Invite dilemma *UPDATED*

Ok i already sent my list to the calligrapher but i can email her to make the change since she just has to add to it.

Here is the problem, on outer envelopes you do NOT write and guest, just the persons name and then you use the inner envelope to write their name plus 'and guest' problem is that i do not have envelopes, they are boxed invitations. We are inviting everybody with and guest. Most people are in relationships but there are some single people of course, i sent the excel sheet with my guest list and addresses and put single people just with their name. I am hoping they'll assume its with and guest since most guests assume that haha. Many that i am close with i will let them know but now im afraid some will think that they weren't invited with a guest. Should i just write and guest on the boxed invite or is there any other way to let them know i know some single guests will come alone regardless and i know which ones will but i think theres a few that will want to bring a guest

*****UPDATED***** thank you ladies, i emailed calligrapher and told her to put and guest next to each single person invited

why would they assume anything???

in fact, most brides on here who aren't inviting 'and guest' would be pissssed if their guests assumed that they could bring a guest, right?

i don't see any way around putting all the information on the lid of the boxes.

the more modern invitation companies don't have inner envelopes anymore anyway, so its not like its uncommon for their to be only one envelope/box.

you hear it all the time on these boards (and you may even write it yourself)...'proper' etiquette rules can be thrown out the window if that's what you want.

I say write 'and guest' on the outside of the envelope...I plan to do the same even though I have inner envelopes

i honestly dont care what is right and wrong

i am putting on the outer envelopes and guest
because im not printing on 2 envelopes

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

i honestly dont care what is right and wrong

i am putting on the outer envelopes and guest
because im not printing on 2 envelopes

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I'm glad I'm not the only person who thinks this way!!!!! THANKS!!

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Posted by PreshusSmurf

why would they assume anything???

in fact, most brides on here who aren't inviting 'and guest' would be pissssed if their guests assumed that they could bring a guest, right?

i don't see any way around putting all the information on the lid of the boxes.

the more modern invitation companies don't have inner envelopes anymore anyway, so its not like its uncommon for their to be only one envelope/box.

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haha thats why i said they assume because it seems most brides on here have that problem with guests always just assuming they are invited with a guest.

So I guess its ok to put and guest then, ok good ill email her right away...Thank you so much

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Posted by Annoulak

you hear it all the time on these boards (and you may even write it yourself)...'proper' etiquette rules can be thrown out the window if that's what you want.

I say write 'and guest' on the outside of the envelope...I plan to do the same even though I have inner envelopes

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true, i rather my guests know they can bring a guest.

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

i honestly dont care what is right and wrong

i am putting on the outer envelopes and guest
because im not printing on 2 envelopes

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lol i dont even have that choice but i will have to put and guest

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

i honestly dont care what is right and wrong

i am putting on the outer envelopes and guest
because im not printing on 2 envelopes

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lol i dont even have that choice but i will have to put and guest

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I know, i am just lazy and dont care anymore
I want this wedding over and to move on with my life and enjoy the summer!

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

i honestly dont care what is right and wrong

i am putting on the outer envelopes and guest
because im not printing on 2 envelopes

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lol i dont even have that choice but i will have to put and guest

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I know, i am just lazy and dont care anymore
I want this wedding over and to move on with my life and enjoy the summer!

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awww it'll be great nicole, dont let the stress get to you

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Posted by bluegreen08

put 'and guest' on the outside of the box

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Thank you, yeah i already emailed the calligrapher and told her that any invite being sent to just 1 person to put and guest next to their name

i think that if there is no inner envelope to put 'and guest' on, it is OK to put it on the outer.

I wuold definitely put and guest on all of them though. For my eparty, I forgot to put 'and guest' on the env. of a friend and she thought her bf wasnt invited. So of course I felt like an asss.

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by TheFutureMrsM

i honestly dont care what is right and wrong

i am putting on the outer envelopes and guest
because im not printing on 2 envelopes

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lol i dont even have that choice but i will have to put and guest

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I know, i am just lazy and dont care anymore
I want this wedding over and to move on with my life and enjoy the summer!

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i was professing the same yesterday..

i was just thinking about this last night when i was putting together what i wanted for my invites!!!

maybe fm presushsmurf (i dont know if her sn is correct). but she did boxed invites and her invite wasn't in an inner envelope. she might have a good solution that hasn't been thought of.

WRITE AND GUEST ON THE BOX.
I always see invites addressed that way