I'm Upset today!!! UPDATE: FI and I worked it out.

shellnroc Posted: Mar 09, 2005 11:43 AM

I'm Upset today!!! UPDATE: FI and I worked it out.

My FI and I have been fighting ALOT lately over our wedding. Well we had a long talk about everything and he thinks we should push our wedding up to Sept or Oct of 2006 instead of having it in June of 06. He thinks it will give us a little more time to save and he just likes Oct better (wish I would of new this before we booked our date). I'm just so upset I have been so stressed and have been crying and crying. It seems so long away and I feel like I'm not getting any younger. I even ordered my gown already. He told me to think about it. I just need some support I figured where else to go than here.
Thanks, Michelle

UPDATE:
I just wanted to update this post because FI and I talked and worked everything out. Our date is not changing Now I can go on to planning with a clear head. I feel much better. Again I would like to say thank you all for your support.

FormerlyKnownAsQ Posted: Mar 09, 2005 11:48 AM

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i am so sorry you are so upset. if you do push back the wedding to october it still wouldn't be that far away from your original wedding date. the months would pass by so fast.

newnybride2be Posted: Mar 09, 2005 11:56 AM

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Aww Im sorry you are feeling bad. Just think, if you do push it back, maybe it would take away some of the strain, especially on the relationship, and you guys wont be fighting. Remember this wedding is to celebrate the relationship adn what good is a wedding if you guys are always fighting, especially if thats the reason for your fights. I think maybe you should just think about it and discuss how you feel. Hope everything works out.

LMFitz Posted: Mar 09, 2005 12:03 PM

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Sorry for the stress.....I was in a very similar situation when we got engaged over a year ago. I really wanted to get married in Sept. '05, but FI insisted that we wait - and since we both wanted a summer wedding, it meant waiting until May of '06. His reasons were money too - and in hindsight, I'm glad that we opted for '06. I just feel like I have options, since I have so much time. When you think about it, it's only a few months. You're talking about the rest of your life, together as a married couple. If it makes life easier to wait a few months, then maybe it's worth it.

Just my opinion ....Good luck with your choices!

kissy27 Posted: Mar 09, 2005 12:16 PM

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I am so sorry you are experiencing this!! I do not know your financial status but if FH & You are paying for this, if it easier to get the $$, it might be a good thing to push it up! This way you can have everything that you want & can still afford it!!!

September or October is only 3-4 months after your original date...It really isn't too much longer...It all depends on your $$ status...If you can do everything by June, then stick with your original date...I would think FH is saying this to you bc he forsees some difficulties with the funds...Remember, we are here for you!

beautyq115 Posted: Mar 09, 2005 12:20 PM

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I know how stressful this is...I mean I was posting last week that it is all over But its not. Its a big deal and a huge expense!!

We are all here for you!!

cantwait2bewed Posted: Mar 09, 2005 12:59 PM

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I am so sorry to hear this. Me and my FI have been arguing soooooooooo much lately as well. I have been really stressed out over the wedding and such. I dont know how i would react to what he said to you about pushing back the wedding. I would be very upset if I was in your shoes. MY FI has told me if we keep arguing there will be no wedding. I got to get my act together. I think you should just give him time and wait to see what his opinions are in a few months. However, a few more months is not going to hurt that much atleast he didnt say 2007.

laborday06 Posted: Mar 09, 2005 01:27 PM

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Don't be upset. It would be worse to get married without the two of you feeling 100% confindent about your date.

Positives
- If you book in Oct. you may even save yourself some $$$ per person or be able to upgrade you package for the same amount.
- More time to save money
- More time to look around at vendors for good pricing without pressure
- More time to plan your most perfect wedding
- It's not that far away from June
- You'll have all summer to work on your tan
- 3-4 extra months to get good ideas from other LIW brides

It really could be a good thing. Plus if you meet him on this request...he'll owe you one in the future.

Good Luck and don't be upset!

coxmandi Posted: Mar 09, 2005 01:44 PM

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I'm sorry!!!

I try to make sure that FH and I do things that aren't wedding related and where we specifically don't talk about the wedding. That has really eased a lot of fights.

While a couple of months to push the wedding back might seem like a long time, it might be worth the wait. If you do push it back maybe you and FH could go away for that night or the weekend that your wedding was supposed to be.

Kerrycec Posted: Mar 09, 2005 01:45 PM

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I would seriously consider changing. Remember, its both of yours days. Plus, its not pushing it too far back

leese Posted: Mar 09, 2005 01:47 PM

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I'm so sorry. Planning weddings are verrrry difficult and stressful. Unless someone else is picking up the bill!

I've been bickering a lot with FH too... and I know how you feel - let's just get it over with and I don't want to wait a minute longer!

I don't think moving it wll be that bad, but maybe you can think of things to cut back on? I keep thinking how I need to suck it up and do something less for flowers...and other stuff like that. Maybe not doing favors, etc.

We are here for you!!! Happy Thoughts!

JP&EP Posted: Mar 09, 2005 01:54 PM

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I'm very sorry you are upset. Like a few of the ladies alreay said. If changing the date to Oct. relieves a lot of the strain you've both been under I think it is well worth it. Why don't you call your hall and find out what dates they have open in Oct. 2006 just to get an idea.

Good luck with everything.

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Mar 09, 2005 03:25 PM

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Its only a few more months, and if it makes your FH feel better about things, it might be worth it. How does it make YOU feel?

Shorty McBride Posted: Mar 09, 2005 03:29 PM

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Moving it back a few months isn't so bad. Maybe you'll even get a better deal on the hall (or some extras) for moving it to a later month!

shellnroc Posted: Mar 09, 2005 03:30 PM

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Thank you all so much for your thoughts. I sometimes feel I never have anyone to talk to about all this wedding stress. I am so very happy I have all of you.

CC59 Posted: Mar 09, 2005 05:57 PM

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nypdgirl Posted: Mar 09, 2005 06:10 PM

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Posted by shellnroc

My FI and I have been fighting ALOT lately over our wedding. Well we had a long talk about everything and he thinks we should push our wedding up to Sept or Oct of 2006 instead of having it in June of 06. He thinks it will give us a little more time to save and he just likes Oct better (wish I would of new this before we booked our date). I'm just so upset I have been so stressed and have been crying and crying. It seems so long away and I feel like I'm not getting any younger. I even ordered my gown already. He told me to think about it. I just need some support I figured where else to go than here.
Thanks, Michelle

Sorry your upset.....But if you think about it it's not bad @ all to push up the date a bit. I mean i was suppose to get married this oct 05 & we have $$$$ probs so we had to wait until 06...But we were soo better off cuz it gives us more time to pay off things & more time to plan & make things the way we want them...... CHEER UP GIRLFRIEND it will be fine.......I am almost poss they wont give u guys a hard time about moving the wedding date.........Good luck!!

gNi1125 Posted: Mar 09, 2005 06:57 PM

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I know all this stress piles up and can seem overbearing at at times. Personally, I'd prob cut back somewhere and get married when I originally wanted. But that's just me. Ultimately, it's what's important to you and FH. If you both decide to push it back a couple months there are a lot of pros...including cheaper prices and more time to plan. Wishing you all the best.