Because I feel like I dont include FH in the (my, our) wedding planning. He has no say in anything. But he wants to help me with vendors etc. He was soo cute yesterday he told me lets go look at limos he would never say that , lol.
Does anyone else feel this way? Does your FH or do you have the say in the wedd planning?
Browneyesncute
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My FH has to have a say in everything! lol at first it bothered me but now i love it! we decided everything together! it can get frustrating lol but in the end it works!
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i say both...i talk to FH about all our decisions...i do all the research and then i'll show him but he always ends up liking it too so it works out lol...He has his own ideas about certain things and i make sure to incorporate it. If he knows its something I LOVE he wont tell me not to do it, and if i know its something he LOVES i wont tell him no
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Because I feel like I dont include FH in the (my, our) wedding planning. He has no say in anything. But he wants to help me with vendors etc. He was soo cute yesterday he told me lets go look at limos he would never say that , lol.
Does anyone else feel this way? Does your FH or do you have the say in the wedd planning?
nah, FH is up in my Ish bc he thinks im going to spend 10k on flowers and so he's there 100% of the way
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he tells me to make all the appointments and that he will go. which he has to all so far. Then when we get there he takes over and does all the talking!!! So he teases me now and says he has been doing all the planning himself.
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Because I feel like I dont include FH in the (my, our) wedding planning. He has no say in anything. But he wants to help me with vendors etc. He was soo cute yesterday he told me lets go look at limos he would never say that , lol.
Does anyone else feel this way? Does your FH or do you have the say in the wedd planning?
i am constantly saying 'my wedding' instead of 'our wedding' b/c i feel like i have done about 80% of the actual calling ppl, buying things and thinking of different personal touches myself... but FH DOES do a lot - he is the only in charge of booking the honeymoon & he offers to go with me to vendor meetings (all of them except the florist lol)
so i'd say that i def do more than he does, but what i do is more like little personal touches and different DIY projects that i know he wouldnt want to be invovled with anyways - thats why we have BMs right?!?
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I involved my FH in the areas he's interested, and spare him from the stuff he finds mind numbingly boring. In the beginning I wanted to include him in everything, but quickly learned (when his eyes glazed over as we looked through hundreds of Save the Dates) that he really was only interested in giving input on certain things. He is the 'project lead' on the DJ and honeymoon, and leaves the rest to me. I always tell him he's welcome to get involved, and always give him final approval power on the big decisions, but I leave most of the legwork to me and my mom. We both seem happy with that plan. :)
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he tells me to make all the appointments and that he will go. which he has to all so far. Then when we get there he takes over and does all the talking!!! So he teases me now and says he has been doing all the planning himself.
OMG thats what Fh does, he left me in charge of finding vendors bc he saw what i liked and trusted my decisions...so he'll just say ok make the appointment and we'll go...whenever we go to appointments he talks the most and takes over, i love it bc i get to sit back and relax with some of the planning.
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I make most of the decisions, but not until I show FH what I doing and make sure he likes it. He tells me what he likes and doesn't like. We like the same things, so it's pretty easy.
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we've actually done all the planning together. i do most of the research, then when i've narrowed it down to certain places, we both choose from there. the only thing he said wants no part of is the flowers, but even there he has his opinions. i always tell him this is our wedding, not my wedding.
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I always run things by FH....He trusts my decisions and I am the oganized one so he mostly just lets me go with it. If he doens't like something- he absolutely tells me though. We did set a day aside in a few weeks to really focus on wedding stuff that I want him to see/ help with. Sometimes you need to do that to 'catch each other up', I think.
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FH really wanted to be involved from day one, so we have booked everything except for the florist together. It makes me feel good that he is so involved.
Future Mulligan
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dont worry - some guys arent into wedding planning that much anyway!
on the other hand my FH is very into wedding planning - luckily we have the same taste and agree on just about everything - we have been doing everything together and so far it has been a lot of fun....FH and I actually wish that he could come dress shopping/veil shopping/shoe shopping with me
AS
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I def tell him before I book a vendor, and I tell him my ideas etc but we dont share each others ideas.
kristi313
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i constantly get 'Whatever you want' 'It's great' meanwhile he never even looked at what i'm showing him it's really starting to annoy me i'm just gonna send him an invitation to the wedding with a post-it on the fridge telling him what to wear
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FH is involved in EVERYTHING. Mostly b/c hes paying for it all, so he wants to see where all his hard earned money is going lol Plus hes the best negiotiator ever, so I love having him there.
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Because I feel like I dont include FH in the (my, our) wedding planning. He has no say in anything. But he wants to help me with vendors etc. He was soo cute yesterday he told me lets go look at limos he would never say that , lol.
Does anyone else feel this way? Does your FH or do you have the say in the wedd planning?
nah, FH is up in my Ish bc he thinks im going to spend 10k on flowers and so he's there 100% of the way
That is why I dont want him there when I finalize everything becI know he would say no to my expensive ideas/taste , lol and thats why I feel bad no to involve him. He DID though pick out our flowers but Im adding to them
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Because I feel like I dont include FH in the (my, our) wedding planning. He has no say in anything. But he wants to help me with vendors etc. He was soo cute yesterday he told me lets go look at limos he would never say that , lol.
Does anyone else feel this way? Does your FH or do you have the say in the wedd planning?
i am constantly saying 'my wedding' instead of 'our wedding' b/c i feel like i have done about 80% of the actual calling ppl, buying things and thinking of different personal touches myself... but FH DOES do a lot - he is the only in charge of booking the honeymoon & he offers to go with me to vendor meetings (all of them except the florist lol)
so i'd say that i def do more than he does, but what i do is more like little personal touches and different DIY projects that i know he wouldnt want to be invovled with anyways - thats why we have BMs right?!?
FH will def be the one to book our HM, he is really good at that so he can knock himself out. He always plans our trips.
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i constantly get 'Whatever you want' 'It's great' meanwhile he never even looked at what i'm showing him it's really starting to annoy me i'm just gonna send him an invitation to the wedding with a post-it on the fridge telling him what to wear
Yeah i get that too. 'Whatever you want and get will be great'. OK so Im not the only one , lol
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FH will def be the one to book our HM, he is really good at that so he can knock himself out. He always plans our trips.
