In my opinion It depends on who it is. If it is coworkers, casual friends or neighbors then I do not think it is rude, but if it is close friends or family members then I think you might be playing with fire because they will probably know that they are last minute invites and feel insulted.
Posted by megsher
I think its fine to invite coworkers or something this way, but don't hide it. I'd be very upfront.
If you do that, you need to make sure you don't include the card that says 'RSVP by this date' so thta people don't realize the situation. Including the RSVP date would be rude, not doing that isn't. How would they ever know?
I would send them and make up new RSVP cards with a different date. I don't think you could send them out with a date that has passed on it. Buy plain cards and print new ones and send them out.
I think if you let them know that you had to worry about family first and then friends or coworkers they will understand and be happy that you thought of them. If you say they were on your invite list but Iyou have a large family so you had to wait and see if there would be room to invite non family members due to the budget it would be OK.
I did this a few weeks before the wedding. I actually emailed 3 people who I am friendly, not close friends with,and told them the real deal -- we were trying to keep the numbers small and couldn't invite everyone we would have liked to. Now with the date approaching, we realize we have more space, and would like to invite them, and hope they aren't offended by the short notice. I also asked for their address so I can send them a proper invitation. All 3 wrote back how honored the were that I thought of them at all, and 2 of the 3 came. I ended up being 2 below my minimum, which was fine -- we paid full price for 2 of our vendors.
I would go with paying full price for kids or vendors...but I did go to an awesome wedding a few years ago where I assume the couple was under the minimum because the waiters came around with extras. They must have cooked the last '10' dinners the couple had to pay for sliced them up thin and everyone got to taste the 3 dishes they didn't order. It was awesome. I oredered chicken, but got to taste steak. It was pretty cool better than just paying for 10 dinners you don't eat. Plus I still tell people about it to this day. It made a great impression on the guests everyone thought it was so classy, it wasn't until I was planning a wedding that I realized they must have been under their minimum.
Posted by lila
it depends who.... you could invite coworkers for example and say that you really wanted to invite them but were limited in space so you had to wait to hear from family before you could invite them, but that you really hope they could be there etc
its all about how you do it
not at all...
Posted by traci506
I actually think it's a bit rude. Going to a wedding is a big expense...and I wouldnt want to go and spend all the money for someone who didnt include me until they needed to fill spots. I totally understand the situation you are in...but i think you should just pay for the empty seats and hope the RH will throw something else in for free! : )
Like they all say it depends on how you do it. If people know the rsvp date passed then they get invited they know its to make a min. Do it they way the other brides said to that seems safe.
No, I don't think it is rude. Maybe print up your own RSVP card and slip it into the invite and just give them a short response time.
