im starting to hate my bridal party

peaches42587 Posted: Jul 15, 2009 09:10 AM

im starting to hate my bridal party

I have two bridesmaids and a MOH. MOH is my cousin and shes really starting to piss me off. over the past few weeks i would joke around saying 'get ready, cause ur gonna be stuffing envelopes with me all night' and yadda yadda yadda. and my aunt and her would laugh and be like 'yea right do it yourself its ur wedding'.
non of my bridesmaids want to help out and blame it on my wedding being so far away. But ive done everything without anyones help and its pissing me off.

BUT THIS IS WHAT REALLY THREW ME OVER THE EDGE! I was suppose to go to the bridal showcase at cheatu briand tonight wtih my MOH and Aunt (which they kept talking about and claimed they were excited to come with me) and then this morning she calls to tell me she's going to see harry potter instead and that's more important. ***!?

No one is excited for this wedding. No one! not even FH. he sits on his *** and does nothing when it comes to wedding stuff. I can't take this !!

SORRY FOR THE LONG VENT!!

MarjorieFrank Posted: Jul 15, 2009 09:16 AM

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So sorry. I have kicked someone out of my bridal party already because she couldn't care less. People su ck.

MrsCastanedain09 Posted: Jul 15, 2009 09:18 AM

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It's probably because it's still over a year away....that's probably how they see it. Don't take it to heart, I'm sure they will get excited when it's closer.

jcreilly Posted: Jul 15, 2009 09:31 AM

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IM sorry !!

Iluvpoodles Posted: Jul 15, 2009 09:40 AM

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Sorry. Don't expect much and you won't be disappointed.

peaches42587 Posted: Jul 15, 2009 09:43 AM

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Posted by Iluvpoodles

Sorry. Don't expect much and you won't be disappointed.

haha yup thats my new philosophy. Im very disappointed in my family and Fh's family. His dad wore jeans and a t-shirt to our engagement party even though we told everyone it was at a fancy restaurant and to dress nice.
No body cares we're getting married. this *****!

AngnShaun Posted: Jul 15, 2009 09:46 AM

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that totally ***** that no one is into it for you... but I dont think its that they arent excited for you!

im the opposite... no one will let me plan this sucker on my own... everyone is mad that im not calling them with every single detail...

Tori2082 Posted: Jul 15, 2009 09:51 AM

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Sorry to hear about the situation You must feel disappointed and sad because they aren't being supportive and excited about the wedding. I would see how things go before you make changes to your bridal party - you still have over a year till the wedding. I would definitely tell them how you feel. Maybe if you give them the chance to change, they will.

BellaBride27 Posted: Jul 15, 2009 10:12 AM

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People suck and are so rude! Sorry you have to deal with this..you don't deserve it and shouldn't have to

las1 Posted: Jul 15, 2009 10:21 AM

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I am so sorry. I understand I have planned most of my wedding by myself. My FH is just starting to help.

Iluvpoodles Posted: Jul 15, 2009 10:27 AM

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Posted by peaches42587

Posted by Iluvpoodles

Sorry. Don't expect much and you won't be disappointed.

haha yup thats my new philosophy. Im very disappointed in my family and Fh's family. His dad wore jeans and a t-shirt to our engagement party even though we told everyone it was at a fancy restaurant and to dress nice.
No body cares we're getting married. this *****!

lol..The saying is true though. You can't change people, only the way you react to them. One of my mom's friends showed up in jeans and t-shirt at my engagement party and the FIL's, don't even get me started on them. They do what THEY want. Don't let them get to you..please.

NewYorker09 Posted: Jul 15, 2009 10:32 AM

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I guess I really don't expect much from my BP but my FH is also really into the planning so I just do everything with him. I'm sorry that you're not getting any help though, that s*cks! And it's one thing to not be overly helpful and another to tell you they'll be somewhere and decide to go see a movie instead? That's insanely RUDE and I would really have to say something to her. I hope you get more help! Just make sure you're actually asking for it because people aren't mind readers (but I'm sure you are asking from what you said). Good luck!

Edited to add : I am not complaining here about my BP because I haven't actually asked anything of them yet! I think they would be willing to help if I did, but I also realize they have very busy lives of their own.

asg450 Posted: Jul 15, 2009 10:49 AM

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OMG, she's choosing Harry Potter over going to the showcase. I love Harry Potter, but if my cousin asked me to go with her to a bridal showcase, I would go.

We've all felt this way before. Sometimes feel like no one really cares about the wedding besides me and FH. Sometimes FH doesn't really show interest either and that gets to me.

Soon2bShea Posted: Jul 15, 2009 11:38 AM

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I'm sorry that su cks! Maybe you need to have a little chit chat with your MOH

Panamasweet Posted: Jul 15, 2009 11:40 AM

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I thought it was just me in this sad situation. I truley feel like no one in the world cares about this wedding. I also get the 'its so far away' bit but what people dont understand is that we are paying this this ourselves which is the reason we set the date so far away. I am still excited about the planning and about getting married no matter what the date. FH was suppose to go with me tonight to the CB showcase also but he tells me last night that he will stay home and I can go alone.....ALONE!!!! WHAT!!!!. I barley speak to my bridal party which is also very small. I bet you if things were reversed and they were getting married they would want to talk about wedding stuff all of the time.

I SAY WHATEVER!!!!!

peaches42587 Posted: Jul 15, 2009 11:44 AM

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Im just all PMSY and so frustrated today!! lol it's like theres more then one movie today y cant u go to a early movie and then come with me at night..or go after..its just stupid. Ill be the grumpy girl at the showcase tonite lol.

Its bad enough i dont have either of my parents around during the wedding planning process, but FH's family thinks we should elope (everyone in his fam is divorced and no1 cares that we're getting married) theyre all anti weddings. and its just me planning this thing and FH doesnt know how hard it is to plan a wedding. he'll come to meet with vendors but wont say a thing . haha i do all the talking and am like okay lets book. then when we get home hes all 'y did you book blah blah blah' and im all 'y didnt u say something then' lol i fee like we're a married couple already arguuing about everything. haha

peaches42587 Posted: Jul 15, 2009 11:44 AM

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BTW Newyork09 I am soo jealous you are getting married at oheka castle. my dream place !!!!!!

peaches42587 Posted: Jul 15, 2009 11:49 AM

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Posted by charondita

I thought it was just me in this sad situation. I truley feel like no one in the world cares about this wedding. I also get the 'its so far away' bit but what people dont understand is that we are paying this this ourselves which is the reason we set the date so far away. I am still excited about the planning and about getting married no matter what the date. FH was suppose to go with me tonight to the CB showcase also but he tells me last night that he will stay home and I can go alone.....ALONE!!!! WHAT!!!!. I barley speak to my bridal party which is also very small. I bet you if things were reversed and they were getting married they would want to talk about wedding stuff all of the time.

I SAY WHATEVER!!!!!

Exactly!! Im the first of my bridal party to get married and the first in the family to get married out of t he kids.

I should have picked a different bridal party because my one good friend is more then willing to do anything for me when it comes to the wedding and even declares herself the 'offical helper when i have to pee in this giant dress girl', yet she's not even a bridesmaid.

Do you think I shoudl ask her to be a bridesmaid?

deeva007 Posted: Jul 15, 2009 11:56 AM

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We all go through moments where we feel like no one cares about our weddings... the truth is everyone cares, but just not as much as we do!

But thats why we have eachother.. sometimes strangers get more excited than close friends., but its because they are going through the same stuff as we are, whereas our close friends, family are in different places.. either single and into different things or married with families and have other priorities.

At the end of the day, I hope that all the people close to you pull through- -I agree with the other posts, with your wedding so far away they probably just dont feel as much excitment right now, hopefully they will as it gets closer!

And you always have us.

marinai7 Posted: Jul 15, 2009 12:10 PM

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Awww, I'm so sorry. I feel bad that they are acting like this. Hope you're still coming to the bridal showcase, some of the girls from here will be there. Hope they turn around.