is it rude...

emcheung Posted: Dec 19, 2007 10:30 PM

is it rude...

to invite adults only to your wedding, but have your two ringbearers and flower girl stay for the reception when other children are not invited?

Jamnike Posted: Dec 19, 2007 10:33 PM

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nope, we are doing that. they are part of the bridal party. its expected

Nirvin Posted: Dec 19, 2007 10:34 PM

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Not rude at all. FH & I are doing it also. 90% of the weddings that I have been too are like that and I must admit, things go alot smoother.

longislandlibrarian Posted: Dec 19, 2007 10:40 PM

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not rude at all.. only select children will be there... the FG/RB.... and then 2 nieces who would be the FG but are too young!

ChristineAaron08 Posted: Dec 19, 2007 10:41 PM

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nope- not rude at all- the RB and FG are in the BP so they are different

Brian and Marie Posted: Dec 19, 2007 10:43 PM

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NOT RUDE AT ALL!!!!

jtgarsik Posted: Dec 19, 2007 10:56 PM

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not at all! they're in the bridal party.....i dont think i've ever been to an adult only reception where the FG's & RB's didn't stay. no worries

Wifeynella Posted: Dec 19, 2007 11:09 PM

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Posted by Jamnike

nope, we are doing that. they are part of the bridal party. its expected

ditto

lonal Posted: Dec 19, 2007 11:19 PM

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Not at all! If you started inviting other kids, where would it end? I'm only having my nieces and nephews. Oh also fhs

MJDoc12 Posted: Dec 19, 2007 11:32 PM

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absolutely not--only my niece was invited--she was the FG

a word of advice--DO NOT let anyone make you think its rude!!!!! to be honest i think its beyond rude to TELL someone who they should invite to THEIR wedding. and some ppl don't realize that is exactly what they are doing when they say 'well why can't little sally come? if she can't go--i can't go. i can't find a sitter'

in 2 years of planning---i fought about this issue for about oh---TWO YEARS. family felt they could try and push me and tell me what to do. (DHs SIL had the balls to cross out the 2 on the RSVP that we sent for them showing the # of seats we reserved..and put a 7!)

stand your ground---don't let them bully you!

rocketsummer17 Posted: Dec 20, 2007 12:04 AM

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not rude at all

Alexandra1028 Posted: Dec 20, 2007 09:33 AM

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Nope not rude at all

hmv12 Posted: Dec 20, 2007 09:39 AM

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No...That is what I did

MsKitty1274 Posted: Dec 20, 2007 09:43 AM

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Not rude at all!

The only children at our wedding were my ring bearer and flower girl. Oh and 1 other baby (sibling of the flower girl)

shopaholic07 Posted: Dec 20, 2007 09:46 AM

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Nope, I think that is totally acceptable.

Jayla127 Posted: Dec 20, 2007 12:08 PM

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No, that's no rude at all. The only children that will be attending my wedding is the kids in the bridal party.

kristin597 Posted: Dec 20, 2007 12:08 PM

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It's definetly not rude. Those children are in your wedding party and therefore an important part of the wedding.

Espo22 Posted: Dec 20, 2007 12:14 PM

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Posted by MJDoc12

absolutely not--only my niece was invited--she was the FG

a word of advice--DO NOT let anyone make you think its rude!!!!! to be honest i think its beyond rude to TELL someone who they should invite to THEIR wedding. and some ppl don't realize that is exactly what they are doing when they say 'well why can't little sally come? if she can't go--i can't go. i can't find a sitter'

in 2 years of planning---i fought about this issue for about oh---TWO YEARS. family felt they could try and push me and tell me what to do. (DHs SIL had the balls to cross out the 2 on the RSVP that we sent for them showing the # of seats we reserved..and put a 7!)

stand your ground---don't let them bully you!

I agree...ive had trouble with figuring out how we're going to do this but i think we will do just our RB and FG...if we let everyone bring their kids we might end up with about 30 kids and thats a bit much, not to mention it will cost me a couple thousand dollars to invite kids.

I also think its rude for others to get mad at us about who we invite.

hopefully people will understand or get over it

mRm2008 Posted: Dec 20, 2007 12:29 PM

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I do not think that is rude at all!

We have a few children who will be attending our reception. Our RH hall was very good in planning a childrens menu for us. They are charging us $10 per child including all beverages. Under the age of 4 was no charge!