Is it just me or is it rude

skew Posted: Feb 25, 2005 05:18 PM

Is it just me or is it rude

for someone to ask how much your house was? unless it was a family member i would NEVER ask someone how much they paid for their home.

DH and i are buying a house that is more expensive than what most of our friends can afford. we are extremely fortunate and grateful that we have to means to be able to afford more, but are EXTREMELY uncomfortable when asked this question.

am i being too sensitive?

kelly4 Posted: Feb 25, 2005 05:20 PM

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YES! it is rude! It's right up there with the classless people who will ask you what size your e-ring is and if they can try it on!

sophie78 Posted: Feb 25, 2005 05:20 PM

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Some people are ok with that stuff others are not. DH and I never care about talking about it.

Jenny5150 Posted: Feb 25, 2005 05:28 PM

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We openly discuss it with people if they ask.

Jenny5150 Posted: Feb 25, 2005 05:30 PM

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Posted by kelly4

YES! it is rude! It's right up there with the classless people who will ask you what size your e-ring is and if they can try it on!

I've never found that to be rude. In fact I'm usually flattered when people ask to try it on.

HillandRon Posted: Feb 25, 2005 05:30 PM

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It is rude to ask but it is public knowledge once you go to closing. If you don't say anything, they can find out for themselves anyway....

D&C Posted: Feb 25, 2005 05:31 PM

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I am with you. We only told a very select few what we are paying for the house. I have had many many others ask me how much we paid, what percent mortgage we got, how much our payments will be, how much we are putting down, etc. I find it very rude but thats just me.

D&C Posted: Feb 25, 2005 05:32 PM

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Posted by HillandRon

It is rude to ask but it is public knowledge once you go to closing. If you don't say anything, they can find out for themselves anyway....

exactly..if they are really dying to know, let them do some work to find out

sophie78 Posted: Feb 25, 2005 05:33 PM

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I don't find it rude if people ask straight out. I hate when they try to be sneaky about it.

TwoBugs Posted: Feb 25, 2005 05:38 PM

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It depends why they're asking: I think it's rude if they're just asking to compare, but if they are asking b/c they are house-hunting and trying to figure out what's out there, then it's okay.

On a side note, my co-worker has just started house-hunting and kept telling me that all the houses they have looked at are really nasty and need a lot of work. She said it appears that she just can't afford to have a nice house right now b/c her price range is so low, but she can have all the 'crap holes' she wants. Turns out her price range is WELL ABOVE what DH and I just paid for our (very cute) house...

Maybe I'm being too sensitive, but she basically implied my house is a nasty crap hole.

julz33 Posted: Feb 25, 2005 06:11 PM

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Posted by D&C

I am with you. We only told a very select few what we are paying for the house. I have had many many others ask me how much we paid, what percent mortgage we got, how much our payments will be, how much we are putting down, etc. I find it very rude but thats just me.

That many questions is just annoyinh! I don't mind sharing anything if it is for someone looking at houses, or looking for help... but someone being nosy that is just annoying.

AndreaLMT Posted: Feb 25, 2005 06:55 PM

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I don't mind talking about it at all, esp. if it's going to help someone...
But I don't really like it when people just ask me outright.
Like 'Oh you got a house- great...What'ya pay for it?!'
I've had quite a few people do that & I guess it was more their tone that ticked me off.

DjPiLL Posted: Feb 25, 2005 08:43 PM

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Its definitely cool IMO to ask what you paid for your house.... for the reason alone to keep property values high.

Perfect example. I paid 182k to move into my co-op in Aug03.

I now have a new next door neighbor and a new guy above me that just bought last month. I asked them what they paid (straight up - wasn't sneaky) and they both told me no problems. Its in their own best interest to tell me. The guy next to me paid 220k. The guy above me paid 227k. We all have very similar apartments.

Now when I go to list my place for sale when its time... I'll list it for like 240k knowing what they got for theirs. If I didn't know what they got for theirs... I could be undercutting the market and may have only listed my place for 220k.

If somebody asks me what I paid... i'll tell them. I want to make sure they get their fair share of value.

Its all about keeping the property value at its highest it can be. Its not 'rude' IMO.

Its not like they are asking your income and stuff.

LisaT Posted: Feb 25, 2005 08:52 PM

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I don't mind at all. Within a few weeks of moving in there were numerous realtor mailings that showed recent sales in the area with our hosue listed, so its no big secret.

Anyone can find out...

TracyInQueens Posted: Feb 25, 2005 09:34 PM

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It's totally rude.

D&C Posted: Feb 25, 2005 09:44 PM

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Posted by julz33

Posted by D&C

I am with you. We only told a very select few what we are paying for the house. I have had many many others ask me how much we paid, what percent mortgage we got, how much our payments will be, how much we are putting down, etc. I find it very rude but thats just me.

That many questions is just annoyinh! I don't mind sharing anything if it is for someone looking at houses, or looking for help... but someone being nosy that is just annoying.

Exactly. I talk about everything with my friends who are going through the same thing or with you ladies so we can help each other...but I know the people who have asked me such detailed questions as the ones I said above are looking for pure gossip or to figure out how much money me and FH have or make etc.

MrsJ Posted: Feb 25, 2005 10:08 PM

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I don't mind too much mainly becuase we bought a few years ago and we got such a deal.

But I do think its REALLLLY rude when someone asks how much $$ we make!

Buttafli1277 Posted: Feb 25, 2005 11:33 PM

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I think it's rude! Like today for instance, the guy that cuts my hair was asking me how much I paid for my house. It came up in conversation. He was throwing numbers at me and I was just like Yeah, something like that. I just feel like people try to be nosey sometimes and want to know your business and financial situation. I would never ask antone straight out how much they paid for their house. If you want to get an idea of how much the value of your house went up comparing it to others, get an appraisal!

skew Posted: Feb 26, 2005 07:15 AM

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Posted by TwoBugs

It depends why they're asking: I think it's rude if they're just asking to compare, but if they are asking b/c they are house-hunting and trying to figure out what's out there, then it's okay.

EXACTLY. for house huntingt purposes, or comps reference fine. i just find it rude when people say, 'WOW that is an expensive area, how much is the house?' or for those (i made the mistake of telling that i should not have told) responding w/ 'are you kidding me? how can you afford that much? we can only afford xxx amount.'

kpny622 Posted: Feb 26, 2005 07:51 AM

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I think it's rude, depending on who asks. If it's immediate family, or a close friend that's also looking, I am OK with it. But I was SHOCKED at how everyone asked us - people we barely knew found no problem asking and I think that's strange - I was so often taken aback I answered out of shock!