If you can't attend a wedding ...

FH and I were invited to a wedding, but cannot attend. Initially I had planned on giving what we would normally give if we were attending, but I'm being told that's not how it works. Right now my options are:

- Give what we normally give (cash)
- Give about half to 2/3rds of what we normally give (cash)
- Send registry gifts making up about half - 2/3rds what we normally give

Opinions? What do you ladies do?

Thanks!!!

Depends on how close you are to these people. I've been invited to weddings and i was like, she invited me? i haven't spoken to her in years, and then didn't send a gift.

If it's a good friend, or a family member, i would send a gift close to what you might have given if yuou attended.

Thanks for replying!

It's not a really close friend, but it is someone FH grew up with and still talks to. They hang out once in a while, but talk more through email. Gift-wise (if we were going) he'd fall in the mid-range.

I wouldn't go all out being on how the relationship sounds...but send something special and thank them for wanting you to celebrate in their special day

I wouldn't ever consider not sending a gift unless I didnt like the people at all.. but thats just my opinion.. I would say if the tables were turned, what in oyur mind would be a fair gift? But in the end they know your saving for a wedding to pay for and I'm sure there not expecting a huge gift.. I'm always a fan of cash though, I always give it.. its a safty net good luck