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invitation wording for money in lieu of gifts

Original post by ronixo

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I'm arranging the bridal shower for my sister in law, and she prefers money in lieu of gifts and will not be registered anywhere.

How can I word this information on the invitation so she doesn't receives gifts, but checks instead?

Thank you!

Kara and Todd Thread views: 15,142

Re: invitation wording for money in lieu of gifts

Posted by JACK808

I think if I received an invitation stating 'no boxed gifts' I'd be tempted to get a gift that did indeed come in a box, open it up, and stick it in a bag!

If I ever receive an invite that says that, I'm sending a boxed gift... and I always give $.

ksl268 Thread views: 15,142

Re: invitation wording for money in lieu of gifts

IMO out right asking for $$$ is tacky.

Summer07Bride Thread views: 15,142

Re: invitation wording for money in lieu of gifts

My advice is do not write on the invite that you want cash. Instead, have the bridal party and close friends pass around by work of mouth that she would prefer money due to financial constraints or what not. I think this is not as tacky. The honeymoon registry is also a good idea.

lacey&mark Thread views: 15,142

Re: invitation wording for money in lieu of gifts

yeah, theres really no way around this one. its just rude to ask for cash instead of gifts for anything. i would recommend a honeymoon registry and registering for some stuff at bed bath and beyond. people are going to get her gifts, no matter what it says, so she might as well register and get stuff she needs or can return for cash if she insists.

NY031978 Thread views: 15,142

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Posted by futrmrsblt

tell her to register at bed bath and beyond.. you can return things against ur registry for cash.. that way peopel can enjoy giving, not feel imposed upon and she gets her cash!

Thats exactly what i was gonn say!!!!

BoxOfRocks Thread views: 15,142

Re: invitation wording for money in lieu of gifts

I agree with the pps that asking for money on the invitations is pretty bad.

I also heard that BBBY is starting crack down on people returning registry gifts for cash, but that it varies store to store. So you may want to check on that.

Maybe a better way to handle this for the shower would be to have a small registry. Then, if someone asks where she's registered, you could respond she's registered at BBBY but is saving for house down payment or whatever. When the registry gets full, and if someone asks you what to get her, you could give the guest the same answer about money.

However, I think the chances of getting 100% cash are pretty low. Some folks don't give cash, period. Even after your hints, they may get an off-registry gift. GL.

KRISTYRUSSELL Thread views: 15,142

Re: invitation wording for money in lieu of gifts

I am sorry to say this but you should never do that, it is not polite and I feel it is quite rude. I can tell you offhand that even though most of the bridal showers have a wishing well, some people even find that rude, even though we brides all have one at our shower, people are strange, you have to be very very careful.. i dont mean to offend you or anything just giving you honest advise....