Is this BS or what...

So, here is latest BS FH and I have to go through.. FH has a brother who lives in Buffalo. Back when we 1st got engaged obviously FH asked him to be in the wedding and as a courtesy to him and his wife we put their son (FH nephew) in the wedding as the RB. Fast forward to last month when we went to order the tuxes we asked them a month in advance to get his and his son's measurements taken so we could order their tuxes, pay the deposit and they would pay the rest. Took them forever to get it to us and finally the night before the appt they get it to us. Come to find out Men's Wearhouse actually needs additional measurements and told us to tell them to go to a location near them which would be easier. I was kinda hesitant because I felt like if they took this long to get us the damn measurements they are going to take forever to go to the actual store. So, when we call FH mother who lives in Buffalo with the brother (cuz his brother never answers his phone) to tell them, finally his brother gets on the phone and says he can't afford his tux rental. ***?! They expected us to pay for everything? We were already trying to help out by ordering it for them and willing to pay a deposit but I guess he expected we were paying for EVERYTHING! we have enough to pay for with this wedding, we cant afford to pay his and his sons rentals. So, FH tells him, look if u can't afford your tux and can't be in the wedding fine but pay at least 1/2 of his sons and we'll pay the other 1/2. His brother said ok.

So now, 2 days ago, I get a message on Facebook from the brothers wife saying 'I'm sorry to inform you this way but we won't be able to attend the wedding. FH mom still wants to go so you guys need to make arrangements'. I'm sure I don't need to tell you all that I was livid!! I tell FH, have you spoken to your mom or your brother? He says no so I tell him the message I just received and he is pissed. He calls his mom to find out what's going on and she's doesn't even know that her own son just backed out of the wedding!!! His mom starts crying on the phone because she's like I can't believe him and I still want to go how am I going to get there and we told her not to worry. FH speaks to his mom yesterday who is so mad and upset at her son, who tells her he can't go be because he can't get the time off work. SMFH! Really?!?! You are going to miss your only brothers wedding for some lame excuse like that and not even have the balls to call your brother yourself and have a conversation with him?! You have your wife send me some BS message on FB? Fckn unreal! Of course I messaged back the wife and told her how I felt (in a nice way) and all she responds is ok. FH isn't really showing it but I know he's hurt. He says, if my brother doesn't show up I am never speaking to him again. So sad smh

Sorry for my really long post but I know all you girls can relate in some way with the drama a family causes during this time. It's so ridiculous!

Is this BS or what... - Long Island Weddings

I can't believe how rude that is. Can't get off work? I'm sure they have known the date for several months, that is no excuse! I hope it all works out for you, you don't need this kind of stress.

Is this BS or what... - Long Island Weddings

That is so ridiculous and the last thing you need to be dealing with right now. We had something similar (his sister sent the RSVP checked no, without any sort of heads up), so I can relate. I hope his brother realizes he's being an *** and decides to come -with a big apology.

Is this BS or what... - Long Island Weddings

Clearly his priorities are somewhere else. Now your FH knows where he stands. Sucks to say, but its the truth. Unfortunately you cant pick your family...

Is this BS or what... - Long Island Weddings

I'm sorry this is happening to you. I hope they decide to still go to your wedding. I really hope they have a change of heart. Keep us posted.

Is this BS or what... - Long Island Weddings

Thanks girls... It's so ridiculous but yup, peoples true colors show. His brother obviously could care less about his brother or our wedding. If he really wanted to be their he would find a way! On top of this one of his sisters STILL doesn't know if she's coming either! Her excuses are baby sitter for her kids and getting there. But we expected this from her from the beginning. Mind you, we have been engaged almost 2.5 years so everyone has had PLENTY of time to get their crap in order. FH family is something else!

Is this BS or what... - Long Island Weddings

We've had very similar experiences with FHs family. In the end, it looks like they're all coming, but won't be part of the bridal party. I have to respect that. Mind you, this turn around only happened last week.

Is his mother in a position to help them financially for the occasion? (Realizing that they had 2.5 years to prepare....some people are just very self centered and will always be that way.)

Is this BS or what... - Long Island Weddings

So sorry they're doing this to you and FH! Normally if it were a friend I would say then eff them you don't need him around but to have it be his brother acting this way is unreal.

Is this BS or what... - Long Island Weddings

So sorry to hear. That's crazy though. Obv money is tight for everyone but they shoulda told u guys that from the beginning.

Is this BS or what... - Long Island Weddings

I'm so sorry, they sound awful. On the bright side, it's fewer people you have to pay for!!!!

Is this BS or what... - Long Island Weddings

I;m sorry to hear that....it sounds like there is more to the story. That may just be a cover up!!

Is this BS or what... - Long Island Weddings

I'm sorry to hear about what your dealing with. I think it's hard for some people to step aside and put the needs of others before their own, even if it is a very special occasion. It's messed up that he gave his wife the task of telling you over facebook, that is low.

I hope things work out and that they get their S together and come.