Is this kinda rude- or was I being sensitive...(long-ish)

kahlua716 Posted: May 08, 2007 08:47 AM

Is this kinda rude- or was I being sensitive...(long-ish)

I received this email from a DJ that had contacted me through an ad I posted on craigslist looking for a bagpiper to play for 10 minutes outside the church. When he replied to the ad, I mentioned that I also needed a DJ. He responded that he would be available and I wrote back, 'where are you located and when would be a good time to meet?'

I made several appointments with LIW DJ vendors and waited for a response from him- here is what I got today:

'

We spoke on May 1 regarding setting up a meeting to speak about DJ services. I still have not heard from you. You can call me to set up an appointment or kindly respond back via e-mail to let me know you do not need my help any longer. Please work with me here, the longer you wait to book a wedding DJ, the harder it becomes to plan the perfect day.

Once again, I look forward to hearing from you'

I took it as kind of rude in tone and wrote back Please work with you? I sent you an email asking when would be a good time. That was 7 days ago- I have a job and a life and I haven't had the chance to call yet, and obviously, you haven't had the time to answer my question through email. I won't be needing your services. '

Did I over react, or was he rude (The 'Please work with me here' thing)?

I'm thinking I may really have bridezilla/PMS brain this morning....

tricia3381 Posted: May 08, 2007 08:49 AM

Re: Is this kinda rude- or was I being sensitive...(long-ish)

i don't think it was rude. i think he was trying to let u know hes doing his best to work with u and that if u want him u need to book asap. JMO

babylon bride Posted: May 08, 2007 08:59 AM

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I think it sounds a little rude/pushy
JMO

kahlua716 Posted: May 08, 2007 09:01 AM

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Posted by tricia3381

i don't think it was rude. i think he was trying to let u know hes doing his best to work with u and that if u want him u need to book asap. JMO

Luckily he was on aol, so I was able to unsend the message for now...thanks for the opinion

kahlua716 Posted: May 08, 2007 09:02 AM

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Posted by babylon bride

I think it sounds a little rude/pushy
JMO

Glad to hear I'm not being totally bridezilla...lol. Thanks!

nycgirl79 Posted: May 08, 2007 09:11 AM

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Posted by babylon bride

I think it sounds a little rude/pushy
JMO

I agree....I don't think you're being overly sensitive - I would have been irritated too!

Shorty McBride Posted: May 08, 2007 09:14 AM

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His choice of wording was not the best, but I think he was trying to do the right thing and follow up with you. Its possible he never got your email from 7 days ago.

IMO, I would just respond civilly with the dates you're available to meet, and give him 2 days to get back to you.

Katie&Chris2006 Posted: May 08, 2007 09:19 AM

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Posted by nycgirl79

Posted by babylon bride

I think it sounds a little rude/pushy
JMO

I agree....I don't think you're being overly sensitive - I would have been irritated too!

same here

SusiBtoM Posted: May 08, 2007 09:22 AM

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It does sound a bit pushy, but then again it could just be missed messages.
Call him, set up a meeting, and feel him out.
If he really is pushy - next !

dianadrw Posted: May 08, 2007 09:46 AM

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That would have pi$$ed me off. His choice of wording was not appropriate.

bonitachyc Posted: May 08, 2007 09:46 AM

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that merit's a vocal 'ewwww!'

army wife to be Posted: May 08, 2007 09:49 AM

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well alls good if the email was unsent.. even it werent.. who cares... if ur not booking him then u'll never see him again so it won't matter if u went bridezilla!! haha but u def didnt.. he let his agitation show, though politely, in his e-mail. In a professional business he shouldn't have done that.

Pencils Posted: May 08, 2007 09:50 AM

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He was kinda rude. But he might not have seen the email you sent, or forgot that he read it, or forgot that he didn't reply. When you do a lot of spec business by email, it must be easy to get confused as to which bride is which.

That said, he doesn't sound like someone you want to work with--you want someone who takes notice of your messages, and who is polite if he doesn't know what's going on. Just send him a message saying you won't be needing him.

SuzArtie69 Posted: May 08, 2007 09:53 AM

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I think mor pushy and I hate that. It could've been a misunderstanding too, but go with your gut. Do you really want to work with someone like that then. They are doing their sale pitch too, but he should've checked his e-mail first.

Nlynn Posted: May 08, 2007 10:58 AM

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Oh ... He does sound a little rude. I like your response.

2Be1 Posted: May 08, 2007 11:02 AM

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I agree that his choice/use of words were not great, but yours weren't either. I would have just ignored him, but if I had PMS like you said than I probably would have given him the same response

Kelly79 Posted: May 08, 2007 11:04 AM

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Posted by SusiBtoM

It does sound a bit pushy, but then again it could just be missed messages.
Call him, set up a meeting, and feel him out.
If he really is pushy - next !

I agree!

BlushingBride714 Posted: May 08, 2007 11:09 AM

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Posted by Shorty McBride

His choice of wording was not the best, but I think he was trying to do the right thing and follow up with you. Its possible he never got your email from 7 days ago.

IMO, I would just respond civilly with the dates you're available to meet, and give him 2 days to get back to you.

I agree - your email might have gone into a spam folder that he doesn't check. I would give him the benefit of the doubt and meet with him. It's hard to read the 'tone' a person was trying to convey in an email - maybe he was being geniune. If you still get the feeling that he is being pushy when you meet, then look for a diff DJ.

Aug07OFCbride Posted: May 08, 2007 12:15 PM

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he sounds a bit pushy! 'please work with me here?' give me a break!

diva7531 Posted: May 08, 2007 12:25 PM

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Yeah, I think he chose the wrong wording. I would do a search on him, here, on the knot, and BBB. Is he new, does he have a good rep? Check him out first.