I'm going on a double date on Friday' and other things that have been going on.... long

I'm going on a double date on Friday' and other things that have been going on.... long

My longtime friend is trying to play matchmaker. Actually it is her and her husband- both whom I have known forever. Chris has this friend who had a similar situation- wife wanted to party (she was a long beach local like my husband- is it something in the water?) didnt want kids anymore etc. so the were divorced. This guy is a teacher in Garden City, he lives in Long Beach (go figure)and owns a house and my friend said hes really cute and has a great personality. He is originally from California, not a local. :)
So I agreed to go out with them for dinner on Friday. Chris told this guys about me and my situation and he wants to meet me. I figure what the he!!. I am a little nervous. So is my friend.

Yankee guys turned out to be a real jerk. He just never called. All of the sudden, just stopped. No warning signs or anything. He is a MEAN JERK!!! :) Im over it....

My husband is still trying his hardest to prove himself and work things out. He supposedly is going to counseling twice a week, hes been calling me and asking me to meet for lunch, nothing more just to talk..... I agreed to go out with him Saturday afternoon to talk and possible bring some closure/see if I have any feelings for him. I honestly feel that it is over but I need to talk and have everything out inthe open so he knows how I feel about everything- We havent had that yet. So thats been on my mind. He bought me a Xmas gift too and left it at my door. A Fortunoff Silver locket and the Seinfeld DVDs because he knows that is my favorite.
Believe me, I am going into that situation strong and level headed. I am not going to be persuaded by his charm and his talk. I fell for that one too many times.

My ex (the one before my husband) has been calling me more since he found out I was separated. He dropped off a xmas gift and a bottle of wine. I dont have any feelings for him but I dont mind keeeping in touch as friends. And he knows how I feel. He is actually going back to Iraq in a few weeks (hes a marine/nassau cop).

So 2005 is starting off with the a bang!!!!!

Plus I have Vegas in a few weeks. I think I have enough drama to keep me going...

Re: I'm going on a double date on Friday' and other things that have been going on.... long

Try to enjoy the date as just that ... A DATE.

You have been unbelievable strong where your husband has been concerned, so all I can say is kudos and keep it up.


And just keep thinking about what a BLAST you will have in Vega$!!!

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I'm glad you're feeling better Kristi!!

First off...good luck on the double date..if anything, it's someone in the same boat that you can compare war stories with. It'll be good to know you're not alone in this situation!!

AS for the Ex husband to be.....I've been in that boat too when I was back in college. I'm the kind to believe people don't change...and if he does for now, you'll always be afraid of him falling off the wagon in the future. It's a trust issue that was breached.....

You're such a smart and beautiful woman! You got the world in front of you and I hope you get everything you deserve!!!

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Good for you. you are young and need to move on. It seems you already suffered enough from reading your other posts. Besides don't worry about that guy not calling you, he is definitely not worth it and you are too good for him.

Re: I'm going on a double date on Friday' and other things that have been going on.... long

just enjoy yourself on your date(s) this weekend, and have a BLAST in Vegas girl!!!!

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have fun friday! maybe this guy will turn out to be a good fried, since your situations are so similar.

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Have a good time darling!! I know 2005 will be your year!

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Re: I'm going on a double date on Friday' and other things that have been going on.... long

Kristi,

Go out and have fun with your friends and their friend. If you guys hit it off- adopt the attitude that he is just some random guy to hang out with until something better comes along OR he proves to you otherwise.

With your ex-hear him out but don't let any underlying feelings overwhelm you to forget about what he has put you through. If you are going to work it out, then you will but don't force it- proceed with extreme caution.

With your ex-boyfriend, hang out and say good-bye to him since he is going to Iraq but just as friends that is a can of worms I don't think emotionally that you want to touch right now.



Enjoy your dinner!!! Runyons?

Re: I'm going on a double date on Friday' and other things that have been going on.... long

Have a great time Kristi. You deserve the best!

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Wow what a week you are having. Enjoy yourself and open up to all the possibilities Friday night holds. Hope Saturday brings the closure you need.

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I hope Friday is a wonderful evening for you

Re: I'm going on a double date on Friday' and other things that have been going on.... long

Glad you are keeping busy. Good luck to you!

Re: I'm going on a double date on Friday' and other things that have been going on.... long

What wonderful news!
It's nice to hear that you have support from the friends in your real life, as well as on LIW . I kind of figured that someone as wonderful as you would surround herself with special people .
Enjoy yourself!
Keep us posted! (as always)

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I am so excited for you!!!! You are not only gorgeous..but very sweet..and you deserve to have men all around you..go to dinners, get gifts..its your time to see what you want..and Im so happy for you!

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I cant wait to hear about your date!!! I hope it goes well..and I said it before..you deserve to be showered with love!!!!

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Have a great time on Friday and enjoy Vegas!!!

Re: I'm going on a double date on Friday' and other things that have been going on.... long

Good for you enjoy and take one step at a time on your own terms.

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Re: I'm going on a double date on Friday' and other things that have been going on.... long

I don;t know, Kristi. To be honest, if your husband really is trying hard to remake himself for you, after all the time you spent together and your MARRIAGE, don't you think he deserves a chance if he really is trying? If he isn't, thenof course you have your answer, but if he IS trying, then maybe you need to give him time to prove himself, and cooling off on the dating may be a aprt of that. If you really believe your marriage is over, then tell your husand that and by all means date whomever you want. It just seems like either there are other issues with him that you're not sharing with us that made you feel like you marriage was over practically when it started, or you really seem to be rushing into this dating thing. I just hope you're not escaping something, because you may end up in a worse situation. yankee guy turned out to be a classic case and more and more pain for you that you didn't need. If you're accepting gifts from DH and you're meeting with him, but you're also dating other people, it's sort of mixed signals. And you only married him less thana year ago, I doubt it's about seeing if feelings are still there. you have to be onest with yourself. Of course you still have feelings for him, how could you not. The questions is whether he's really 100% trying to remake himself for you, because if someone is willing to go through all of that for you, then that shows a lot of love and commitment. Also, accepting gifts and meeting with your ex is proably another mistake. I don't know about you, but whenever an exof mine wants to be frineds and is giving me gifts, etc, even if he SAYS he understands how I feel, he is usually in it for something else. Don't let him or any other guy take advantage of your vu;nerable situation, and take the time to decide what you want in regards to your husband. That situation really deserves your full attention and YOUR happiness deserves your full attention and sometimes dating creates more distractions. I know none of us here on LIW know the entire story, but the pieces you're giving don't add up, and it seems like you haven't decided what you want, and you need to decide.I don't mean to be a b!tch, I'm just trying to give a different perspective.