I knew a friend who was under her minimum what she did was had a few new invitations printed with a later rsvp and sent them out. I think its kind of rude but if they didn't know when your rsvp was than maybe you can get away it. To ask guest now is like saying 'your second best'.
I like this idea as well hell Im going to have a few printed this way just in case!
stefandken
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i dont think its rude.. one of my friends invited me after the rsvp date.. and i was fine with it.. i was just happy to go
nifheim
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i would invite people who you didn't get to invite that you are closer with. Like for us if we knew 8 people wouldn't show the day of we would of invited our neighbor's children who i grew up with. I have invited my neighbor so it wouldn't of been odd. More of if you have someone else to bring bring them as well.
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to be totally honest hun I would feel uncomfortable to do it...my friend was invited to a friend's wedding after knowing they were under the min. and she was HIGHLY offended..I would be also .... sorry
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I did this , but I printed up new rsvp cards first so they wouldn't know they were last minute invites
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IMO i would be offended knowing i was only invited to fill a seat. I think if you can space it out so that the invitation comes in enough advance that they won't think they were invited after the others, then fine.. but if they already know invites went out to others and knew they were originally not invited then no..
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If u want them there invite them.
hyphenbride
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Technically, I think it is a little rude, but I would do it anyway.
I would just print up new RSVPs.
RockysGirl
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i personally don't feel like it's rude to invite people late, depending on who it is. I had a coworker that i wasn't really 'close' with. But we hung out a bit at work, and on the day before her wedding she called me and said that somebody had just canceled out on her, and she asked if i would come in their place. She even squeezed me into the table where friends of mine who HAD been invited were sitting, so that was nice. I didn't think it was rude at all, since it's not as though we're close enough that i should have been invited in the first place. In fact i thought it was nice that I was the one she thought of. lol.
I have a back-up list as well... just in case.
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I think it depends who, maybe you can invite your best friend mom and dad who you know but where not priority in the list, or tell single people that they can bring a date if they want etc
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It depends on who you are inviting and how you approach this. If it is people who do not have a date you can now tell them to bring one along or some co-workers that you know won't really get offended and would like to enjoy a night out.
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I think it all depends on the people you are inviting.
lila
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i know people will disagree with me but I think it's much worse to lie, especially in a way where you can get caught. ie: printing new response cards.... you dont want them to find out from someone else or after the fact and realize you were trying to deceive them
i mean, you could always call and play dumb and say.... hey, our rsvp date just passed and we didn't hear from you, just want to make sure you got our invitation but i personally wouldn't feel comfortable doing that (especially if its to a bunch of people)
it really depends on who it is and how you approach it. if it was coworkers who you werent close with i'd just tell them the truth, that numbers were tight and you wanted to invite them but needed to wait to hear from some family members first, and stress how much you'd like them to come. if someone did that to me i wouldnt be offended and i would understand.
if it was a close friend, i'd be pissed.
little34
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No I would do it
megsher
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I think its fine to invite coworkers or something this way, but don't hide it. I'd be very upfront.
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I feel it is how you do it.. in fact I was approached by a coworker as well as a whole table full of coworkers late and we completely understood and had a great time
if that route doesn't work- I'll come!!
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it depends who.... you could invite coworkers for example and say that you really wanted to invite them but were limited in space so you had to wait to hear from family before you could invite them, but that you really hope they could be there etc
its all about how you do it
I agree with this... I'm sure there are some people you've spoken to about the wedding but understood that the guest list was limited... I bet they'd want to come! Best bet at this time though is to be honest. Don't lie and say, 'Oh, your invitation got returned to me in the mail!'
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Get one of those DIY invitation sets at Michaels or Target.. change the RSVP Date to one much later .....
just send those out to those people... they wont know any difference... problem solved.
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Thanks everyone for your advice. I invited the neighbors since we just moved in & a friend or a friend. That totals 8 people.....so I hope they can come. If not.......it is what it is.
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Posted by MnM182008
I knew a friend who was under her minimum what she did was had a few new invitations printed with a later rsvp and sent them out. I think its kind of rude but if they didn't know when your rsvp was than maybe you can get away it. To ask guest now is like saying 'your second best'.
