Is it 2, much to go out to bars once ever 2 week as a married women

Original post by Spitzergirl

Jan 01, 2006 11:51 PM

I like to go out, and I have been a home body for quite some time, but I think, since it is a new year, I want to start enjoying myself. I would like to start going out at least 2x a month. Is that alot in your opinon as a married women?. I have decided to go out with the girlz.

I tried inviting DH to bar/club, but it is just not his thing. Then, he refuses to go. But, when I do go out, I fell so guilty living him home.

Help!!!!!

usuk2004 Posted: Jan 03, 2006 09:23 AM

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Wow, I'm really surprised by some of these answers!

I say go for it! Go out and have a good time!!! Whether a club, dinner, bar or whatever! TWice a month is not a lot of time to spend away from your DH - I think it I didn't spend that much time away from him, I'd go insane!

stephanief Posted: Jan 03, 2006 10:35 AM

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I do not think that is alot.

diluvchu Posted: Jan 03, 2006 11:55 AM

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Posted by SomethingBlu

Posted by itslaurie.

I don't think 2 days a month for yourself is too much at all.

I agree! Now, 2 weekends (Friday, Saturday or Sunday) might be a bit much, but a Tuesday or any other day out with the girls when there are 28-31 days in the month is NOT too much. We deserve that much.

Same here. As long as you and your DH agree then I don't think that having that time to yourself is a problem.

july06bride Posted: Jan 03, 2006 12:16 PM

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I am not married yet, but fh and I have been living together for two years. We find time with our friends but it isnt always a bar...actually for me, i cant remember the last time i went to a bar with my friends (and not Fh) However, fh will play poker sometimes during the week and he plays indoor soccer one night a week...I go shopping, do dinner, movies...just hang out... I think that is completely healthy to do, if going to the bar 2x a month with your friends is acceptable to your Fh and you, then go for it. personally its not my thing and if fh was giving up two fridays or saturdays a month to go drink with his all single friends...(he is the 1st to be married one) it wouldnt make me thrilled..once in a while ok..

DjPiLL Posted: Jan 03, 2006 06:22 PM

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As a married man... i wouldn't see an issue with it.

Just don't complain to him if he decides to then do the same... or do that occasional weekend trip to say AC or something like that.

roxyspark Posted: Jan 03, 2006 06:38 PM

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Posted by Kris77

I go out with my girlfriends twice a month, and DH is totally fine with it. We are BOTH homebodies, but I need my time and he needs his. He would rather stay home and sit in front on the computer than go out with his friends, and I like to go out and have a couple of drinks with my friends. It is NOT good for a relationship to constantly be together. You have to be your own person and have your own life.

I totally agree with you Kris.
I like to go out and have drinks with friends and FI likes to stay home.

Imagin916 Posted: Jan 03, 2006 07:18 PM

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I dont think there is anything wrong with spending 2 nights a month with your friends. Just because you are married doesnt mean that you have to give up your friends and having fun! You are an individual not just half of a couple, and you should not feel bad about having your own life outside of DH. Its funny how when we turn the tables, we as women are pretty accepting of a guys need to have his space, why not take our own space sometimes? Its not like you are going out to hook up or even going out every night, you are going to catch up with the girls and talk, who cares if its at a bar, or resturant or whatever? Some people had mentioned that it might be ok to go out without DH if these other women are in relationships and not single. I dont agree with that, if you have friends who are single dont exclude them for that reason, I am single, I wouldnt want my married friends to stop socializing with me because of that, and luckily for me, none of my married friends do that. Thanks for reading this, in no way am I meaning to attack anyones opinion, just sharing my own

JimmysBride Posted: Jan 03, 2006 07:46 PM

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I just want to clarify something. I don't think that going out without your DH twice a month with just the girls is a big deal at all, and yes, it's healthy to spend time away from your DH, I just don't understand why a married woman would suddenly pick up a clubbing habit. Clubs are such meat markets so I don't see why a married woman has such a desire to be in the middle of that. Of course, if most of your friends are married, then it's a little different. But if you are hanging out with the single girls at clubs, I could see problems coming up...it's just the nature of the environment.

Just taking time for yourself to hang out with your girlfriends is fine and even necessary.

Beth1210 Posted: Jan 04, 2006 11:37 AM

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I normally go to dinner with my friends or my sister at least 2 times a month- mostly during the week- we are all very busy these days

occasionaly I go out to bars- clubs only with my Hubby- he likes them more then me

but I see nothing wrong with it- Jake likes to also hang out with his friends w/o me- as long as it's not everynight it fine with me

I think it's important to have a life outside your relationship- everytime jake goes out drinking with the guys- he is happy to come home to me

Jen_n_Dale Posted: Jan 05, 2006 06:50 AM

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I some times do it more often then every two weeks or sometimes I don't go out at all. Usually it is after work we will all go out and hang out at a bar for a few hours.

dgtlsunshine Posted: Jan 05, 2006 10:03 AM

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I go out with my friends but not to clubs. I am with the other poster in that I don't see why a married woman would take up clubbing habit.

Mrs. Powell Posted: Jan 05, 2006 10:08 AM

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Posted by dgtlsunshine

I go out with my friends but not to clubs. I am with the other poster in that I don't see why a married woman would take up clubbing habit.

Same here. I normally go out to dinners with my friends like twice per month and if I do go to club which is once in a blue moon it is always with my DH.

cocoa Posted: Jan 05, 2006 07:31 PM

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i have doing this for a few months now with some girls from work. it's great, imo. there are nights when dh works until 8 anyway and i think it's important for couples to have date night and a life apart too.

ets: we go to bars, not clubs and b/c we're all teachers, we're out by 9 ish anyway since we're exhausted! dh gets his video game time without me annoying him and we get to miss each other...hee hee hee!