So FMIL finally got her dress. FH tells me about it and says that it is DARK purple. My bridesmaids are wearing a darker violet, which he and FMIL both knew, but since he said dark I figured 'OK, they should be far enough apart that it will be OK.' Well, this is the dress she's wearing in the exact color it will be. The second pic is my bridesmaids dresses in their exact color. Am I nuts for flipping out on him because they are way too close to each other?? Please be honest. Im not looking for people to take my side, I just want to know what other people will be thinking when they see this.
IMO...it wouldn't bother me at all. I think they are far enough apart. Were you afraid that people will think she's part of the bridal party?
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I think it's fine. the color is far enough apart that it's ok. My mom is wearing brown and my colors are brown rust and Ivory. MY BM's will be in Euro Cinnamon (deep rust) with ivory sash. Mom will be in chocolate brown FMIL is thinking of wearing gold...FG in Ivory w/ chocolate or rust. It actually winds up looking nice, actually and I think yours will look nice as well. don't be mad...alot of parents think they are SUPPOSED to match your wedding colors.
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lonal
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1st off, I love the bm dresses! 2nd, I think they are different enough that it's fine.
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the colors ate totally different it wouldnt bother me
actually my girls dress has a dark brown sash and my fmil is looking for a dress in that color
bensgirl
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i think they are both beautiful and are actually two different colors....i don't think anybody will think twice about it....they'll just think all the dresses are gorgeous :)
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THat is a gorgeous gown your FMIL picked out, my mom tried that gown on and its really stunning.
I didnt really make any requests as far as colors for the MOG and MOB. However i did ask them that whoever picks their color first to tell me, so my mom and FMIL arent in teh same color gown.
My girls are wearing eggplant, and my mom tried on a gown in eggplant. And she agreed she did not want to be in the same exact color as the BM's
Looking at the pics you posted, they are similar but they are not the same at all. THe gown your FMIL picked out is very fancy with lace and beadwork and is a darker color purple than your BM gowns.
I actually think that they will compliment eachother very very well.
HTH
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Well, this is the dress she's wearing in the exact color it will be. The second pic is my bridesmaids dresses in their exact color.
If the color of each dress in the pics is the color of the actual dress they are wearing then I think they will be fine.
They are in the same family but different shades. They should compliment each other. If they are going to be the same color as each other then I would have an issue.
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IMO both dresses are gorgeous and compliment each other nicely. it would not bother me.
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Those dresses look nothing alike to me other than they're in the same color family. They're definitely far apart in color and style. I don't think you need to worry.
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Posted by Lten10
I honestly think they are quite different and look great together.
HONEST!!!
me too actually!
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I think the colors are far enough apart that it won't look like she's part of the bridal party or anything BUTTTTTT I completely understand why it would bother you. I asked my FMIL and mom to please try to look for any color other than green (bc BM's are wearing that) and nothing too light bc my dress. And they were both great about it. But my Mom's aunt (my great aunt) bought a dress in celadon green...lol
I was a little annoyed at first but then I realized it wasn't worth saying anything. However, in your situation, I think if it's bothering you this much, I would talk to your FMIL and ask her nicely to see if there are any other colors in this dress that she liked. Explain that you love the dress but the color is a little too close to your BM's. Blame it on the fact you want HER to stand out and shine.
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I wouldn't be mad about it.......my mom wants to wear white. as long as she is happy!
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i think they are pleanty far apart. and will look fine no one will even notice..then again i encouraged my FMIL and my mom to get the same colors as the bridal party... the girls are wearing Hot pink and black.. my mom got a black gown and FMIL is wearing Ice pink... i like that they will all go!
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I think they will compliment each other beautifully! No worries
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IMO...it wouldn't bother me at all. I think they are far enough apart. Were you afraid that people will think she's part of the bridal party?
I wasn't afraid that people would think that but I just always thought that the bridal party should be the only ones in the color family.
But now if my mom goes and gets say a navy colored dress (thats one of her possibilities) is she now going to look stupid because she won't cooridinate witht the BP but FH mom does?
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I see what you are saying, they ARE in the same color family! But i don't think i would be pissed. What color is your mom wearing?
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i think the color is very different. i wouldnt worry about it...
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I wouldn't be mad about it.......my mom wants to wear white. as long as she is happy!
That is very sweet of you and I give you tons of credit. I love my mom to death but I'd cry if she asked to wear white. I am normally not the kind that wants to be the center of attention or anything but on my wedding day, I want to be the only one in white! Does that make me sound selfish or rude?
