Is this too rude to email to FH????

A little background: I have been chasing him to find out if these people are coming since March 15th, 3 days after R.S.V.P date. I need to know because I have to give my table numbers to the florist. He has don nothing to get me my answers. So my mother and father called me again today and I got annoyed so I wrote this in the heat of my anger. Is it too rude to send?


Tom~Tom
Please find out if that guy Don is coming to the wedding. If you don't find out I will call Brinkmann myself and get his extention or worse have him paged. If you do not want to die of embarressment then you will do this on your own. Also you need to find out about Melissa as well. If you let it go and she shows I will make a point of telling her to leave. I really have no use for her in my life anyways but regardless you claim she is such a 'good friend' then why has she not responded???? I don't care about Jay and if he does show up I'll stick him somewhere. I am calling Phil now to see if he can find out what the hell Charlie is doing. I am sorry to be yelling at you but I do not need this added stress right now! I know you are busy at work but I cant see how hard it is to ask this guy if he is coming or not since you said you eat lunch with him. Pleaase Please find out! I dont want to hear my mother AND fathers voice anymore!!!!!!!


I know this is long but I was mad. If I am overreacting please tell me, lately I think I am getting mad about everything since the wedding is so close.

i don't think that i would send this...I argued with my fiance about sending an invite to mr and mrs. big dog....and all I got was more stress.

just mention to him that you need to tell the vendors your #'s and if he can't get u this info by tomorrow afternoon...then u will assume that these people are not coming and their will be no place for them at the reception

It's understandable that you are mad, but I think this is just going to make him mad and less responsive - although I don't know your FH.

I find I get a better response from FH when I issue him very direct emails with bullet points of the things I need him to do. NOW. If he has not done it, I just get firmer - not naggier. In my experience, when men are nagged at, it somehow reminds them of mom nagging, and they are less responsive. Treat him like an adult and see what kind of response you get.

Try:

TODAY YOU NEED TO DO THE FOLLOWING:

- ask Charlie if he is coming
- ask so and so why they have not sent their responses yet.

I'm serious - I have a deadline and you are not respecting it. Please help me out here.


or something like that...

I kinda figured that we would the answer. But to tell you the truth it did make me feel better to get all my anger out! Thats a bonus lol! Now if I can just get the R.S.V.P's! I'll just count them out, I can't chase people I just dont have the time for it! Thanks for the advice

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Posted by Bunnymonkey

It's understandable that you are mad, but I think this is just going to make him mad and less responsive - although I don't know your FH.

I find I get a better response from FH when I issue him very direct emails with bullet points of the things I need him to do. NOW. If he has not done it, I just get firmer - not naggier. In my experience, when men are nagged at, it somehow reminds them of mom nagging, and they are less responsive. Treat him like an adult and see what kind of response you get.

Try:

TODAY YOU NEED TO DO THE FOLLOWING:

- ask Charlie if he is coming
- ask so and so why they have not sent their responses yet.

I'm serious - I have a deadline and you are not respecting it. Please help me out here.


or something like that...

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I am going to try it the way you suggested. I will delete my current email and re-write the way you have suggested. Lets see if that works lol. Thanks!

I edited it more before I actually posted it on here! I let things go and then when it builds up I explode. But I like I said I will try to be nice but if that doesn't work he better watch out!

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Posted by civic24ex

A little background: I have been chasing him to find out if these people are coming since March 15th, 3 days after R.S.V.P date. I need to know because I have to give my table numbers to the florist. He has don nothing to get me my answers. So my mother and father called me again today and I got annoyed so I wrote this in the heat of my anger. Is it too rude to send?


Tom~Tom
Please find out if that guy Don is coming to the wedding. If you don't find out I will call Brinkmann myself and get his extention or worse have him paged. If you do not want to die of embarressment then you will do this on your own. Also you need to find out about Melissa as well. If you let it go and she shows I will make a point of telling her to leave. I really have no use for her in my life anyways but regardless you claim she is such a 'good friend' then why has she not responded???? I don't care about Jay and if he does show up I'll stick him somewhere. I am calling Phil now to see if he can find out what the hell Charlie is doing. I am sorry to be yelling at you but I do not need this added stress right now! I know you are busy at work but I cant see how hard it is to ask this guy if he is coming or not since you said you eat lunch with him. Pleaase Please find out! I dont want to hear my mother AND fathers voice anymore!!!!!!!


I know this is long but I was mad. If I am overreacting please tell me, lately I think I am getting mad about everything since the wedding is so close.

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I thought it was AWESOME!!

I think you've given me a preview of myself in three weeks! I think I should prepare FH to get his friends' phone numbers in order next week.

There was a thread on BHB earlier today with someone complaining that a B2B wanted to know before the RSVP date if they're coming to the wedding. It's interesting to see how different two sides of similar situations can be.

How'd it go? did you get the results?