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I would call them and let them know that you number constraints and that you really can't accommodate the guest. However, if things change that you will let them know.
You should do a search on this topic because someone had a similar situation not that long ago. Everyone had good advice. You'll have to call the person and let them know that guests are not invited. And I think it's pretty common for people to wait till the last minute to send their reply. You have to go down the list and start calling people to ask for their reply.
Good Luck! I have a feeling I'll be going through the same thing in about three months when I send my invites out.
I think the best advice is to see about your decline list and then call and just explain the situation...some people just don't understand how these weddings work.
We have the OPPOSITE problem - people who were invited with guests are calling and telling us that even though they responded that they are bringing a guest, they may not actually bring one -- how's that? We'll have to pay for dinners that won't even get eaten!!
I'm with Karen - feel free to send them to our wedding - we have had over 30% of the invitees decline and are just barely going to cover our minimum...we never expected that many.
Aside from the fact that our responses were also due yesterday and we have about 20 who haven't responded - and still have 30% who said no...we are going to split up the list of no responses by family tonight and have everyone start making calls since we are meeting with the hall on Tuesday and would like to have a semi-realistic headcount...the joys of the wedding!!
We didn't meet our minimum either and had over 40% decline rate.
We are now referring to the reception as our 'intimate gathering' LOL!
In my opinion you should let the guest come. If the person is over 18, you should have invited them with a guest anyway (whether they are dating someone or not)
You will always have people who don't show up for some reason or another, so I wouldn't worry about it.
Don't put it into your final count. Worse comes to worse they will have to set another plate. The matre de will take care of it so you wouldn't have to worry anyway.
Have you ever gone to a wedding by yourself? It can be terribly loney. It is only right that you let the guest come.
Everyone is entitled to their opinion but I disagree with Kristi. We are not expected to invite guests of our guests. We are invited our friends and family and if they have significant others that's one thing. But just allowing random guests to be invited is not the norm.
You should do what you feel comfortable with.
We had to guarantee 230 people and we are only inviting 275, but we only have 10 out of town guests so I am hoping we will make our minimum. Has anyone ever heard of caterers adding stuff to your menu or something like that when you don't make the minimum rather than having the paid meals go uneaten? Just curious if there is some flexibility there.
Our caterer increased our per person cost since we fell short of our minimum
