Is it rude when people . . .

12-3Princess Posted: Sep 10, 2005 08:35 AM

Is it rude when people . . .

skip the ceremony and only attend the reception? I'm of course only talking about when the two are in different places, e.g., like when the ceremony is at a Church or Temple and the reception is elsewhere.

thanks!

edsprincess Posted: Sep 10, 2005 08:38 AM

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I went to my cousins ceremony in a church and a lot of them didn't show. And not all of them were in appropriate attire. Is it rude- yes and no. Depending what time it is some people still may be at work or just getting home to shower and get dressed. I make sure I'm there for it.

ChrissynRicky Posted: Sep 10, 2005 08:41 AM

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I don't think it's rude at all...but then again, I do sometimes skip the ceremony and go straight to the reception.

For a few reasons:
- if the reception and ceremony are hours apart and in different locations
- I'm not that close to the couple

jes81276 Posted: Sep 10, 2005 08:42 AM

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Unfortunately some people just don't consider it important.....I make it a point to go to the ceremony and hope that people will do the same for me. However, I am getting married at 4pm on a Friday so I know that people will not be able to get off work, make it from out of town, etc. at that time. I knew this when I booked the date, but the most important people will be there and for me that is what really matters.

micmar Posted: Sep 10, 2005 08:46 AM

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I say it depends upon how close you are to the couple, where you live - i.e. if you live far away & have nowhere to go in between or just simply cannot make it that early.

blushingbride2006 Posted: Sep 10, 2005 09:08 AM

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i think so!
why go to a wedding reception and not the ceremony!!!

103005FallBride Posted: Sep 10, 2005 09:19 AM

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I personally HATE when people do that. To me the entire reason I go to a wedding is to see the couple unite...which to me is the ceremony. So many weddings I've gone to have hardly anyone at the ceremony then tons at the reception...to me...it's rude, but it's seem like it's the norm...

MissingTheBGene Posted: Sep 10, 2005 09:27 AM

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It depends. Sometimes I couldn't make the ceremony, but I usually try to make it. It depends on how close I am with the couple as well, but again, I always make the effort to go.

littlebookworm4 Posted: Sep 10, 2005 09:31 AM

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i don't think so. i'd rather be at the reception myself.

PeterNChris Posted: Sep 10, 2005 09:53 AM

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If you mean that much to a couple to be invited you should most certainly do all your best to make it to the ceremony!

franksgirl323 Posted: Sep 10, 2005 09:58 AM

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This is why we decided to get married at the location or the reception. I am sure there will be many more people present at the ceremony than if it were in a church. My ceremony is at 5:30 and cocktail hour at 6:00.

jimmysgrl Posted: Sep 10, 2005 10:15 AM

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Tons and tons of people don't go to the ceremony. Out of 150, most of the time only 50 show up. In some ways, its kind of tacky but other people, who don't really see the religous aspect of it as important as the reception, have their reasons. I personally wouldn't do that to someone but thats just my opinion.

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Sep 10, 2005 10:19 AM

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I don't think its rude... like other people said its depends on how close you are to the couple. If one of my family or close friends didn't come, I would be upset.
I usually try to go, there was once time I didn't - I was shocked to be invited to the wedding in the first place, I wasn't close to the couple, and secondly, the ceremony was in Queens, and the reception was in Holbrook.. that was a little too much traveling for me.

BRIDEMICHELE Posted: Sep 10, 2005 10:28 AM

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Posted by 103005FallBride

I personally HATE when people do that. To me the entire reason I go to a wedding is to see the couple unite...which to me is the ceremony. So many weddings I've gone to have hardly anyone at the ceremony then tons at the reception...to me...it's rude, but it's seem like it's the norm...

I agree! If you can possibly make it to the ceremony you should get there! There are some exceptions but for the most part it's the most important part so guests should make sure they get there!

Diane Posted: Sep 10, 2005 10:30 AM

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I think it depends on the day of the week. I had a Fiday wedding, and I didnt expect a lot of people at the church, because they had to work. It depends on how close the church and reception are in distance and time.
I dont think it is rude to skip the church at all.

prinses777 Posted: Sep 10, 2005 10:31 AM

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I think it kind of depends...

If the wedding is on a Friday... I think it is OK, it is really hard for people to take off or leave super early to go to a wedding... Especially when you have 5 in the same yr... All around the same time (Like I did this summer)

I still did take off and go... But I know it was hard for a lot of other people.

As for Sat and Sun weddings... I think people should def attend out of respect.

i102bcute Posted: Sep 10, 2005 10:56 AM

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I don't think it's rude. Sometimes people can't travel to both places because of work.

kbeana24 Posted: Sep 10, 2005 12:00 PM

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Personally, I feel that the ceremony is when you really get married, and the reception is the party after.

If there is not a huge gap inbetween the C and Recep, and work is not an issue, then yeah I do think its rude. If you can come to the big party with food and booze, then you can show up to watch the union as husband and wife. JMO

BKtoLI Posted: Sep 10, 2005 12:10 PM

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I think it's kind of rude, but there are exceptions to the rule like work and distance.

Our wedding is on a Sunday at 4:30 and the CH starts at 5:00 in the same location, so I'm hoping most of my guests will make the ceremony as well as the reception!! (That and I'm not putting the time of the reception with the invites!! All I put is ceremony at 4:30 with reception immediately after!!)

babybug631 Posted: Sep 10, 2005 01:03 PM

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In my experience, close friends and family go to the ceremony. Co-workers, parents friends, and other people not as close to the couple will sometimes skip the ceremony. I have a friend that lives an hour away from here, my ceremony is at 3 pm and my reception starts at 7 pm. I don't expect her to come because there's such a huge time difference.