is it 'rude' not to walk around to each table at the wedding?
Original post by AwaitingAugust
on the 2011 boards, they have a topic about 'wedding advice'. Someone said that the advice she got from her bro was to not walk around to greet each table individually at the reception because it takes too long and you end up seeing all of the people regardless on the dance floor and CH and whatnot.
I kind of like the idea of not walking around ... i don't really care to spend half my reception talk to people about the same old BS (congrats, where's the honeymoon, blah blah blah). I want to be able to eat my food and dance and enjoy the party!
is it rude though? will people be offended?
MrsSx2
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I think it is totally rude not to make an effort to acknowledge all your guests. Sure it takes time, but if a bride didn't make an effort to come to our table...I'd be pissed.
AwaitingAugust
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oh i'll def be seeing the guests at CH .... plus obviously on the dance floor and whatnot.
i know a lot of people miss out on the food at their weddings though because they're walking around and i don't want to be one of those people
Thanks for all your opinions ... i def have some things to think about
laulac98
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My plan is to say hello to as many people as possible at the CH and then I figured at some point I'll say hello to everyone else during the night whether it be at the bar or on the dance floor or wherever. I really don't want to waste too much time going around to every single table. I understand that people are coming to our wedding but at the same time it's our wedding and we want to be able to enjoy it and eat and drink and dance. I think people will understand if you don't get to every single person. Everyone says it goes fast as it is so I want to get everything out of it.
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i will try to greet everyone at CH but i think we will walk around quickly to greet everyone at each tables to thank them for coming. also a lot of people like to personally hand envelopes/gifts to the bride or groom directly. IMO you should greet people at least once throughout the day to acknowledge them and thank them for coming.
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I'm not greeting everyone. Honestly, FH and I are going to grab the mic and just thank everyone for coming to the wedding and we hope to see everyone on the dance floor and talk to them there. I'm paying all this money, I want to enjoy it. People can think it's rude but really, not everyone is always happy and I think it's more important that we are that day.
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Posted by Jna2010
i think its a little rude... these people came to your wedding to celebrate with you, i think you should go to each table and thank your guests for coming and sharing this day with you. dont spend a long time at each table, just go over and thank them ask them if theyre enjoying themselves and tell them youll see them on the dancefloor.. you should be these less than a min at each table
ITA...I don't plan on being at a table for 1hr but I do want to atleast thank everyone for coming and helping us celebrate......hopefully we can get through all the tables within 40 minutes?
SummerBride10
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I think its a little rude to not thank each person for coming and stop by to recognize that they came to share your special day.
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Posted by Jna2010
i think its a little rude... these people came to your wedding to celebrate with you, i think you should go to each table and thank your guests for coming and sharing this day with you. dont spend a long time at each table, just go over and thank them ask them if theyre enjoying themselves and tell them youll see them on the dancefloor.. you should be these less than a min at each table
ITA! I've been to a wedding where the bride didn't come to our people and people were upset, especially since she did go to some of the other tables. Plus, you cannot assume that you will see people on the dance floor since not everyone will dance. I will try to spend about a minute at each table to at least thank them for coming.
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I'm having a smaller wedding so I don't think know..
Im_My_Own_Princess
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not sure if this was mentioned (didn't read everyone's replies- sorry)
but I remember reading something (not sure where) about a bride and groom that left 2 seats open at each table and stopped at each table while dinner was served and chatted with everyone and thanked them for coming. they timed it to like 2 minutes per table.. and they said it was a BIG hit! they got to talk to everyone and it took maybe 20 minutes... you can totally customize this idea to suit you guys.
we're thinking about doing it.
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Posted by MrsSx2
I think it is totally rude not to make an effort to acknowledge all your guests. Sure it takes time, but if a bride didn't make an effort to come to our table...I'd be pissed.
ITA. I was at a wedding where the bride and groom were on the dance floor the entire nite, the elder crowd seemed so bored and uninterested. also at another wedding a couple just went to certain tables, I was sitting on the other side and ppl at my table were offended
I am def planning on walking around and saying thanks to all during eating time. I am not planning on eating as is (can pig out later in the room w/FH LOL)
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Posted by MrsSx2
I think it is totally rude not to make an effort to acknowledge all your guests. Sure it takes time, but if a bride didn't make an effort to come to our table...I'd be pissed.
ITA!!
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I'm hoping to take care of most of the hello/how are you/let me see your rings at the CH. The rest of the night I want to be on the dance floor.
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We're not walking around to each table. We'll make sure we say hi to everyone, but we're going to try and do it all @ the CH. And if we can't, I'm just going to let the hellos happen naturally. I don't want to stress about it.
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I think a lot of it depends on the size of the wedding too. If it's a 300 person wedding, I wouldn't expect the bride and groom to spend an hour of the reception going around to table if they'd already talked to people at the CH or we dancing etc. That being said, if there's only 10 tables I think you should take the time to do it.
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Girls, it really doesn't take that long to do this. You can even divide and conquer - let your fhs go to some tables and you go to the others. We went around during the food so people wouldn't want to chat forever. Just a simple 'hi' and 'how's your food?' worked for us. Then people see you but are too busy to want to really talk to you.
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Posted by MrsSx2
I think it is totally rude not to make an effort to acknowledge all your guests. Sure it takes time, but if a bride didn't make an effort to come to our table...I'd be pissed.
ITA!!
ITA X2!
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Fh and I refuse to miss out on the dancing, eating and partying we a paying a small fortune for just to walk around and talk. FH's parents are not very happy with us. We feel that we will be having a receiving line at church and we will be at the CH. If we miss someone in either of those places, they will have to hang out with us on the dance floor.
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I will prob do this since we only expect to have 6-8 tables at most (small wedding). Prob the CH hour and depending on how the reception goes, maybe there as well. I don't want to just sit there at the dais table looking all queen-like, I want my guests to have a good time too.
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My hairdresser had her DH make a speech and thank everyone who came and for sharing their special day so they didnt have to go around to all of the tables.
