Im going to kill him!!!!!!

Can you believe that HE has not picked his best man yet! We are getting married in June! He also may add a girl cousin to my bridal party! I already ordered the dresses and the color may be off, never mind that, he can't make up his mind for the honeymoon! I want to get a divorce!(OK maybe not!) But AHHHHH First his sister was argueing with him and wanted to back out with my two flower girls, thank God after allot of work I got them to make up, working from his side mostly. Then all this crap, planning a wedding is no work its the people that are involved that kill me. I wanted a couple of other guys in my wedding party and he refused but I am giveing him no friction for my girls! What can I do to make him move already, I've tried everything! HELP!!!!!!!

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Posted by dukies1

Can you believe that HE has not picked his best man yet! We are getting married in June! He also may add a girl cousin to my bridal party! I already ordered the dresses and the color may be off, never mind that, he can't make up his mind for the honeymoon! I want to get a divorce!(OK maybe not!) But AHHHHH First his sister was argueing with him and wanted to back out with my two flower girls, thank God after allot of work I got them to make up, working from his side mostly. Then all this crap, planning a wedding is no work its the people that are involved that kill me. I wanted a couple of other guys in my wedding party and he refused but I am giveing him no friction for my girls! What can I do to make him move already, I've tried everything! HELP!!!!!!!

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UM....you're getting married a day before me..and my FH hasn't asked ANYONE in his party yet..including a Best Man...I feel your pain!!!!

aww - so sorry hon! I feel your pain - FH just asked his a week ago - he's known for months, but kept on having excuses for not asking them

Do what I did - give him a deadline, and threaten to do it for him.

Worked for me

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Posted by dukies1

Really? I feel much better now, but, don't you want to kill him?

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I want to kill him, and hes being soooo mean, he's like every time you ask me, it's adding a day on to when I ask them, cause he knows it bothers me and he finds it funny that I'm worried about these things...I would threaten him, but he knows I wouldn't do it...I would never ask his friends to do it for him...I couldn't...

Sorry to hear that he's being difficult. I think the best thing for you to do is to just finalize your girls. Let him worry about the guys. Don't add anyone he wants unless you want to or if he comprimises. Tell him he can have the girls he wants if you can have the guys you want or he's out of luck.

And stick to the rule. No more girls after the dresses are ordered!!! Good luck.

You know, if it wasn't for the pic I would think it's the same person! They just don't fell the same about things like we do. They seem like they don't care. I tried everything you did, but you know he does this with everything in our lives and I'm just going to have to get use to it! Good luck with everything. I hope we get a great weekend! Thank you for all your help!!!!!

Ask? I HAD TO ASK FOR HIM! UGH! I seriously can't wait for all this to be over. I picked his best man, his groomsmen, his Jr. Best men, OK so they're all his brothers but he wouldn't decide since he 'wanted them all to be my Best Men' so I picked.
Be patient and give him a deadline...explain to him that things need to be done by a certain time because orders need to go in, etc. Don't they know how much planning goes into these things? And about adding a girl when he hasn't picked a BM, yeah, I can't help you there. Remind him you have the girls, how about he get the guys?

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Posted by SomethingBlu

Ask? I HAD TO ASK FOR HIM! UGH!

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Cowards.

My future husband is still unsure of the guys as well. I wish he would make up his mind already.

I had to remind him for 6 months - he finally did it at New Years. Some Men get embarrased at these things. I find the more you nag verbally, the longer it takes and the more resistant they become....

These are my secret tactics for getting him to do anything (and he is actually INTO the wedding panning, he just needs a little prodding...) I think you need to know how your man works and get him that way.

I drop pleasant verbal reminders 'Oh! did you remember to pick those things up? Okay. could you do it tomorrow please?'

I send emails while he is at work (Mine actually contain dates and bullet points!) I ask him to then just suck the email onto his palm so he has it - no excuses.

I put a typed list on the fridge of what both of us are supposed to be doing. i highlight and change things often.

I reward him when he has done something good.

so far, I have been incredibly successful!

I should write a book!

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Posted by dukies1

Can you believe that HE has not picked his best man yet! We are getting married in June! He also may add a girl cousin to my bridal party! I already ordered the dresses and the color may be off, never mind that, he can't make up his mind for the honeymoon! I want to get a divorce!(OK maybe not!) But AHHHHH First his sister was argueing with him and wanted to back out with my two flower girls, thank God after allot of work I got them to make up, working from his side mostly. Then all this crap, planning a wedding is no work its the people that are involved that kill me. I wanted a couple of other guys in my wedding party and he refused but I am giveing him no friction for my girls! What can I do to make him move already, I've tried everything! HELP!!!!!!!

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my FH and had the same argument for months - he finally asked his groomsmen last month! it's really hard not to say anthing but that might be the best way to get him to do it - my FH is so stuborn and whenever I brought it up I think he purposely waited longer. he had one guy left to ask and i just couldn't stand that he didn't ask him yet, so when we were all together, i said 'ken, didn't you want to ask bob something?' he wasn't too happy w/ me, but at least it's done.

I thought I was the only one! Phew! FH only asked a handful of his GM to actually be in the wedding (and that's because I asked them at our EP)

I'm just going by what I want now LOL- I ask him his opinion and we have really similar taste so usually we see eye to eye. He doesn't have time to devote to wedding planning- I do. I'm fine with that now. It's better to enjoy yourself with your mom and BMs than to drag him along and argue.

I thought FH already asked his brother to be the best man, so when I asked his brother, 'Do you know what your duties are as best man?' He was like--'BEST MAN?? REALLY??' OOOPSS!!!
As for the rest of the men, he only asked one of my cousin's because I literally pushed him in front of my cousin and said, 'Here's your chance--now go and ask!' He says he'll ask his friends as the wedding gets closer. I said, 'OK, but if you don't--I won't!! We'll save money on gifts and at the rehearsal dinner, and I'm sure my cousin and your brother wouldn't mind being surrounded by six beautiful women!!!' ahaha