If you receive a check as a gift before the wedding, can you cash it before the wedding?

Original post by sarahradio5

Oct 26, 2006 04:47 PM

It's from my mom's cousin, who can't make it to the wedding. They sent a very generous gift of $150, but my mom isn't sure if proper etiquette is to wait until after the wedding to cash it? I could really use that money for tip $$! What do I do?

Also, I send a thank you now AND the picture thank you later, too, right?

TIA!

stlmn2u Posted: Oct 26, 2006 07:31 PM

Re: If you receive a check as a gift before the wedding, can you cash it before the wedding?

I would wait....

Dee606 Posted: Oct 26, 2006 09:07 PM

Re: If you receive a check as a gift before the wedding, can you cash it before the wedding?

If you could use it towards paying off some bills then i say cash it but don't forget to send a thank you card.. if you don't need the money right away I say wait

2Be1 Posted: Oct 26, 2006 09:25 PM

Re: If you receive a check as a gift before the wedding, can you cash it before the wedding?

Posted by LaurenluvsTJ

I waited... I didn't feel it was right to cash a wedding gift before the wedding.

If you received any tangible gifts off of your registry before the wedding then did you wait until after the wedding to use them?

Michy Posted: Oct 26, 2006 09:29 PM

Re: If you receive a check as a gift before the wedding, can you cash it before the wedding?

I would probably wait till after the wedding and then send them a thank you with everyone elses.

Toots123 Posted: Oct 26, 2006 10:31 PM

Re: If you receive a check as a gift before the wedding, can you cash it before the wedding?

I know the answer!

You are supposed to cash it now - provided that you send a thank you card just before you cash it or around the same day. Don't wait for your regular picture Thank You cards. You can also send a picture Thank you if you want but it's not necesssary.

I read this somewhere but I cannot recall exactly where right now.

The reason - when people send you a gift, they're actually giving you the gift at the moment that they send it...no strings attached.

MattandTricia07 Posted: Oct 26, 2006 10:48 PM

Re: If you receive a check as a gift before the wedding, can you cash it before the wedding?

Posted by STBMrsDaniRella

i would cash it now-- if they were so cagey about when their check was to be cashed then they would have sent it so that it would arrive on the wedding day or just before/after.

i'm sure they would pretty much expect you to cash it when you get it.

I completely agree