is it really real??

is it really real??

lately, despite making progress (i have my rh, church, and photo/video) i'm getting this nervous feeling that things arn't going to go right. i know it's one day and SOMETHING will go wrong for it but when I picture the day I have a hard time even seeing it happen!

I don't know why I feel like this. Maybe because I thought the day would never come. Or maybe it just doesn't feel 'real' yet. Or maybe I've never taken on such a big event on my own before. It's over a year away and already I'm feeling like some disaster will happen like my photographer won't show up or something.

I get these big visions in my head with a lot of things in life and they tend not to happen the way I'd like them to. I think this is my biggest fear.

I love my FH so much and I want nothing more than to be his wife. But I just have this sinking feeling that something will go horribly wrong.

Am I alone here? Maybe I need some Xanax

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no, I feel exactly the same! Trust me. Everything we wanted for this wedding (from the day, RH, Flowers) has worked out for us like on the first try. Mind you we have such a tight budget that I cant believe we are finding what we want ... I feel like everyone is yessing us to death but when the day comes everything will go wrong like Cps missing or something lol

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o man you are not the only one!

i have learned from many people on this board and from people who are in this business for a long time...that...there is nooo perfect wedding.....
its going to happen the way its supposed to happen ...you cant control everything...
and you know what...if you are going to think that everything is going to go bad and someone wouldnt show up and etc..than it would happen ....right now you have enough time to plan do the things you are supposed.. and the biggest thing..just relax and enjoy..it is your day and you have to take all this thoughts out from ur head and concentrate on the good ones!!!!!! You are marrieng your best fd...your love of your life....everyone will be there to celebrate your marriage to one another!!!!!!!!!!

COncentrate on the good and positive things!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

and remember we are here to listen and help!

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i think that is a big reason.. so far things have been so easy and smooth sailing that I'm like... this isn't supposed to be this easy lol!

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I had similar thoughts that things will go wrong. They even appeared as nightmares while i was sleeping. I think it is because you want everything to be special and go right that your brain will think of the worst case scenarios because you are so worried that something with go wrong. I am sure what you feel is normal.

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lol i thought the same thing! i heard all of these horror stories and I'm like everything is going smoothly something must be wrong! i just think things are falling into place! everything will work out fine! I had a few dreams about things getting messed up but I just think that it's the instilled fear that i don't have my make up and officiant booked yet lol!