Invitation advice....

We're about to send out our invitations! I'm so excited but I have a few situations I don't know what to do with...

1- I sent STD's to a family friend who apparently have some very shady dealings with my uncle. I did't know this when I sent them but now there's problems with this family friend so I don't want them there. However; I'm still friends with their son. Can I just invite their son? Do I HAVE to send them an invitation if I don't want them there? I mean, it's a huge game changer.

2- I sent STD's to 2 girlfriends from school. I invited them to the shower and they never even responded even when FSIL called each of them personally. Do I have to invite them to the wedding? I haven't seen them since we graduated- our relationships have changed.

So complicated! Help!

Invitation advice.... - Long Island Weddings

The family friend; no. If something inappropriate or uncomfortable with your family has happened, feel free to not invite him. I think you can invite his son if you are friendly.

The two friends? I'm afraid you're locked in. Other than just being inconsiderate, they haven't really done anything wrong. If you want to try to save, don't give them dates and hopefully they won't come.

Invitation advice.... - Long Island Weddings

I happen to think you should invite whomever YOU want there. Why pay for people who clearly didn't even care enough to respond to your shower?

This is YOUR wedding. If you really aren't interested in continuing a friendship with them, don't invite them. And don't apologize for it. Do what makes YOU happy.

Invitation advice.... - Long Island Weddings

I sent a STD to a girl who was my husbands best friends girlfriend at the time…during our engagement they broke up and i didn't send a wedding invite to her. Needless to say, I haven't spoken to her since. Although its proper etiquette to sent the invite if u sent the STD, I personally believe if you are ok with them not in your life after the wedding, do what YOU are comfortable with; not whats considered 'proper.'

Invitation advice.... - Long Island Weddings

I wouldn't invite the family friend but I would still invite their son if your friends with him. As for the girls who never responded to your shower. I wouldn't invite them. They should have the decency to respond to an invitation or a phone call. Don't even waste your money on sending them an invitation. Anyone who doesn't RSVP gets checked off as a no in my book!

Invitation advice.... - Long Island Weddings

I agree with the above posters. As long as you're ok with the two girls not being in your life, then no harm no foul. As for the family friend, family comes first. If it's going to make someone uncomfortable, don't invite them.

Invitation advice.... - Long Island Weddings

I agree. It's your wedding. Invite who you want to invite. Don't worry about proper etiquette, so what makes you happy!

Invitation advice.... - Long Island Weddings

The family friend I wouldn't invite, the son yes as long as it won't be a problem with your uncle and he can stay neutral of the whole situation. I personally wouldn't want someone to question the situation and how the poor guy is forced to defend his parents alone.

As for the friends that didn't respond, I say they brought it on themselves. They shouldn't take it personally either. Don't invite them.

Re: Invitation advice....

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Posted by Alimm729

I agree with the above posters. As long as you're ok with the two girls not being in your life, then no harm no foul. As for the family friend, family comes first. If it's going to make someone uncomfortable, don't invite them.

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this exactly!

Invitation advice.... - Long Island Weddings

I agree with everyone here. Things happen, and you want people at your wedding who are there for you and genuinely happy to be there to celebrate, no drama. As for your friends, if they couldn't even be polite enough to respond for your shower, then I don't think they have to be invited to the wedding, as long as you are okay breaking ties with them.

Invitation advice.... - Long Island Weddings

Thanks everyone, I feel so much better about this! I don't want to come off like a ***** but, Family is first for me. You cross them, you cross me. As for my 'friends', I think it's jealousy. I don't need that around my wedding :)