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Original post by Yankees2323

APPARENTLY NO ONE IS UNDERSTAND WHAT I WANTED HELP WITH SO 4GET THIS POST

Yankees2323 Posted:

Re: In ShoCk!!!

Posted by MrsLarrea2B

Apparantly none of our family members had heard of one, and therefore NOBODY with the exception of Fh's mom, 3 aunts and uncles and our bridal party gave us anything. The worse part is that his grandmother even told us... don't expect any gifts from us b.c we don't give gifts for those things.... I told her I didnt need her gifts and to enjoy her free meal that FH and I paid for.


i can careless about the gifts but i guess im living in a bubble expecting that everyone knew what a e party is... i dunno... whatever i think im gonna have one anyway
wifetobe Posted:

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Posted by krislee316

IMO I feel like an engagement party is another way to get gifts or money so we did not have one I think its a little much to have a Eparty, shower, and wedding ! its one more gift people have to give


Ditto!!!
MrsLarrea2B Posted:

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Posted by italianp7

i understand all that and maybe im being a bridezilla? but im not expecting anything from anyone but his parents not getting us a lil something is nutz especially since WE ARE PAYING 4 THE PARTY N THROWING IT FOR OURSELFS... after my mom congratulated us she was like omg what do u guys want for a gift and i was like mom no u dnt have to get us anything but its like the fact that she wanted to u know... i guess im acting bridezillaish lol....



I completely understand where you are coming from. Fh and I went through this (see post above). We weren't expecting anything, but it did bother us that his fam made it clear they weren't giving us anything. I thought that was a little unecessary, especially given the fact that we didnt even register for gifts. But in the end we had a nice time. It wasnt about the gifts it was about bringing our crazy families together.
Yankees2323 Posted:

Re: In ShoCk!!!

Posted by MrsLarrea2B

Posted by italianp7

i understand all that and maybe im being a bridezilla? but im not expecting anything from anyone but his parents not getting us a lil something is nutz especially since WE ARE PAYING 4 THE PARTY N THROWING IT FOR OURSELFS... after my mom congratulated us she was like omg what do u guys want for a gift and i was like mom no u dnt have to get us anything but its like the fact that she wanted to u know... i guess im acting bridezillaish lol....



I completely understand where you are coming from. Fh and I went through this (see post above). We weren't expecting anything, but it did bother us that his fam made it clear they weren't giving us anything. I thought that was a little unecessary, especially given the fact that we didnt even register for gifts. But in the end we had a nice time. It wasnt about the gifts it was about bringing our crazy families together.


atleast someone understands where im cmming from lol...
thanks
SeaMaiden Posted:

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i had never heard of an engagement party before LIW. We did not receive any gifts other than at my shower and i would be embarrassed to expect anything more than that.

it sounds like it would be nice to get the family together to celebrate an engagement but i would not expect gifts. i don't understand why people are supposed to give more.
What Posted:

Re: In ShoCk!!!

Posted by italianp7

Posted by What

Yeah, I had to step out of the bubble I live in to attend a few e-parties...

my family just don't do them & I just don't get them.

unless of course it's like a small bbq in a back yard/ small dinner with close family type thing... these EXTRAVAGANT ones in reception halls with flowers, registries, seating charts, DJs... pretty much everything you would have at a WEDDING, to me.. is greedy. IMO of course.

sorry if this offends anyone

While I would never attend a party without bringing a gift, I just think that a lot of people don't understand the need for an e party when a big wedding is following.

I have no advice to give you to help increase your chances of receiving a gift, sorry.




i dont need your advice on 'recieving a gift' because this is NOT what the post was about!!


I'm sorry I just responded to what I read:
him nor his family have ever heard of a e-party and dont be suprised if his family doesnt give us a gift,,, and they just think its a party...

***??? someone pls help me lol

ok, so you want help with what then...?

helping them understand that it is an engagement party?

umm even if they thought it was just a party wouldnt they bring a gift?



oh you're right.. totally not about gifts
jennarose023 Posted:

Re: In ShoCk!!!

FH and I didn't want to have one, we felt it was unnecessary, but his parents insisted on doing it. it was great and we had a nice time but i can understand why people are against them.

Yankees2323 Posted:

Re: In ShoCk!!!

Posted by What

Posted by italianp7

Posted by What

Yeah, I had to step out of the bubble I live in to attend a few e-parties...

my family just don't do them & I just don't get them.

unless of course it's like a small bbq in a back yard/ small dinner with close family type thing... these EXTRAVAGANT ones in reception halls with flowers, registries, seating charts, DJs... pretty much everything you would have at a WEDDING, to me.. is greedy. IMO of course.

sorry if this offends anyone

While I would never attend a party without bringing a gift, I just think that a lot of people don't understand the need for an e party when a big wedding is following.

I have no advice to give you to help increase your chances of receiving a gift, sorry.




i dont need your advice on 'recieving a gift' because this is NOT what the post was about!!


I'm sorry I just responded to what I read:
him nor his family have ever heard of a e-party and dont be suprised if his family doesnt give us a gift,,, and they just think its a party...

***??? someone pls help me lol

ok, so you want help with what then...?

helping them understand that it is an engagement party?

umm even if they thought it was just a party wouldnt they bring a gift?



oh you're right.. totally not about gifts


totally wasnt it was about how him n his fam never heard of the e party!!!!
jonsgirl04 Posted:

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I have been to engagement partys lots of times. I guess its pretty common for my Large Italian Family. My family loves partys. I feel like we celebrate everything!! LOL. Everything is Big in our family. Birthdays, 1st birthdays, christenings. My family is nuts! Be we all have a great time, and there is always a DJ. LOL. We Did have the engagement party. We had one because we looked at it as our familys meeting and getting to know eachother and to celebrate. It didnt matter if we got gifts or not. It was a blast. We did not expect anything from any guests, but my family being very generous gave cash. Me and DH were shocked and so grateful to them all, and could not believe the amount we made. We took the money and used it for our Down Payment on the Reception hall. I will always be thankful to them.
Yankees2323 Posted:

Re: In ShoCk!!!

its 2 yrs ahead of the wedding its not a party its a dinner at a nice classy resturant and thats it!!! sorry that i didnt make my self clear enough for someone but its not about gifts its about the fact that he would throw that in there and i want one since our families havent met yet im not having it at a giant hall or anything im having a nice small dinner e party!!

MJDoc12 Posted:

Re: In ShoCk!!!

Posted by italianp7

totally wasnt it was about how him n his fam never heard of the e party!!!!


i have to say--reading what you wrote--it sounded more like you were concerned with the idea that they won't know to bring you a gift not that they hadn't heard of an eparty. maybe you didn't mean for it to come across like that--but if someone who doesn't know you at all reads that post, it seems to be more about how you are worried about not getting a gift from them and want advice on how to get them to understand that its an e-party and they should bring one.

What Posted:

Re: In ShoCk!!!

Posted by italianp7

Posted by What

Posted by italianp7

Posted by What

Yeah, I had to step out of the bubble I live in to attend a few e-parties...

my family just don't do them & I just don't get them.

unless of course it's like a small bbq in a back yard/ small dinner with close family type thing... these EXTRAVAGANT ones in reception halls with flowers, registries, seating charts, DJs... pretty much everything you would have at a WEDDING, to me.. is greedy. IMO of course.

sorry if this offends anyone

While I would never attend a party without bringing a gift, I just think that a lot of people don't understand the need for an e party when a big wedding is following.

I have no advice to give you to help increase your chances of receiving a gift, sorry.




i dont need your advice on 'recieving a gift' because this is NOT what the post was about!!


I'm sorry I just responded to what I read:
him nor his family have ever heard of a e-party and dont be suprised if his family doesnt give us a gift,,, and they just think its a party...

***??? someone pls help me lol

ok, so you want help with what then...?

helping them understand that it is an engagement party?

umm even if they thought it was just a party wouldnt they bring a gift?



oh you're right.. totally not about gifts


totally wasnt it was about how him n his fam never heard of the e party!!!!


then you mentioned how your parents asked what you guys wanted as a gift, but his parents didn't

I guess I misconstrued you.

MeNBobs Posted:

Re: In ShoCk!!!

Posted by italianp7

Posted by What

Posted by italianp7

Posted by What

Yeah, I had to step out of the bubble I live in to attend a few e-parties...

my family just don't do them & I just don't get them.

unless of course it's like a small bbq in a back yard/ small dinner with close family type thing... these EXTRAVAGANT ones in reception halls with flowers, registries, seating charts, DJs... pretty much everything you would have at a WEDDING, to me.. is greedy. IMO of course.

sorry if this offends anyone

While I would never attend a party without bringing a gift, I just think that a lot of people don't understand the need for an e party when a big wedding is following.

I have no advice to give you to help increase your chances of receiving a gift, sorry.




i dont need your advice on 'recieving a gift' because this is NOT what the post was about!!


I'm sorry I just responded to what I read:
him nor his family have ever heard of a e-party and dont be suprised if his family doesnt give us a gift,,, and they just think its a party...

***??? someone pls help me lol

ok, so you want help with what then...?

helping them understand that it is an engagement party?

umm even if they thought it was just a party wouldnt they bring a gift?



oh you're right.. totally not about gifts


totally wasnt it was about how him n his fam never heard of the e party!!!!


jeanettelovesjason Posted:

Re: In ShoCk!!!

Me and my FH just had our e-party on Saturday 9/6/08 and we had a blast!! A lot of people have never heard of them but a lot of people have. We didnt have the party for ourselves my FIL's wanted to throw it for us and I dont think its selfish to have one either. We didnt expect anything and just wanted my family and friends to be able to meet my FH family and friends. We didnt send out invites with registry cards, we just wanted everyone to come and have a good time and we all did.
And my eparty was exactly 9 months from my wedding so it really doesnt matter when you have it how, many people you have, or where you have it. As long as you dont expect anything and just have a good time!! :)
Yankees2323 Posted:

Re: In ShoCk!!!

maybe i did come across wrong but lke i said its not about gifts i can careless if his fam brings or doesnt bring gifts ...

PegaLega Posted:

Re: In ShoCk!!!

Posted by italianp7

So last night FH and I are talking about having a e-party or not and he tells me that him nor his family have ever heard of a e-party and dont be suprised if his family doesnt give us a gift,,, and they just think its a party...

***??? someone pls help me lol

umm even if they thought it was just a party wouldnt they bring a gift? wow have they lived in a freckin bubble? omg


so according to what you said this isnt about gifts its about them not knowing what an eparty is?


'umm even if they thought it was just a party wouldnt they bring a gift?'
What Posted:

Re: In ShoCk!!!

Posted by italianp7

maybe i did come across wrong but lke i said its not about gifts i can careless if his fam brings or doesnt bring gifts ...


so then you're all good.

have fun at your party =)

Yankees2323 Posted:

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yea good!! glad u didnt understand a word i said thanks anyway

What Posted:

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forget it

amunson Posted:

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whoa...

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