after I came back from my honeymoon to say 'You just got married right? You look so young! How old are you?!' Really, it's nobody else
s business. I can't believe someone would be rude enough to telly you that you will be cheating in 3 months. Don't let people like that get to you. Being young does not mean you can't have a happy marriage. Trust me

We get that all the time
but we also look like were 15 lol

i dont bother with them. Most of them are unhappy with their marriages so thats why they say what they say

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

WOW! I didnt realize how many young brides we have on the board! I know a gurl who just turned 18 and got engaged right before her bday.... Honestly, dont think they will last but it has more to do with how their situations are than with age...

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yeah, i've known a lot of younger people who got married for stupid reasons and ended up splitting up, but i think it's the stupid reasons (not the age) that caused it. older people want to, umm, share what they've learned in order to caution you against making the same mistakes. unfortunately, it often comes off as meddlesome & judgmental.

from the perspective of someone who got engaged @ 28 after being w/ FH for 4 years, i'm glad i waited. if i had married the person i was convinced i would end up with @ 20, it would have been a disastrous mistake, but i had A LOT of growing to do. on the other hand, some people on here are in their mid to late 20's and marrying guys they started dating in high school. everyone's different.

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Posted by beram63

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

WOW! I didnt realize how many young brides we have on the board! I know a gurl who just turned 18 and got engaged right before her bday.... Honestly, dont think they will last but it has more to do with how their situations are than with age...

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yeah, i've known a lot of younger people who got married for stupid reasons and ended up splitting up, but i think it's the stupid reasons (not the age) that caused it. older people want to, umm, share what they've learned in order to caution you against making the same mistakes. unfortunately, it often comes off as meddlesome & judgmental.

from the perspective of someone who got engaged @ 28 after being w/ FH for 4 years, i'm glad i waited. if i had married the person i was convinced i would end up with @ 20, it would have been a disastrous mistake, but i had A LOT of growing to do. on the other hand, some people on here are in their mid to late 20's and marrying guys they started dating in high school. everyone's different.

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LOL i'm one of those mid 20 gurls with the FH from HS We're already an old married couple... and we're gettin married and spending how much on a wedding????

Love has no age limit.. You are going to come across all types of negeative people during your wedding planning.. The key is to not listen to them and enjoy this.. You only get married once and this is YOUR time.. Don't let anyone rain on your parade!!!

FH and i have been together since we were 15.....we have heard everything from 'how do you know he is the one?' 'aren't you curious about other people out there?'

Just do your thing..... needless to say we have been together since we were 15 and when we get married we will both be 29.

hi i can understand what you are going through...ill be 23 when we get married in 09 and my FH will be 24. like everyone else is saying as long as you are serious about your relationship and FH then it will be fine!! Congrats!

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Posted by aliska21

m 20...my wedding is in october 2009, so by that time i will be 22. Anyway, people at my work..and by people i mean man, keep telling me that im too young to get married and that i will be cheating in 2-3 months..that makes me feel like ****..coz is so not true... i hate when people say that...i love my fiance and we are very happy!!!

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Don't listen to them- it is most likely a jealousy thing. It's truly non of their business. I would actually say right out loud- it's none of your business and just walk away.

I'll be 23 and he'll be 24 when we get married.

My parents will be celebrating their 25th wedding anniversary and my grandparents will be celebrating their 50th the same year my FH and I are getting married and they were both younger then I am when they got married, so they must be doing something right.