Posted by Michy
I would invite everyone with guests but hopefully if they are not dating anyone than they will not bring a date.
not tacky at all, not seriuos not engaged not invited.. i hope thats not too harsh. but we are trying to cut the list also people should understand
Posted by portjeffbride
If your single friends are self-assured, they likely will show up alone, and decline the + guest offer. If they get stressed by social situations, they may feel VERY uncomfortable to not be able to bring a social crutch (ie- a person to dance, eat, and talk with....). After all, during weddings, people have a tendency to pair up.....
Keep in mind, weddings can be awkward to singles.... from the DJ's forcing all single/divorced 30+somethings and widow(ers) participate in the bouquet/garter toss, to the 'can't bring a guest' phenomenon.
Posted by kismet8601
We didnt invite everyone with a guest. If they didnt know anyone then we did, if they had gf or bf that we have met they are invited with a guest. I understand that Im not really the one to decide who has a real relationship or not, but Im not interested in meeting new people at my wedding-maybe im wrong for feeling that way but oh well, I cant make everyone happy all the time
Posted by portjeffbride
If your single friends are self-assured, they likely will show up alone, and decline the + guest offer. If they get stressed by social situations, they may feel VERY uncomfortable to not be able to bring a social crutch (ie- a person to dance, eat, and talk with....). After all, during weddings, people have a tendency to pair up.....
Keep in mind, weddings can be awkward to singles.... from the DJ's forcing all single/divorced 30+somethings and widow(ers) participate in the bouquet/garter toss, to the 'can't bring a guest' phenomenon.
I personally think it's tacky if most of the crew is attached. If the majority of the group is single, then I think you can get away with it but if almost everyone has some type of significant other, you have to invite all with guests. That's JMO
Posted by MattandTricia07
hey wendi, had to respond...
while I do agree that people over a certain age should be invited with a guest, your group of friends from high school have each other, so bringing someone might make them feel awkward if they bring someone and even if they don't. I mean, your group from high school still hangs out together all the time, so they are going to know everyone and have fun. just my opinion though- why invite those extra 30 people??? when I'm sure most people wouldn't mind. I've only heard about 1 or 2 comments from the high school group about not inviting them with a guest and it really isn't a big deal once we explained that it would be too huge of a guest list. However, if you and Chris can do it, go for it.
(for those reading- Wendi's high school group of friends is also my FH's)
Posted by gonzo23456
Posted by MattandTricia07
hey wendi, had to respond...
while I do agree that people over a certain age should be invited with a guest, your group of friends from high school have each other, so bringing someone might make them feel awkward if they bring someone and even if they don't. I mean, your group from high school still hangs out together all the time, so they are going to know everyone and have fun. just my opinion though- why invite those extra 30 people??? when I'm sure most people wouldn't mind. I've only heard about 1 or 2 comments from the high school group about not inviting them with a guest and it really isn't a big deal once we explained that it would be too huge of a guest list. However, if you and Chris can do it, go for it.
(for those reading- Wendi's high school group of friends is also my FH's)
Trish,
Thanks for the support. You are so cute! I know you ran into the same problem. We have gone back and forth on this. AHHHHH! The wonderful things about weddings![]()
. Thankgod it is still awhile away.
I'm not going to invite people w/guests unless they are dating someone. My prob is that some people don't use their option for a guest well. One of my BMs seems to think she is entitled to bring whomever she wants, including a guy she was randomly sleeping with who does cocaine. I am not ok with that. She might also just randomly find a girlfriend to bring. She knows plenty of people there and will be busy w/me most of the night. Of course if they are dating someone, or don't know anybody I would include a guest. But no one at my wedding falls into that category
Posted by beeinsilly
I think anyone over 21 should be invited with a guest - it is not for us to determine how 'serious' their relationship is or is not and adults should have the option to bring someone - Sorry, JMHO
I would do what you have to do. If they are good friends-they will understand.
sometimes people will just assume that they should bring a guest - so dont forget to take that into account
