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I'm P*SSED!!!!!

MaureenM618 Posted:

I'm P*SSED!!!!!

Okay, I'm p*ssed right now..
My FH's cousin proposed to his girl on Labor Day weekend. They are pretty close cousins. We don't care for his girlfriend and there has been a few incidents with her. Anyways, they just said today that they are going to get married about 3 weeks after us and probably at the place FH and I would have loved to get married, Larkfield Manor A lot of guests are going to be the same because it's family. I feel like everything we do, they have to go one up on us and throw it in our faces!! I feel like it's always a competition. We are paying for this whole thing pretty much by ourselves. We can't afford an all out affair, we have to stick to our budget. Their parents will probably foot the bill for the whole thing and I'm sure they will pull out all the bells and whistles to make our wedding look like crap. My FH asked why they are having it so close to ours and he said that his girlfriend wanted it then. I know she's probably doing this just to be spiteful!! My FH mentioned that we might be on our honeymoon, we plan to wait a little bit after the wedding. His cousin's like you won't be on your honeymoon 3 weeks after your wedding. He also mentioned that his cousin was supposed to be in our wedding and now he probably won't be because he'll be too busy and financially unable due to his wedding right after ours. His cousin didn't say anything!! Also I asked his cousin a few weeks ago when he was thinking of getting married and he said they weren't sure but that they definately didn't want to have it near ours
bluegreen08 Posted:

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Posted by MaureenM618

Okay, I'm p*ssed right now..
My FH's cousin proposed to his girl on Labor Day weekend. They are pretty close cousins. We don't care for his girlfriend and there has been a few incidents with her. Anyways, they just said today that they are going to get married about 3 weeks after us and probably at the place FH and I would have loved to get married, Larkfield Manor A lot of guests are going to be the same because it's family. I feel like everything we do, they have to go one up on us and throw it in our faces!! I feel like it's always a competition. We are paying for this whole thing pretty much by ourselves. We can't afford an all out affair, we have to stick to our budget. Their parents will probably foot the bill for the whole thing and I'm sure they will pull out all the bells and whistles to make our wedding look like crap. My FH asked why they are having it so close to ours and he said that his girlfriend wanted it then. I know she's probably doing this just to be spiteful!! My FH mentioned that we might be on our honeymoon, we plan to wait a little bit after the wedding. His cousin's like you won't be on your honeymoon 3 weeks after your wedding. He also mentioned that his cousin was supposed to be in our wedding and now he probably won't be because he'll be too busy and financially unable due to his wedding right after ours. His cousin didn't say anything!! Also I asked his cousin a few weeks ago when he was thinking of getting married and he said they weren't sure but that they definately didn't want to have it near ours


That suucks. I'd be pisssed too. In the end though they will be two separate events with different people. FH's college roommate proposed to his fiance a few weeks after we got engaged. They are getting married 2 weeks before us. Yes, a tiny part of me wishes it wasn't so close to our wedding and that it was after ours (we started dating a few months before them and got engaged right before them too) but they are good friends of ours and we know they didn't pick the date for spite. They wanted to get married in June but early Aug was the only time the church was available.

In the end they will be 2 separate affairs with very different guest lists (and in our case in different parts of the country) -- as long as they aren't doing it for spite it should be OK...

Edit: since FH is very close to his cousin maybe he can talk it over with him and mention how he originally said they didnt want to get married around the same time as you, and how important it is for him to be in your wedding, etc and vice versa. Maybe they can switch the date ?
FalNBill Posted:

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Im so sorry..... that s ucks! I know a few people who make me feel like they always have to 'one-up' me so to say and it's a horrible feeling...
Just remember your wedding day will be perfect for you.. it's not a competition & if they have nothing better to do than try and 'out-do' you... then thats pretty sad...Your wedding will be beautiful and specail because it's your wedding & your guests should see will see it that way. I know right now your really upset... but try to relax and know that no other wedding is going to make yours look like 'crap'
MaureenM618 Posted:

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LOL, I guess this may be my first Bridezilla moment....

Thanks for trying to cheer me up.

Wow, 2 weeks before yours...I would go bonkers if they have their wedding 2 weeks before ours!

I wouldn't mind so much if it wasn't family. A majority of the guests will be the same. Plus all the scheduling conflicts of bridal showers and bachelorette parties, etc...
ilonka020 Posted:

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they suck. i hate people who alway smake everything a competition. It does seam like they are trying to outdo you guys. But dont worry you wedding will be first and the guests are going to have a great time. Just ignore them and do your thing.

xBrunette Posted:

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dont pay attention to it... do your thing like it doesn't even matter...

kabo0831 Posted:

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wow that does stink, Why would she go ahead and book the same room and a couple of weeks after you. What a B*T*h. Im sorry that you are going through this right now.

hunnie23 Posted:

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you know wats funny about your situation? i used to thnk that i was the only one in the world that went through issues like that with my family. But after being on this site, i have come to realize that no matter how different we think we are, families are all the same.
panjay Posted:

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That *****. I would be pissed too.

bluegreen08 Posted:

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Posted by MaureenM618

LOL, I guess this may be my first Bridezilla moment....

Thanks for trying to cheer me up.

Wow, 2 weeks before yours...I would go bonkers if they have their wedding 2 weeks before ours!

I wouldn't mind so much if it wasn't family. A majority of the guests will be the same. Plus all the scheduling conflicts of bridal showers and bachelorette parties, etc...


I sent you FM.
mdawg Posted:

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maureen, you are so right about being pissed... however, the girls are right by saying that your wedding will be special, regardless of when her wedding is. So what if they're trying to 'one up' you... it doesnt mean they'll succeed, and the only person that will notice anything will be her... and for the record, let's say that your family doesnt want to spend too much money... guess who their going to spend it on... YOU... your wedding is first, just make sure you send out the invitations first. :)

I know that if I was in a family where two of my cousins were getting married extremely close together, I would find out who booked first. Wedding gifts are expensive... ya know? lol...i guess thats just the cheap jew in me talking, but its how i feel.
missjones2007 Posted:

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yea that does suck!

meli722 Posted:

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wow that does suck.....does this girl even like you or FH? maybe shes doing it on purpose out of spite since her boyfriend said they wont be doing it close to yours....its just one of those things you really cant do anything about.
FH has a friend whos mostly likely looking for an 09 weding as well, andthe girls family has $$$ and will def. foot the whole bill for everything and i already know will be more $ then mine, and most likely a lot nicer because her family has the $, but nothing i can do about it, just have to go and show up and throw my wedding the way i want. you cant really worry about other people all the time, as long as you have fun at your wedding, and dont go over your budget for other people, just do what youre comfortable with.
JKFris09 Posted:

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Wow.....
Well first let me say that Leonards is a beautiful place so dont even for a second feel like it's not going to be nice enough.
Second we're actually going through something similar with someone in FH's family. He hasn't proposed to his girlfriend yet but he plans to in the near future and plans to have the wedding about two months before ours. FH talked to him but it doesnt look like anything is going to change.
So all i can tell you is just focus on your wedding and enjoy every second of it. It's the people that make the wedding not the flowers or the linens - I say get a kick a$$ DJ or band and live it up like there's no tomorrow! In the end it wont matter as long as you enjoyed your wedding.
little34 Posted:

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I feel your pain...that is awful....I guess just try to really focus on your day because between you and FH nobody will top that day for you. Make your wedding as much about you and FH and don't worry about them. I know it is ALOT easier said then done...but you don't want to ruin your day because they are being showy..... could FH talk to his cousin about how wrong they are being??

jgl Posted:

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Im sorry but just because you are getting married doesnt mean that others cant get married close to your date. They are their own people. ALthough He is your FHs cousin, you dont know what situations are going on, on her side of the family.

I dont think you should be upset. Its 3 weeks later.

We have friends getting married 2 weeks before us and 4 weeks before us. In fact they had theirs set before us .. my concern was not when their wedding date was... it was when I wanted mine!

beleebuton Posted:

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after dh and i got engaged, two of my cousins, his cousin and his brother got engaged, and they all wanted to get married at the same time as us as well. I was really pissed also. Many people gave me their opinions; some agreed with being annoyed and some thought I was being selfish. Every girl wants their wedding to be the greatest wedding ever, and although I was annoyed that every other couple was getting married before or after me, in the end, my wedding was all I ever dreamed it would be and no one else's wedding could change that, no matter how close it was in time to mine. So, don't worry, whethe rit is done out of spite or not, your wedding is your wedding; enjoy it while it lasts because it will fly by!!!!
MrsDtoBe09 Posted:

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That really *****. Don't dwell on it though - your wedding will be the best because it's your special day! Leonards is so great - people are going to be talking about your wedding LONG after their wedding is over, don't worry!

Ann 52409 Posted:

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i know how upset you are but, try to focus on the meaning of the day and how wonderful it will be, dont let anyone try to get you down and ruin your shine. That really ***** but, like somebody said before dont ruin your budget because this girl wants a competition with you.

Tori9299 Posted:

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OMG I would be p**** 2. Just focus on your wedding let them do what they gotta do. At least you know you and your FH were able to do it with or without financial help from anyone. Your wedding will be even more beautiful just for that reason.

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