im bummed...

I won't slap you...but I will give you a hug

It su/cks...but in the end it will all be all right, you have a FH and family that loves you, and I'm sure they're doing everything that they can possibly do for you. And whenever you're feeling down, us girls are here for you!

Ok i'm not going to slap you because i kinda know how you feel. But just hang in there. Everything will get better closer to your wedding. No one on my side went into action before this month started. it was like pulling teeth sometimes. Just be patient. You are NOT being selfish you are just being human. You are a blushing bride and justs wants the support and recognition that you deserve. There's nothing selfish about that.

Aw that must be really hard.

Awwww hun Im really sorry
Dont get yourself down....I did everything mostly with my FH and not my girls bc I felt that he should be part of everything for the wedding. I dont want you to be upset about missing out on the girly things bc you are surrounded by people who really do love you and care about you. Like Ali said, we are all here for you

I know what you mean. My entire BP lives other states, including my sister, who lives all the way in Colorado. When she got married, I lived 6 hours away but I was super involved but she's not really into wedding stuff so I don't even have her. I do have my mom but sometimes it's just not the same as having your girls around to help you. We should have a support group for 'orphaned' brides.

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Posted by gina409

sorry to be a downer but im just having a bad day..i keep reading posts about what girls moms did for them(and thats great)but since my mom had a stroke she cant really do much(see the rh,going dress shopping)and my sisters and brother all have kids and my bm is planning her own wedding 3 weeks after mine and i just kinda feel like nothing is comin easy..i just kind feel like everything is a project to do its just not simple like lets go do this its always something like fina a babysitter,whos going to be with my mom and since i dont drive i cant go alone..i know i have fh but i feel like im missing all the stuff girls do together..i dont know i feel so selfish for even writing this but im just feeling sorry 4 myself..excuse the post and someone slap me

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Gina, I love you, honey. Mary

Awwww sweetie! Im sorry your feeling down Just always remember that you have us girls to talk to and vent to about anything. Sorry about your mom. How long ago did she have the stroke?

thanks girls,realy from my heart i feel better and aww mary i love u too!

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Posted by GT143EA

Awwww sweetie! Im sorry your feeling down Just always remember that you have us girls to talk to and vent to about anything. Sorry about your mom. How long ago did she have the stroke?

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next month will be 3 years..i mean im so thankful cause she can speak and walk slowly with a cane but things r just not the same and will never be so when all the planning came around it just stinks not to have her with me when i go do things

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Posted by gina409

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Posted by GT143EA

Awwww sweetie! Im sorry your feeling down Just always remember that you have us girls to talk to and vent to about anything. Sorry about your mom. How long ago did she have the stroke?

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next month will be 3 years..i mean im so thankful cause she can speak and walk slowly with a cane but things r just not the same and will never be so when all the planning came around it just stinks not to have her with me when i go do things

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Im so sorry Gina.

ha ha ha poor Gina!

Well I am surprised to see you don't drive. because I DONT DRIVE EITHER!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ha ha ha! I failed my road test in 1998 and never re took it! ha ha ha ha ha ha! it's a ***** to get certain things done! ggrrrr... i even have a wedding trial next sat and no way to get there yet! ill have to ***** myself around toget me a ride out there! ha ha ha!

I am so sorry.. I can't imagine how difficult it is for you. While I am not going through the same thing, I kind of know how you feel. My mom and I are super close and she is the one person I would want around to help me plan. Unfortunately she just can't be there like I want her to. Since my stepdad is very ill, she is with him all the time and she can't come with me when I go to appointments, trials, etc...Sometimes I feel selfish thinking this way but, I just wish things were back to the way they used to be (when we were all healthy and happy).

I know it is not the same, but we are all here to offer you support and advice! and if you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to FM me and I will try to help in any way I can!

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Posted by NikkiR515

I am so sorry.. I can't imagine how difficult it is for you. While I am not going through the same thing, I kind of know how you feel. My mom and I are super close and she is the one person I would want around to help me plan. Unfortunately she just can't be there like I want her to. Since my stepdad is very ill, she is with him all the time and she can't come with me when I go to appointments, trials, etc...Sometimes I feel selfish thinking this way but, I just wish things were back to the way they used to be (when we were all healthy and happy).

I know it is not the same, but we are all here to offer you support and advice! and if you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to FM me and I will try to help in any way I can!

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thank so much and its the same cause i know just how u feel..i would give anything in this whole wide world to go back to how it use to be

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Posted by gina409

thought i was the only one..lol i dont know i was alwasy just scared i mean i know how to drive but when i get behind the wheel im scared

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I am petrified of driving! I never took the road test but I took the permit and 5 hour class twice. My resolution is to pass the test but that has been my resolution for the past 8 years so we will see if I actually go through with it!

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Posted by gina409

thought i was the only one..lol i dont know i was alwasy just scared i mean i know how to drive but when i get behind the wheel im scared

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Ha ha ha.. I flinch a lot and therefore would be a bad driver imo. i feel like if something was coming at me i would just close my eyes and throw my hands in the air and shake them while giving the girliest of screams! and then i would crash and get hurt or die.... so in that case i think its best for everyone. but when we move upstate ill drive... it wont be soooo crowded on the roads like it is here.

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Posted by donnasmom09

Gina, is there anything your Mom can participate in? Mary MOB

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well she can walk slowly with a cane and we have the wheel chair but she hates going in it..she def has a complex about people seeing her in it which we have been tring to get her out of for years..its kinda like if its in front of her shell give her opnion but she gets so frustrated cause sometimes its hard to get her thoughts out n she can get confused so i think she sits back..which just kills me cause i want her opnion more than anyones

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Posted by gina409

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Posted by donnasmom09

Gina, is there anything your Mom can participate in? Mary MOB

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well she can walk slowly with a cane and we have the wheel chair but she hates going in it..she def has a complex about people seeing her in it which we have been tring to get her out of for years..its kinda like if its in front of her shell give her opnion but she gets so frustrated cause sometimes its hard to get her thoughts out n she can get confused so i think she sits back..which just kills me cause i want her opnion more than anyones

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Ok, hon, I'm going to pray about that!!!!! Give Mother a hug for me!!!!!!!! Mary MOB