Isn't this really tacky...

Boop2704 Posted: Aug 08, 2003 10:29 AM

Isn't this really tacky...

I was just looking through my guest list and came to FH's friends. Well, they got married last September. I just realized we NEVER got a thank you from their wedding. They will be married a year September 6th. How rude is that? I know they were having problems with their photographer and still haven't gotten their pictures, but wouldn't you have went out and bought your own thank you cards w/out pic? I know I would have gone out right away and bought my own to send out and then I would eventually just send the pictures. But they didn't send anything. I just think that is soooo wrong. What do you think?

nylisa Posted: Aug 08, 2003 10:31 AM

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I think so. I went to a wedding last Oct. and as of now I still have not gotten a thank you card either.

ChristineC68 Posted: Aug 08, 2003 10:32 AM

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yes it is. there's no excuse to not send a thank you.

swags1016 Posted: Aug 08, 2003 10:33 AM

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Jaime my cousin got married 6 1/2 years ago and I am still waiting for my thank you- they were supposed to be hand made he is a graphic artist. My mom got hers but I never did (same address at the time) but I think they are seperating now so I will never see it I guess!

julybride444 Posted: Aug 08, 2003 10:34 AM

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We still haven't gotten one from my cousin's wedding last August. My mom's upset about it. They've had problems w/the photographer too.

I wouldn't worry about it though-really. Some people are just not as on top of things as all of us LIWeddings girls It's nothing to get bothered by IMO.

franksbride Posted: Aug 08, 2003 10:35 AM

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Yep...it's rude.

Some people are really rude and it's not right...last year I couldn't attend a bridal shower for my FH's friends fiancee, but I bought and sent a gift for her...I NEVER RECEIVED A THANK YOU CARD...NOTHING...I think it's a disgrace.

Boop2704 Posted: Aug 08, 2003 10:36 AM

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Wow, 6 1/2 years. Hmm, I don't think its coming Jamie. I can't believe people. I am so crazy about these things, I actually have the labels made for the thank you cards already and I didn't even send out the invites yet.

kelly6273 Posted: Aug 08, 2003 10:36 AM

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Yes, that is rude. There is just no excuse for that....not even a problem with a photographer!!!

sanmik Posted: Aug 08, 2003 10:39 AM

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That is a peeve of mine - - people who do not send out Thank Yous are unappreciative of other people's time and generousity. It's beyond tacky, it's simply rude.

wenndypoo Posted: Aug 08, 2003 10:39 AM

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Certainly poor manners, but I wouldn't let it bother me. I was happy to go, gladly gave a gift, don't need some thank you I'm going probably throw out anyway.
JMO

Maribelle7777 Posted: Aug 08, 2003 11:00 AM

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perhaps your FH got the thank you and forgot to tell you? otherwise, yes, tacky.

Boop2704 Posted: Aug 08, 2003 11:27 AM

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Maribelle, we live together, so I would have seen it. But I know they did not send them. I actually commented to FH about it and he agreed with me that it was rude. But in no way am I upset. It was just something that I thought of while seeing their names on my list. If I eventually get one, I'll probably throw it out anyway, but its just the principle of things. They could have sent an e-mail thank you. We were very generous to them and a thank you would have been nice.

Stacey1403 Posted: Aug 08, 2003 11:33 AM

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I have friends who were married a year in March and no thank you for anyone. Very rude!

Mich1108 Posted: Aug 08, 2003 12:58 PM

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Did they cash your check? I was the only person in my immediate family to not receive a thank you from my cousin who got married March 2002 (my mom & my sister got them) so my sister told me to go back & look thru my cancelled checks but sure enough they did cash it! They had a baby this year & I received a thank you for the shower gift but I'm still annoyed about the wedding gift - that was clearly a bigger gift!

Also, on another note, I am fanatical about addressing people for my own wedding. If I knew someone was living with their boyfriend/girlfriend or was with someone for years, I made some calls & found out the person's name & addressed it to both of them. I just got an invitation to a christening addressed to Myself and 'Fiancee' - how rude is that??

dawnie Posted: Aug 08, 2003 01:00 PM

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Our friend got married 2 years ago and I am still waiting for the thank you card from their wedding and their baby shower. The baby is going to be one in December!

I am sorry they were so rude!
Didn't their mom's teach them manners? My mother would kill me if I didn't send a thank you card!

dbcrosby Posted: Aug 08, 2003 01:01 PM

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i agree that it is rude, but i can understand them waiting for the picture from the photographer. i think i would do the same thing since i would want my thank yous to be perfect and the way they should be.

Nora101004 Posted: Aug 08, 2003 01:03 PM

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I understand E-party's are different from weddings, but my FH and I had our thank you's for the e-party out in 6 days from the party. We had about 60 TY's to write also.
Extremely rude.

Rob-luvs-me Posted: Aug 09, 2003 08:25 AM

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Keep in mind the postal service these days too and I would give them the benefit of the doubt. My Bm never received her thank you from my e-party and she KNOWS I mailed hers because she helped me check that I had all of them and was with me when I mailed them out. It was also never returned to me - so you just never know.