If your SO was not the 'marrying type'

If your SO was not the 'marrying type'

If your SO was great and you are totally in love, but he sees no reason to get married, would you stick around or run?

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I'd probably run or move on...Why would I waste my time with someone who doesn't want to commit the realtionship to marriage?
That's just my opinion.

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a have friends that are like this...they are sticking around. they are in noooo rush and thinks its fine just now... they been together 7 yrs

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Well, is he not the 'marrying type' because he doesn't believe in the institution of marriage or because he doesn't want to commit?

If it was the former, yeah I'd stay, I can rationally see his argument.

If it was the latter, I'd hit the bricks.


P.S. Until I met FH I wasn't really the 'marrying type' because I didn't put much stock in the institution.

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Funny part is that before he met me, my DH was NOT the marrying type ... had many long term relationships before we met, but had never come close to marriage

With us the subject only came up becuse HE actually brought it up first -- BUT said that meeting me was the first time he'd actually felt as though marraige was indeed something for him - (took meeting the right girl I guess )

BUT if had gone the other way - and it turned out that he wasn't looking for marriage with me either down the road - well I do believe eventually I would have been forced to end it and move on

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Posted by MonkeyLuv

Well, is he not the 'marrying type' because he doesn't believe in the institution of marriage or because he doesn't want to commit?

If it was the former, yeah I'd stay, I can rationally see his argument.

If it was the latter, I'd hit the bricks.


P.S. Until I met FH I wasn't really the 'marrying type' because I didn't put much stock in the institution.

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Liz, before you met Mr. Boots you were in high school and all rebellious

I would move on. I'm a firm believer in knowing when it's right. It shouldn't ever be difficult to see someone that you want to see, it shouldn't be difficult to be with someone you want to be with...If someone didn't want to commit to me, I'm not going to waste my time.

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I never thought I was a person who cared about that 'piece of paper' as long as the commitment was there. I can understand someone having reservations about the institution, or even dismissing it altogether. Plus, I think in some states benefits are extended to common law spouses.

Of course, now that I have that piece of paper, I'm pretty happy about it.

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I used to be that person... I never considered marriage because I simply don't (or, should I say, didn't) believe in the institution of marriage, and had serious doubts that humans are really meant to be with one person for the rest of their lives... didn't mean I had committment issues - I had two very serious, long-term relationships before DH. But, one day after meeting DH I was telling everyone I knew I was going to marry him, and I did, about a year later... my mom has a good friend who lived with a man like that for about 20 years. One day he woke up, broke up with her, and 4 months later he married someone else... makes you think!

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If marriage was my priority, Id leave. This EXACT situ is happening to a friend of mone. Theyve been together for 4 yrs and he finally told this wkd that he loves her but doesnt think he ever wants to get married. So shes leaving

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It may be hard, but since I AM the 'marrying type' I would want that for myself in a partner- it would be important to me and i dont believe it is just a piece of paper...SO, hard as it may be I would NOT stick around

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One of the things that really attracted me to DH was the fact that he wanted marriage and children and was very serious about finding someone and being a good husband. I gravitated to him more because I had been in so many crap relationships but wanted to find someone to share my life with. The fact that we were seeking the same things was a big catalyst in moving the relationship along. That, and the fact that we were perfect for each other.

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Mine wasnt, I waited around for a good 5 years but it was worth the wait.