I'm a bit upset!! But I think is not fair.....

EmiNoa628 Posted: Jan 06, 2009 03:11 PM

I'm a bit upset!! But I think is not fair.....

Well.. On Saturday my sister and I browsing the internet for wedding stuff both recieved an email from my FG mother, which is my cousin, sending everyone an email stating she is having a small wedding ceremony the weekend following my wedding on July 4th!!!

I love her because she is sooo sweet and funny, but she has known my wedding is 6/28 and now her wedding is 7/4!!!

Although my wedding is a big Ceremony and RH Party, I feel a a little upset because she should of planned it for another time... My sister told me it wouldn't matter becuase noone will win my shine!! But still!! I didn't say anything but CONGRATULATIONS!!!

I'm I wrong for feeling like this!!???

EmiNoa628 Posted: Jan 06, 2009 03:19 PM

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Anyone!! I guess everyone is busy with the drama of the day!!

FutureMrsM Posted: Jan 06, 2009 03:20 PM

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I don't blame you, the least she could have done, not only for your benefit, but for her own, was to wait like 3 weeks or so... A lot of people coming to your wedding probably won't even make it to her wedding since it's the following weekend...

evewedsjc Posted: Jan 06, 2009 03:20 PM

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noooo ur not...

it's natural...but at least it's not a HUGE wedding and people should honestly have consideration when it comes to things like this...but they just accuse ous of being bridezillas...

littlepixie12 Posted: Jan 06, 2009 03:21 PM

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well at least she isnt having a big RH party.. are you going to go or will you be on your HM?

gina409 Posted: Jan 06, 2009 03:22 PM

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nono no u have every right to feel this way..i think that is really bad timin no matter how small the wedding is..and if she really could not have had it anyohter time she should have at least told u in person not through email to see how u felt..im sorry but just remember urs is first and it will be amazing

coldasice217 Posted: Jan 06, 2009 03:23 PM

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I don't blame you at all, a distant cousin of FH is getting married the week before us, but in another state, and it irks me only because a lot of our OOT probably won't come to ours now and the NY-ers are all going to get invited and I'm concerned they're going to make the trip for hers and not want to come to ours the following week.

EmiNoa628 Posted: Jan 06, 2009 03:24 PM

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Posted by evewedsjc

noooo ur not...

it's natural...but at least it's not a HUGE wedding and people should honestly have consideration when it comes to things like this...but they just accuse ous of being bridezillas...

I know... I was a bridezilla two months ago.. Not anymore!! J/K

EmiNoa628 Posted: Jan 06, 2009 03:26 PM

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Posted by littlepixie12

well at least she isnt having a big RH party.. are you going to go or will you be on your HM?

She replied to my email... Once I congratulated her... 'Well you probably won't go since you'll be on your HM'... I said ' You Think!!'

I love to kill ppl with my sarcastic remarks!!

EmiNoa628 Posted: Jan 06, 2009 03:30 PM

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Posted by gina409

nono no u have every right to feel this way..i think that is really bad timin no matter how small the wedding is..and if she really could not have had it anyohter time she should have at least told u in person not through email to see how u felt..im sorry but just remember urs is first and it will be amazing

Gina .. Thanks... I know everyone will go to my wedding because everyone is expecting my wedding day to come... I kindda feel bad for my cousin becuase she can't afford a big wedding like mine.. But I've been helping her with some decisions ever since I found out..

Cacarina Posted: Jan 06, 2009 03:31 PM

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Um, I'd be a little upset, especially if I were going away on my honeymoon! She probably should have talked to you about it first, but like I always say...you don't own the date, so I guess you just have to go with the flow.

EmiNoa628 Posted: Jan 06, 2009 03:33 PM

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Posted by coldasice217

I don't blame you at all, a distant cousin of FH is getting married the week before us, but in another state, and it irks me only because a lot of our OOT probably won't come to ours now and the NY-ers are all going to get invited and I'm concerned they're going to make the trip for hers and not want to come to ours the following week.

Don't you just hate ppl's nerves!! Luckily everyone knows I'm doing my wedding in NY because my entire family is there.. If not I woudld of done it in ATL and it would of been 95% more cheaper than NY...

FutureMrsG Posted: Jan 06, 2009 03:35 PM

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I would be a little upset BUT like you said you will be on your honeymoon. I think I would be more upset knowing she planned her wedding knowing you would not be there.

EmiNoa628 Posted: Jan 06, 2009 03:36 PM

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Posted by Cacarina

Um, I'd be a little upset, especially if I were going away on my honeymoon! She probably should have talked to you about it first, but like I always say...you don't own the date, so I guess you just have to go with the flow.

Yeah Cacarina... I don't own the date but the least she should have done was let me know... In reality I'm not stressing it because I'm doing my wedding plans and helping her out with hers.. I'm confident mine will be SPECTACULAR!!!

EmiNoa628 Posted: Jan 06, 2009 03:38 PM

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Posted by FutureMrsG

I would be a little upset BUT like you said you will be on your honeymoon. I think I would be more upset knowing she planned her wedding knowing you would not be there.

I think she is just doing it becuase its convenient on a long weekend!! But I'm content I'll be on my HM enjoying my Husband by then!!

meara Posted: Jan 06, 2009 03:41 PM

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Well I would be a little upset but more upset if it was first. .. esp since your's is a bigger event and all. . if anything she will be under your shadow. . but it does sound like you're being a good sport

AugustBridein09 Posted: Jan 06, 2009 11:25 PM

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I have a friend from grade school who made her wedding 7/19, mine is 8/1 and when I told her I might be away on my bachelorette party in Vegas or AC she got a huge attitude abt how I was missing her wedding.....then I find out from mutual friends that she picked the day and said 'This way since I got engaged before Natalie, I'll get married before her'. And when I told her I couldn't make it b/c it was too close to mine...she told her mother and her mother (a woman I've known since I was 12) said 'Oh well, who does Natalie think she is, she doesn't own the summer!' At first I was angry but then I thought 'Wow I must be pretty important for her to put so much thought into little ol' me'

I've learned that people, when it comes to wedding planning just get CRAZY.....your story seems a lot less malicious than mine...and maybe b/c hers will be very small and after your big wedding, she didn't think it would be such a big deal. But I agree it is a little unfair of her.

hope this helps

missjones2007 Posted: Jan 07, 2009 12:36 AM

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i understand youre upset but no least of strssing over something you cant control.....you and her wedding will be totally different from each others...i wouldnt worry about and focus on your wedding cause overall your day will be special!

Mrs. Bernabe Posted: Jan 07, 2009 01:40 AM

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don't feel bad, she will probably have less guests and your day is your day her wedding nor anyone's will take that away from you. I would have been upset if it was the weekend before. Maybe she chose July 4th due to her finances, being that halls will offer lower price on such date. Don't worry...enjoy planning and you will shine very bright. Just don't share your ideas