Because I feel like I dont include FH in the (my, our) wedding planning. He has no say in anything. But he wants to help me with vendors etc. He was soo cute yesterday he told me lets go look at limos he would never say that , lol.
Does anyone else feel this way? Does your FH or do you have the say in the wedd planning?
Future Mulligan
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FH is involved in EVERYTHING. Mostly b/c hes paying for it all, so he wants to see where all his hard earned money is going lol Plus hes the best negiotiator ever, so I love having him there.
LOL same here!!
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FH has specific things for the wedding he is doing and doesnt involve me...
He said he is booking the honeymoon and he wants me to BUTT out big time., and other things...
he said do what u want with flowers, music, whatever.....lol he doesnt care
Sugaplum08
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FH is involved with everything. Much more then i though he would be. He surprised me when he made appointments for some vendors. We are pretty much agreeing on everything SO FAR! We still have a year to go. :
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We have been doing everything together. Except for my dress of course.
He is really into music so he will give more input then me but we will do it together.
He ultimately always says though 'what ever you want babe, what ever will make you happy'
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He has been pretty good with it actually.....i'm doing all the crappy stuff like making all the calls for everything....he just comes for appointments lol
AS
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Good to hear some girls do the certain wedd stuff on their own. I guess we have diff thoughts and ideas towards the wedd , bec we are the brides! There are some things that FH cares about and others he doenst. Like STD's, he was like what is that? lolol . He knows I have good taste and whatever I pick wil do just fine, he just has good taste on other things. I will def let him pick out his suit bec he is good in that dept
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I'm actually shock about how much my FH has been involved. We are alike so decisions haven't been too hard!
jennandrolo
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fh could care less...he just dishes out the $$ lol. he did go to vendor appts with me, all except dj. he loves them all though. he does throw his opinion in there as much as he can.
catsgirl
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i basically did everything myself, fh did go and help pick the cake, of all things the cake.
futuremrsfab
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yea, i totally feel you on this one- sometimes I forget to ask him about things- but honestly there are only a couple things he really had interest in- honeymoon, limos, and he is in charge of those areas- apparently everything else i am in charge of lol
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yea, i totally feel you on this one- sometimes I forget to ask him about things- but honestly there are only a couple things he really had interest in- honeymoon, limos, and he is in charge of those areas- apparently everything else i am in charge of lol
Yeah that sound like FH and I. Thanks!!! I feel better now
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FH tries to play it off like he doesnt care.... but he is involved.... we discuss every single decision... so it has been a joint effort. I do a lot of the research, he just comes in at the very end....
It is pretty funny b/c i always said I want burnt orange dress, and then the other day i saw a cinnamon dress and now i am thinking of doing that color.... FH gets all upset b/c he was really liking the burnt orange idea, and looking forward to having the guys wear vests/ties that color too!!!!
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FH wants to do stuff but wont put any effort into it.
He wants to help choose a limo, cake etc but wont call any vendors, wont think of any questions while we're there. he wont even sign the contracts or checks for the deposit!!!
i'm like uhhh.....are you a part of this?
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we are both involved and I think he really likes all the planning i actually suprise myself and ask him for his opinion for a lot of things even with the flowers
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i say both...i talk to FH about all our decisions...i do all the research and then i'll show him but he always ends up liking it too so it works out lol...He has his own ideas about certain things and i make sure to incorporate it. If he knows its something I LOVE he wont tell me not to do it, and if i know its something he LOVES i wont tell him no
Perfectly said...totally agree.
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FH wants to do stuff but wont put any effort into it.
He wants to help choose a limo, cake etc but wont call any vendors, wont think of any questions while we're there. he wont even sign the contracts or checks for the deposit!!!
i'm like uhhh.....are you a part of this?
That is totally my FH. And then if I choose something he isn't happy about he gets all upset about being left out - I'm like you have to HELP if you want to be involved!
ChristineAaron08
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My FH goes either way depending on his mod.
Sometimes he will say 'oh- what wedding stuff do we have to do next'
other times he says- 'its your desision- how much will is cost'
I never feel guilty b/c I run everything by him first..not that he really has a say.lol
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steve said he wanted to help...but i ended up checking everything out then he would go to see what i liked...now he wants to be involved more..invite wording, picking invites, stuff like that. he made our menus and STDs so he does do some stuff but 99% of it was all me
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i constantly get 'Whatever you want' 'It's great' meanwhile he never even looked at what i'm showing him it's really starting to annoy me i'm just gonna send him an invitation to the wedding with a post-it on the fridge telling him what to wear
this is my life. He could care less about anything. the one thing he does is calm me down when i start to stress which luckily isn't that often. And he asks me 'so what do I owe you and by when?' Otherwise, he's not involved at all and could care less. You girls are lucky that your FH's are inot it. not sure which way is better. I NEVER book or do anything without asking him first though and telling him the cost. So far we picked the RH together and that's it.
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My FH is involved in the planning. RH, DJ, Limos, Hotel, HM those are the big ones that he researched, called and completely helped on.
As for flowers, photographer and all the other extras I will narrow it down and take him with me for final decisions. I run things that I like by him and most of the time he says 'whatever you want' and the same with his ideas. He lets me know waht he thinks he wants and usually the requests are so simple I could never say no.
