Invite drama!

Jen,

I would just leave it alone. FMIL needs to understand that this is a decision you and Rob made. She has no reason to be angry with you.

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Posted by hmpena

Jen,

I would just leave it alone. FMIL needs to understand that this is a decision you and Rob made. She has no reason to be angry with you.

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I dont think she is either, I think she was more dissapointed or surprised with the decision and angry. I dont think she would ever say anything to me about it....she really is a great woman.. I just feel awful about it.

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Posted by marymoon

I would leave it. Tradition! yeah right. Traditionally the bride's parents pay and their names are the only ones on the invite! Since you're paying yourselves, i think even putting 'together with their parents' you are paying them a big courtesy.

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I agree. You are paying - just writing 'together with their parents' is MORE than enough.

Do whatever makes you and FH happy. That's the only rule.

We did put our parents names on the invite but it was our choice and for us it felt right. We did pay for a majority of the wedding too.

Jenn.. Nothing we do will ever be right.. Nothing. You can do 100000 rights, but that one wrong you do... forget it. I dont believe you did anything wrong. It is impossible to please everyone. Completely IMPOSSIBLE. Why people get so offended over the most stupid things are beyond me

I wouldn't worry about it. Let her complain. Let her have her opinions. Is this going to matter on your wedding day? NO. In 5 years from now?? NO. Why bother even stressing over it now? The last thing you need right now is FH's Momma Drama

I did the 'together with our families'

I liked how it looked better

We did 'Together With Their Parents' as well since we're all footing the bill in some way. I think that it's a really nice gesture of you to do that, since you're paying for your whole wedding.

Maybe in your ceremony programs, make sure your IL's names are mentioned along with a thank you to them for support?

Sorry you have to deal with this right now.

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Posted by October Bliss

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Posted by Jen2999

Well the thing is I have a really good relationship with them and I hope they arent upset with me. His mom just is very 'old school' about a lot of things and doesnt realize times change.

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If his mom is really old school then she should realize HER name doesn't go on the invite. Tradition (old school) had the bride's parents as the hosts, with no mention of the groom's parents whatsoever on the invite.

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EXACTLY