Is it wrong...UPDATE

that I want the RSVP cards to come to my house? both our parents are paying for the wedding. but my parents live in long island, his parents live in queens and we live in brooklyn. i really want the excitement of coming home to a mailbox full of envelopes! my mom was expecting me to put her address.

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Update: So I told my mom that the girls on LIW agree with me. i explained why i want the rsvps coming to me and she said ok!

woohoo!! now i want to send them out so i can watch them come in.

thanks ladies!

The RSVP's are returned to the people who are hosting the wedding......I can understand why you want them to come to your house though

I am paying for the whole wedding myself, so there was no way those rsvp cards were going to anyone but me!

I don't know how other people handle these situations...i think the brise should receive them, but when it comes to who is paying things get sticky...

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Posted by shopaholic07

The RSVP's are returned to the people who are hosting the wedding......I can understand why you want them to come to your house though

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but both sets of parents are hosting. who gets the envelopes? and is it horrible if i really comes to me?

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Posted by qtdimps23

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Posted by shopaholic07

The RSVP's are returned to the people who are hosting the wedding......I can understand why you want them to come to your house though

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but both sets of parents are hosting. who gets the envelopes? and is it horrible if i really comes to me?

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Since both sets of parent are hosting, I don't see why the RSVP's shouldn't be returned to you. It will make keeping track of everything much easier.

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Posted by shopaholic07


Since both sets of parent are hosting, I don't see why the RSVP's shouldn't be returned to you. It will make keeping track of everything much easier.

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i like your thinking

Both sets of parents are hosting ourreception, but the RSVPs are coming to my house (I live with my parents) because it's easier for me to manage the replies.

I honestly think they should go to whoever is keeping track of the RSVPS...otherwise you need to collect bulks of RSVPs each time you go to your parents' homes. I think that is a stress that you don't need.

JMO

it may not be traditional, but i dont think there's anything wrong with it...as long as your mom isn't hurt

yeah i agree, just talk it out w/ ur mom ....tell her it'd be better if u had them so u can do the final count and plan/ seating arrangements etc
so that 'headache' isnt put on he r

i think its actually the best solution so you dont hurt either set of parents' feelings. If they are sent to one set of parents, the other may think they are the 'true host' which isnt the case.

I am kind of glad we had them sent to my parents though, cause now I can call my mom every hour to see if the mail came to her house yet so she can read them to me. Otherwise they'd be sitting in our mailbox and I wouldnt know who RSVP'd until we got home at lke 8 at night, and I coudlnt deal with that.

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Posted by shopaholic07

The RSVP's are returned to the people who are hosting the wedding......I can understand why you want them to come to your house though

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i agree!

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Posted by Snickers76

I am paying for the whole wedding myself, so there was no way those rsvp cards were going to anyone but me!

I don't know how other people handle these situations...i think the brise should receive them, but when it comes to who is paying things get sticky...

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I second that. We are paying for everything and the RSVPs are coming to moi....not ma or ma in law to be but moi...

Even if they werent I would still want to get them so that I know who is or isnt coming

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Posted by qtdimps23

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Posted by shopaholic07

The RSVP's are returned to the people who are hosting the wedding......I can understand why you want them to come to your house though

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but both sets of parents are hosting. who gets the envelopes? and is it horrible if i really comes to me?

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Just for the sake of avoiding confusion the RSVP should go to you :) since both parents are paying, you are the neutral party (not to mention one of the 2 key player's THE BRIDE!)

I agree with you, they should come to you

My parents are paying and so I am. They really dont care about where they come. My parents are so busy they won't be able to keep count anyway. They just want to know how much cash I need.

You should have them come to you- its your day- so you should get to check out who is coming.....

xo