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Posted by BMD'sPeanut
Posted by FeliciaDA
We must be lapsed Italians .. LOL
though I'm generally have a big Greek wedding, so this could possibly be why it hasn't been brought up to me. Though any shower in either side of my family this wasn't done. Then again, practially everyone in my family hasn't married an Italian, so the traditions weren't really enforced , necessarily![]()
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Posted by BMD'sPeanut
Posted by Ang&Rich
All of the showers I've been to have had the statues which I personally don't like. I mean it's one thing for the bride but to give the bridal party - most don't want them. I'd give mine to my mom. But in all fairness the gesture is nice. I see most popular are the Armani statues as well as Lladro. These things get so expensive and I can't help but think it's not a big deal to skip it. I'm sure my FMIL would gasp in horror to hear me say that but honestly I think that unless you absolutely want it then you can and should skip it. My bridesmaids aren't Italian and definitely wouldn't understand the point.
I agree...My FMIL is Italian...I just don't know what to tell my Mom to do...Siiiiiiiighhhhh!!!
And um...with the 18 million bridesmaids that I have...Well...my mom having to give them gifts would really get expensive for her...Especially gifts like that.
Posted by WinterBride2005
Don't let this stress you. If your FMIL brings it up, just tell her it is not your family's tradition.![]()
Posted by touristMaybe it's a regional thing too.
Posted by FeliciaDA
same here! I'm 100% Italian and we're into all the traditions , etc.. never have I even heard of this
We must be lapsed Italians .. LOL
Posted by BMD'sPeanut
Posted by WinterBride2005
Don't let this stress you. If your FMIL brings it up, just tell her it is not your family's tradition.![]()
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Well...I guess it will just work out in the end! Everything does!![]()
Agreed. I wrote on the first page my mom who was born in Northern Italy never heard of it. But we have gone to showers we have seen it. My FMIL is from Southern Italy and she totally knew of it.
Posted by babybride
Agreed. I wrote on the first page my mom who was born in Northern Italy never heard of it. But we have gone to showers we have seen it. My FMIL is from Southern Italy and she totally knew of it.
In the past when my sisters or cousins got married every bridesmaid had a doll in front of them, but recently at the 4 bridal showers i have been to on my FH's side, they received something else or nothing at all. My FH and his family are way more italalian than my family and i guess it is not a tradition as much as it was in the past. right now i have about 5 statues from being in bridal parties, my mom still wants to do it for me but i guess the times are achangin'. do what you want , i am going to do what i want either way dont stress to much over it, it is your shower!!!!
Posted by Tivogliobene
Posted by BMD'sPeanut
Can she do Precious Moments or something: 'Cute' instead of gaud?
I guess that could be a good option...but again, I am not even sure the BM would appreciate them if they weren't a fan of precious moments, or any other knick-knack for that matter.
Regarding favors, yes, favors are big in an Italian wedding...the most recent wedding I went to had imported murano crystal napkin holders as the favor...so much for a bottle opener or something!!
Posted by smilealways
Posted by Tivogliobene
Posted by BMD'sPeanut
Can she do Precious Moments or something: 'Cute' instead of gaud?
I guess that could be a good option...but again, I am not even sure the BM would appreciate them if they weren't a fan of precious moments, or any other knick-knack for that matter.
Regarding favors, yes, favors are big in an Italian wedding...the most recent wedding I went to had imported murano crystal napkin holders as the favor...so much for a bottle opener or something!!
You girls are freaking me out. My FI is 100% Italian and not only am I nothing of the sort, but I'm from San Diego, not even New York. So not only am I trying to adjust to and pay for these lavish NY weddings, but now I'm freaking out about favors and other traditions. Yikes!
Posted by Tivogliobene
Don't freak out! Believe it or not, most of us who might even be Italian still have to adjust because it is now 'our' own wedding, a not cousin ROSAMARIA'S or whatever. It is expensive, but what else can we do! The important thing to remember is weddings are all about the couple, and creativity is certainly important...so for example, if anyone questions why I am not having these stupid dolls and maybe have something else in it's place that represents FH and I, that is my excuse!
Honestly...both of my parents are from Italy and while yes, many Italian mothers do this for their daughters BM's etc...My sister who was married last year made sure this was NOT done at hers which everyone agreed was fine due to the fact that we do not like Armani statues so instead for my sister's shower we gave everone a swarvoski butterfly which the BM's loved and they were glad they did not get another Armani statue......
my dads from milan and my mom is from calabria and i have never heard of this! interesting...
I lived in italy for 7 and a half years and ive seen the bride get one from her mom but never the bridesmaids, at least i never got one from all the weddings i did a testimonial in....they dont even have showers there so I think it is an Italian 'americanized' tradition...do what makes ytou happy..if i was do do everything my italian parents want me to do they would be broke!!
my whole family is from northern italy (my parents are off the boat) and no one has ever heard of this tradition... i personally am not going to give out anything like that because i know that i always end up sticking that stuff in the back of my closet until the next spring cleaning... jmo.
