Invitation wording

cecil Posted: Oct 01, 2002 07:48 AM

Invitation wording

Okay last night me and FH were eating dinner and the subject of wording on invitations came up. My parents are both deceased but had money put aside for my wedding, his mom is only paying for her people we are paying for the rest of the wedding. How do we word this one? I do not want his mom in the invitation becuase of obvious reasons. He says that it is rude not to put her name in it. My feelings are she did not contirbute except for her people, why should she be put in the invitation? Am I being rude? HELP!

Sassy Posted: Oct 01, 2002 08:14 AM

Re: Invitation wording

We are not putting any of our parents names on my invations, but then again, we are paying for it ourselves. We are putting 'together with our families blessings'

I totally understand where you're coming from, but my advice to you is that if it's going to cause a fight between you and your FH then you may just have to let it go. At least she's not trying to invite her poeple and NOT pay for them, which some FMILs do.
I'm trying to choose my battles. If I were you, I'd probably let him win this one.
But it all depends on how strongly you feel about it.

michele31 Posted: Oct 01, 2002 08:31 AM

Re: Invitation wording

In your situation, with your parents both deceased I would explain to my FH that it is not going to be easy for you to put his parents names on the invites. I am sure he and his family would understand.
I would put 'Together with their families'
Stacy XX
and
Bill XX

or
The honour of your presense is requested at the wedding ceremony (or mass) of
Stacy XX
and
Bill XX

It isn't just about who is paying. Etiquette dicated that the 'hosts' of the affair issue the invite. Many brides put their parents names on the invite, even when they are not paying anything towards the wedding. Others, like myself, felt that Scott and I are the hosts so we issued our own invites.
If he INSISTS you could put
Stacy Smith
daughter of the late Mr. & Mrs. John Smith
and
Bill Blake
son of Mrs. Ann Blake and the late Mr. Connor Blake

abc7077 Posted: Oct 01, 2002 10:22 AM

Re: Invitation wording

This was a tough one for me too. My fh and I are paying for everything. My FH's parents are not giving one penny and my parents will be helping us somewhat but I have no idea how much etc... My mom has been weird about it so we are just paying for it ourselves.

Out of respect to our parents since they did raise us and we did not want any family wars etc. we worded our invitations:

Together with our parents
Mr. and Mrs My parents
Mr and Mrs FHs parents
Fran middle name
and
Andrew middle name
invite you blah blah blah ( I don't remember the exact words here)

I did not want to have any bad feelings from the beginning. My mom did not really like the wording but she realizes it is the right thing to do.

This way it is really an invite from my fh and I but it looks like all of us are inviting the guests

jpsgirl Posted: Oct 01, 2002 11:25 AM

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I really wanted my parents names on the invite. they are paying for 75% of the wedding reception. His father have us 5K. Since he gave us money, I didn't feel right putting only my parents names and put 'together with our parents'.

Marnles Posted: Oct 01, 2002 06:07 PM

Re: Invitation wording

We had

Marni
and
Chris
along with the joy and blessings of their families
etc...

It pretty much covers all bases, without offending anyone or naming anyone who really didn't contribute...