Is this weird?

No I agree, it's def kind of weird. I wouldnt want to sleep over my FIL's house either. I agree with Kris--blame it on the whole parking issue. That way you dont look like the bad guy. Then again though, maybe there is a reason behind it. Like maybe they are getting you a stripper or something that they dont want your mom seeing!

I think it is def wierd!!! If you uncomfortable, speak up now before they get too intense with the planning.

Good luck!

i'd be uncomfortable with it too although I live in FIL's house anyway. eff, i'm uncomfortable LIVING here even though we have our own apartment. scratch that, i HATE LIVING HERE!!!!!!!

wow, sorry about that. anyway... i'd say something, it's your b-party. you should be comfortable.

---

Posted by StaceyWill

Honestly, if you're uncomfortable with it, you should say something. I would way rather be at my house then my FIL's house overnight.
And if this is all being done by your FSIL to make HER more comfy, that's really unfair on her part.

Good luck!!

---

ITA

---

Posted by AngnShaun

im a little surprised you feel this way... i thought you were really close with fmil?

---

I am. We have a great relationship. But that doesn't mean that I want to have them kicked out of their house so I can have a slumber party there No matter what, it will always be THEIR house, not mine. I'd rather just stumble in drunk to MY house, you know???

---

Posted by Lsorrent

---

Posted by AngnShaun

im a little surprised you feel this way... i thought you were really close with fmil?

---

I am. We have a great relationship. But that doesn't mean that I want to have them kicked out of their house so I can have a slumber party there No matter what, it will always be THEIR house, not mine. I'd rather just stumble in drunk to MY house, you know???

---

totally!!!

i misunderstood why you didnt want it there...

---

Posted by jilliibabii

---

Posted by Lsorrent

---

Posted by jilliibabii

I don't see why you're all that uncomfortable with it, but if it's really bothering you, then say something!

---

I'm uncomfortable because it means I'm going to be drunk and hungover at FIL's house. I realize they won't be there, but I feel like that's weird. And where are we supposed to sleep? I won't sleep in FIL's bed (ewwww), and I would feel weird sleeping in FH's old bed. And while I am a part of FH's family (and have been for 10 years), I still don't like to just go through their cabinets and help myself to things.

I would just prefer to be at my own house, where I can get up in the middle of the night and help myself to a glass of water, coffee, whatever and sleep in my own bed.

---

Haha well definitely don't sleep in FIL's bed. THAT is weird. I guess it all depends on what kind of relationship you have with FILs. I've been there hungover many a time, I've spent the night before, and I've rifled through their cabinets. LOL! And they got rid of FH's old bed a long time ago so I slept in the guest bedroom or on the couch!

They won't be home, I'd just make myself comfortable!

---

ITA. i think your fsil is trying to make you feel special and not have to host your own bparty. when i stay at my fsil's house i am very at-home and we've only lived in the same state as each other for the past 8 months and have only recently gotten closer. if you want to ask about it, then make it casual. and don't have your moh do it - do it yourself. and if she says she just wants to be the host instead of have you be the host, then i'd roll with it. it's not worth it for just one night to have problems with your in-laws when they're assumingly trying to do something nice for you.

To clarify - it's not FSIL's house.......it's FIL's house. None of FH's siblings live at home anymore. So FSIL does not live there anymore, lol.

My MOH's are my sisters. They're not the ones I'm talking about. The BM I was talking to is my friend. I'm going to talk to her more about it, but if it comes down to having to change things, I will talk with FSIL myself. But the BM is the one who informed me about it, so I feel it's ok to talk to her about it. I don't know if FSIL wanted this to be a surprise or not, so I need to talk more to my BM about it first anyway to see if I can even bring it up.

I'm crashing but I think it's weird.

and I grew up in Lynbrook and my parents still live there. Its totally annoying that at 3am they ticket cars on the street.

Hmm....Id honestly bring it up or have someone else bring it up. And why stay in lynbrook? its not like its a cool place or anything? lol

is it possible they have more in store for you that they aren't telling you? like a surprise?
I wouldn't say anything..just ride it out and see what unfolds. There may be more to their story that they aren't telling you.

---

Posted by pipermaru

say something!

i'm all about being a bridezilla lately

---

I agree. It's your wedding, it's your b-party, i'm so tired of others trying to make it easier for them!!!

GL