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espresso Posted: Nov 21, 2005 11:28 PM

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Invite friends and not their bfs or fiances (that they are not living with) to a small engagment dinner?

Junebride06 Posted: Nov 21, 2005 11:32 PM

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I think fiances are a must - it doesn't seem right to not invite them. For friends with boyfriends, I would only invite them if it is a serious relationship (not if they just started dating). JMO!

babybug631 Posted: Nov 21, 2005 11:34 PM

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Posted by Junebride06

I think fiances are a must - it doesn't seem right to not invite them. For friends with boyfriends, I would only invite them if it is a serious relationship (not if they just started dating). JMO!

I agree.

MattsBride Posted: Nov 21, 2005 11:43 PM

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Me too.

espresso Posted: Nov 21, 2005 11:43 PM

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What if you've been friends with the person for 3 years but you've never met the elusive fiance?

lrs2005 Posted: Nov 22, 2005 07:57 AM

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it gives you a chance to meet the elusive fiance - and it is her choice whether or not to bring him. Honestly, I think it is in poor taste to invite one person without their fiance or husband/wife unless it is a purely work function. Sorry.

prinses777 Posted: Nov 22, 2005 08:04 AM

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Posted by babybug631

Posted by Junebride06

I think fiances are a must - it doesn't seem right to not invite them. For friends with boyfriends, I would only invite them if it is a serious relationship (not if they just started dating). JMO!

I agree.

as do I

MayBride06 Posted: Nov 22, 2005 08:05 AM

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Posted by Junebride06

I think fiances are a must - it doesn't seem right to not invite them. For friends with boyfriends, I would only invite them if it is a serious relationship (not if they just started dating). JMO!

I agree. I would be pissed if my FH was left out. But if finances are an issue, can you explain???

melaniejosh Posted: Nov 22, 2005 08:49 AM

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Posted by MayBride06

Posted by Junebride06

I think fiances are a must - it doesn't seem right to not invite them. For friends with boyfriends, I would only invite them if it is a serious relationship (not if they just started dating). JMO!
I agree. I would be pissed if my FH was left out. But if finances are an issue, can you explain???

i'm there with you guys--i would be so upset if my fh wasn't invited...and he would be upset too!

ShortBride Posted: Nov 22, 2005 08:51 AM

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Posted by Junebride06

I think fiances are a must - it doesn't seem right to not invite them. For friends with boyfriends, I would only invite them if it is a serious relationship (not if they just started dating). JMO!

I agree (unless all the friends except one or two have fiancees and serious boyfriends, then I would let them bring a date if they want).

siobhanB Posted: Nov 22, 2005 08:52 AM

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My friend who was paying for her wedding herself, invited me to her rehearsal dinner w/o my fiance, and I totally understood.. I think maybe it depends on who the people are... if they are close friends, then you would hope they'd be understanding about it, but if they aren't as close to you, they may be upset if they were invited solo...

JimmysBride Posted: Nov 22, 2005 09:27 AM

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Fiances - maybe.

BFs, no not rude.

Naunie Posted: Nov 22, 2005 09:28 AM

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Posted by Junebride06

I think fiances are a must - it doesn't seem right to not invite them. For friends with boyfriends, I would only invite them if it is a serious relationship (not if they just started dating). JMO!

I agree.

smurray Posted: Nov 22, 2005 09:30 AM

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Posted by babybug631

Posted by Junebride06

I think fiances are a must - it doesn't seem right to not invite them. For friends with boyfriends, I would only invite them if it is a serious relationship (not if they just started dating). JMO!

Took the words right out of my mouthb

littlebookworm4 Posted: Nov 22, 2005 09:36 AM

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if they have a FI or a long time sig other then I do think it would be rude not to invite them.

LisaJill Posted: Nov 22, 2005 10:02 AM

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You def. should invite fiances. My fiance was invited to a WEDDING without me and we LIVE together and now, there is not a snow balls chance in he!! that he and his wife are being invited to my wedding. My FI actually WENT. sometimes he sooo lacks in the social grace category

marymoon Posted: Nov 22, 2005 11:27 AM

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I think it's disrespectufl, especially if they've been dating awhile or are engaged. Without question. If I were invited to a party without FH, I just wouldn't go and I'd be pissed off

JessicaM. Posted: Nov 22, 2005 11:32 AM

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Posted by siobhanB

My friend who was paying for her wedding herself, invited me to her rehearsal dinner w/o my fiance, and I totally understood.. I think maybe it depends on who the people are... if they are close friends, then you would hope they'd be understanding about it, but if they aren't as close to you, they may be upset if they were invited solo...

the only people that would go to the RD are those that are PARTICIPATING in the ceremony itself and therefore in the
rehearsal itself.

the 'extra' people (spouses, sig others) can be invited if you can swing it financially, but if you can't, I don't think anyone should EXPECT you to put yourself out- I think that EXPECTATION is rude.

do what you can. honestly, if the people you have chosen to include so intimately in you special event are WORTHY of the honor, they should understand how prohibitive the cost is of all of these things.