Well.. On Saturday my sister and I browsing the internet for wedding stuff both recieved an email from my FG mother, which is my cousin, sending everyone an email stating she is having a small wedding ceremony the weekend following my wedding on July 4th!!!
I love her because she is sooo sweet and funny, but she has known my wedding is 6/28 and now her wedding is 7/4!!!
Although my wedding is a big Ceremony and RH Party, I feel a a little upset because she should of planned it for another time... My sister told me it wouldn't matter becuase noone will win my shine!! But still!! I didn't say anything but CONGRATULATIONS!!!
I'm I wrong for feeling like this!!???
Suzanner
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I would completely feel the same way. I mean, a week? She couldn't at least plan it for a few weeks away?
I definitely think you handled it the right way, though. What can you say except congratulations?
It would be a totally different story if she were having the usual big wedding- THEN I'd freak. That's a lot for family to do in two weeks. A small party- I don't think it should be so bad.
And frankly, I bet most people there will be talking about what a great time they had last week at YOUR wedding!!!
Good luck!
JennyAPH
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I would feel the same way you are.. but she probably didn't even realize what she was doing. She probably figured it was the best time being a holiday weekend and all. I am sorry tho, that stinks. At least its a small thing.
MrsDrinkh20
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I totally understand. My sister is getting remarried and is having a destination wedding a month after hours. I know I don't own the summer but I feel frustrated about it too! hang in there!
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its okay to feel a little upset about it BUT your cousin can get married whenever she wants - people shouldn't have to plan their life around your wedding - that is something you always have to keep in mind.....no matter who gets married before or after you, your wedding will still be special
Future Mrs Roo
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I'd be pissed off. I know that OUR wedding seems like most importanat thing to us and all, but dang at least give me a month to shine!
ChrissyV729
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It's not bad to be upset but.. when the wedding is done I don't think it is going to bother you. It would have been different if she said that the wedding was the week before... than I would have said KILL HER... j/k !
JamieAnt06202009
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I don't blame you at all. I would be really upset too. FH's cousin in Italy is getting married on the same day as us, so we are losing a few people. The cousin had no idea when we were getting married so we really can't get mad. But your FG's mother knew so that's a whole different story.
flairforfashion
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I never understand why people plan weddings so close to others. It's not fair ESP when family does it. Well, your Sister is right- no one will steal your thunder!
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Sorry newlywed crashing
my cousin did the same thing to me. He got married on 12/19/08 my wedding was 12/20/08!!! He got his gf pregnant and she is due this month and they wanted to get married before the baby so they decided the day before mine. Although they did a justice of the peace it was kinda ballsy on their part. I mean he has only known the girl for 4 months before she was pregnant and they are 20 and 21 and well I was kinda upset they decided to do it the day before my wedding and NO ONE said anything. They didn't even invite my dad to the dinner that nihgt because they knew it was the day before my wedding and he would be busy. But it is still his nephew.
I don't know i got over it quickly because I was so excited about my wedding day and how great it was going to be. And let me tell you....everyone had such a great time at my wedding, aunts and uncles still talking about it. I am so glad to know everyone had a great time, so their justice of the peace wedding the day before mine didn't bother me at ALL!!!
Good Luck but remember your day will be perfect and amazing and don't let anything upset you and make it less than perfect. Plus you are marrying the man you love!!!
Jayla127
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JMO!! ! I understand how you may feel but your cousin shouldn't have to work around your schedule. People get married when they want and maybe that day was convenient to her. Maybe she figured since everyone will be around it would be good to kill 2 birds with one stone. It doesn't matter if your cousins wedding is big or small the main thing is that she's getting married to whom she loves.
