Is this weird?

I found out from one of my BM's last night that part of their plan for my B-party is to have a big slumber party (awesome) at FIL's house

Apparently FSIL decided to ask FIL's to go away that weekend since it's their anniversary, and that way we'd have the whole house to ourselves. I'm very weirded out by this, and I'm very uncomfortable with it. I told FH I'm almost positive it's because FSIL doesn't want to come all the way back to Massapequa (where I live) when we could just end the night in Lynbrook (where FIL's) live, because she's done sh!t like this before.

I just don't understand why we wouldn't all leave and then come back to MY house.......instead the plan is to all meet up, leave from, and then sleep over FIL's house........not to mention, I don't know where everyone will put their cars, because in Lynbrook you can't park on the street overnight. I also always had this idea in my head of leaving my own house with my mother kind of sending us off on our way. AND it's my FIL's house for god sakes!!!!!!!!!!

Am I being a b!tch? Should I just s*ck it up and deal with it? Or should I say something? I mentioned to my BM last night that I'm not sure I'm comfortable with that, and she said she thinks it's because there are going to be a lot of girls and there's more room that way. But I can easily make the room in my house too.

I'm kind of stuck and don't know whether or not I should just roll with it or say something

Honestly, if you're uncomfortable with it, you should say something. I would way rather be at my house then my FIL's house overnight.
And if this is all being done by your FSIL to make HER more comfy, that's really unfair on her part.

Good luck!!

Honestly, if you are uncomfortable with it SAY SOMETHING or at least tell your MOH and have her say something. It's your wedding and when FSIL has her wedding, she can do her slumber party at her house, lol, but in all seriousness, don't do anything that'll make you uncomfortable because then you won't really enjoy your night

I think you should say something. Just ask if there was a reason she wanted to do it that way and express the fact that you are uncomfortable with it.
It doesnt make sense for you to feel that way on your night!

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Posted by barbtony

I would mention it and see where it goes.

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ITa...good luck

say something!

i'm all about being a bridezilla lately

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Posted by jilliibabii

I don't see why you're all that uncomfortable with it, but if it's really bothering you, then say something!

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I'm uncomfortable because it means I'm going to be drunk and hungover at FIL's house. I realize they won't be there, but I feel like that's weird. And where are we supposed to sleep? I won't sleep in FIL's bed (ewwww), and I would feel weird sleeping in FH's old bed. And while I am a part of FH's family (and have been for 10 years), I still don't like to just go through their cabinets and help myself to things.

I would just prefer to be at my own house, where I can get up in the middle of the night and help myself to a glass of water, coffee, whatever and sleep in my own bed.

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Posted by Lsorrent

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Posted by jilliibabii

I don't see why you're all that uncomfortable with it, but if it's really bothering you, then say something!

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I'm uncomfortable because it means I'm going to be drunk and hungover at FIL's house. I realize they won't be there, but I feel like that's weird. And where are we supposed to sleep? I won't sleep in FIL's bed (ewwww), and I would feel weird sleeping in FH's old bed. And while I am a part of FH's family (and have been for 10 years), I still don't like to just go through their cabinets and help myself to things.

I would just prefer to be at my own house, where I can get up in the middle of the night and help myself to a glass of water, coffee, whatever and sleep in my own bed.

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Haha well definitely don't sleep in FIL's bed. THAT is weird. I guess it all depends on what kind of relationship you have with FILs. I've been there hungover many a time, I've spent the night before, and I've rifled through their cabinets. LOL! And they got rid of FH's old bed a long time ago so I slept in the guest bedroom or on the couch!

They won't be home, I'd just make myself comfortable!

I totally get that you feel weird. The times that I stay of FMIL's I have FH practically escort me to the bathroom. lol.

If you are uncomfortable, say something. I would want to pass out in my own bed, and not have to worry about looking presentable if the FIL's come home.

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Posted by Lsorrent


I'm uncomfortable because it means I'm going to be drunk and hungover at FIL's house. I realize they won't be there, but I feel like that's weird. And where are we supposed to sleep? I won't sleep in FIL's bed (ewwww), and I would feel weird sleeping in FH's old bed. And while I am a part of FH's family (and have been for 10 years), I still don't like to just go through their cabinets and help myself to things.

I would just prefer to be at my own house, where I can get up in the middle of the night and help myself to a glass of water, coffee, whatever and sleep in my own bed.

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I do hear what your saying. I mean I don't just go through my FIL cabinets either, even though they yell at me all the time to make myself at home lol and I too have been with FH a long time 8 years. I guess it's just the way I was brought up who knows. But honestly if they aren't going to be there then I would prob just go with it and maybe thats why FSIL doesn't want you to have it at your house because she feels that maybe you'll be caterering to everyone when you should be the one caterered too! Idk it's totally up to you and how you feel if you are truly that that uncomfortable then just be up front with them!

hmmmmmmmm

the good thing is fil will not be there.

who is planning it? do you know if everyone was ok with it?

I'd mention something...go heavy on the whole 'I don't know where everyone will park' thing...I know Lynbrook has that weird law because my uncle lives there, and he has a corner house so his driveway is a little deeper but it's still a PITA if a few people plan on crashing.

Maybe that can be your ticket out of it, and no one will know how you really feel.

I HATE SELFISH PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


You should say something like 'I really appreciate the effort but' ... and tell her how you really feel. I know its a little awkward but whats more awkward.. saying it and having the BP YOU want OR NOT saying it and then feeling awkward the whole time about it and maybe even start resenting her a bit.

Id just tell her what you wrote here - about your mom sending you girls off and about the parking and stuff. GL! Sorry youre going through that!