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I chose to do donations. I did not want to spend money on something that I thought would just end up sitting in someone's bookshelves. We got a lot more personal satisfaction by making donations and made up nice cards for the tables about the donation. I don't think favors are very traditional at Jewish weddings anyway and no one in my family even questioned it.
I think it is. Either favors or donations but I would find it odd if I went to a wedding and there was no favors. JMO
Posted by Blu-ize
I don't think it's necessary. That's what the thank you note is about. Every favor I've gotten, I've thrown away. I admit it and I'm sure there are others out there that have done the same. What a waste!
I don't think they're absolutely necessary. Small, simple, edible favors, or donations, are probably best. I just wouldn't display a candle or other knicknack with the bride and groom's name on it. If we are going to do favors, they'll probably be half bottles of wine from the vineyard where the wedding is, as a memento of the place.
Posted by halfpintny
IMO a favor is expected and is noticed if it is absent. I actually had this discussion with member of my family (excluding mom) and they were shocked that people would NOT give our favors (they said it was rude)
I find something tacky about favors for the most part I mean they get thrown out right away. Isn't inviting someone to your wedding a token of appreciation and gratitude already? I think I am just doing a donation.
Posted by eliz808
Do you think making a donation to a charity would be OK?
I'm going to do a donation to the american cancer society in memory of my uncle that past away, but I think I'm also going to attach a little card saying so to a small box of chocolate, maybe a 2 piece box
Went to a wedding a few weeks ago and no one even noticed that there were no favors. I happened to notice since I was on the lookout for inspiration for my own wedding.
I disagree with the folks who suggest it is a must - it is quite unheard of a Jewish weddings. We gave votive candles but other than that would have been considered odd.
Posted by Barakabella
I disagree with the folks who suggest it is a must - it is quite unheard of a Jewish weddings.
Favors are definitely not necessary. How can people go to weddings 'expecting' something and then feeling 'slighted' for not getting something? To me that sounds ridiculous. I always thought that you went to a wedding to help celebrate the marriage of the bride and groom and to have a great time, especially if you are there with people you love. A wedding isnt a sweet 16 or a bat mitzvah where everybody gets a T-Shirt at the end of the night.
Posted by s51178
Favors are definitely not necessary. How can people go to weddings 'expecting' something and then feeling 'slighted' for not getting something? To me that sounds ridiculous. I always thought that you went to a wedding to help celebrate the marriage of the bride and groom and to have a great time, especially if you are there with people you love. A wedding isnt a sweet 16 or a bat mitzvah where everybody gets a T-Shirt at the end of the night.
Anywhere else I would say it's not necessary, but on Long Island I think it is. It's traditional, especially in this wedding market. I've been racking my brain to do something different. When push comes to shove the favors are usually pushed aside. But for some reason, guests expect them.
