it's gotten worse...

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Posted by Eckymecky

i think that although this hurts now.. i fear the day that someone asks me about it...it's almost like i don't want people to know she feels this way b/c i'm embarassed that someone could infer that me and FH don't belong together.

has anyone ever felt that way?

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Im sure friends and family know what kind of person she is and wont think anything badly about you two. I really doubt that anyone will think you two dont belong together. Just ignore her

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Posted by Eckymecky

i think that although this hurts now.. i fear the day that someone asks me about it...it's almost like i don't want people to know she feels this way b/c i'm embarassed that someone could infer that me and FH don't belong together.

has anyone ever felt that way?

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I wouldn't worry too much about it. My friend's FIL didn't go to their wedding because he didn't 'approve.' He thought she was too bossy. Last year before he passed away he actually told her that he was sorry he caused such a problem because she ended up being very good for his son.

Don't make HER issues yours...then you'll drive yourself crazy!!!!

Of course, it's MUCH easier for us to say this to you cause we're not going through it!

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Posted by CMS

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Posted by Eckymecky

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Posted by CMS

Crying about it and getting upset is probably exactly what she wants. She's probably enjoying the fact that you're upset about this.

Take your mom's advice....ignore her and let it roll off the best you can.

Remember that living well is the best revenge!!!! Enjoy planning YOUR wedding and focus on YOUR happiness...that will get her even more pissed off than the fact that her brother is getting married before her. LOL

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it just really makes me upset b/c it's not like we've had a vicious relationship...we've had long conversations (mostly about her problems) and i know a lot about what goes on in her head...she isn't well in my opinion. but the fact that i've been there for her and then she turns on us...one day i was and i quote 'the sister she never had' and the next day after our engagement it's ' well i've only met melissa three times so i don't know her that well'....

so you can see the lack of rational thoughts here.

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If it's not too personal, and I'm asking totally seriously, but is she on any type of medication?

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at the current moment...i'm not sure...but in the past i'm pretty sure she has been on some type of anti-depressant or anti-anxiety medicine. i could be wrong though...(on the type of drug).

it's kind of like one of those unsaid things. no one talks about j's problems..they would rather just ignore them. she lives with her grandmother and the parents only live 20 minutes away. and i think that is where the attention seeking behavior comes from. the fact that she always gets put on the backburner. i really think the family needs to seriously consider some type of therapy for her. (i'm not saying this to be mean and b/c of what's happened to me..i've always thought this). she even has a job coach b/c she can't preform at work and hasn't been able to pass certain tests to get another job. i'm not saying she isn't smart (i think she knows exactly what she is doing) but i think that she is somewhat mentally capacitated in some areas like math and reasoning...(her learning disability).

aww! it seems to me like misery loves company... don't give her any. let her stir around in her own self pity and misery but don't let her get you down. this is all about you right now... some people don't know how to let others just 'enjoy the good stuff'.
feel good and don't stress too much!!!!

I wrote this on the original thread, but i'll say it again, leave it alone because she's obviously self-centered and craving attention right now, so don't even give it to her..

really...thank god i have these boards to vent to people who know what i'm going through. it's hard b/c this is something i wouldn't want my friends and family to know..and not just for my sake...for her's as well b/c after this a lot of them would probably think really bad of her and i don't want that stigma...so thanks for listening and giving me advice...it means a lot.

i'm sorry she's being like this
but the only thing you can do is just try and ignore her. don't give her the attention she wants because then she'll keep doing stuff like this.

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Posted by Eckymecky

i think that although this hurts now.. i fear the day that someone asks me about it...it's almost like i don't want people to know she feels this way b/c i'm embarassed that someone could infer that me and FH don't belong together.

has anyone ever felt that way?

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omg, i feel so bad for you. i can relate i am having issues with FH's family as well. it ***** that at this supposedly happy time, they are making it horrible.

she def. just wants attention and for ppl to feel like you are the bad guy. i guess she is entitled to feel however she wants, but why do it over myspace?

Listen, she seems VERY similar to my sister. Attention grabber and publicity wh*re.

That is what she wanted. She wants those on her site to feel bad for her and to make her feel like she is the important one for the ime being.

SHe is trying to overtake the time of your spot light into her own...hence by making you feel as though she doesnt like you, etc...

My sisters done the same. Started drama on facebook and threatened to publically post personal things about my past because 'she can'

Ive learned one thing. People like that FEED on attention. DO NOT GIVE IT TO HER!!!!

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Posted by Eckymecky

i am really tired of crying about this. my mom is a psych nurse and she says that i should just ignore her b/c when it comes down to it all that matters is what alan and i think ..not anyone else. she also said that it sounds like she is trying to 'hook' me...to get me so upset about this that it will ruin everything...she said she know some patients that do the same thing.

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I would listen to your mom on this one. Obviously she wants attention and to make you feel bad and she succeded in both. Put it out of your head she's not in your wedding for a reason.

Wow...I'm sure this makes you really want to put her in your BP!
Like everyone else has said, don't let her bother you. Her words do not reflect badly on you. It just makes her look like a jealous, immature nut.
I have to deal with unpleasant family situations too, but I'm not going to let anyone put a damper on my happiness! This is a happy time for you and your FH so just ignore her.
I'll say it again. She's the one who looks bad in this situation, not you!

Ignore her.....she is being childish and this is all probably to take the attention away from your two and put it on her....she is upset that she is the oldest and not getting married so don't feed in to her negativity. I understand you are hurt and she will be your FSIL but sometimes you have to just say, 'well you dont like me there is nothing I can do' and move on.

I'm sure everyone is telling you the same thing, but it is best to ignore her. If she is jealous of you then there really is nothing you can do about it, she needs to grow up. It's sad that there are people out there that are so self-centered and immature that they would hurt their own friends/family members in order to make themselves feel better.

She obviously posted that to get under your skin, I think the best thing to do is ignore her and her ridiculous comments and if she feels that strongly about you guys not getting married then maybe she should stay home and wallow in her own misery the day of your wedding. Who needs unsupportive people putting a damper on your day? ugh

Remember, it's YOUR wedding, YOUR bridal party. Do what YOU feel is right because in the end it's you and your FH that matters the most.

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

I cant comment b/c i said to ignore her in the first place b/c all she wants is attention... and you gave it to her and fueled her on even more now... So now, i can only say... take my original advice and do excatly what she says in that blog and leave her alone... let her stew in her own negativity and brattiness

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Edit: LOL the clapping makes me feel like this is a talk show.


To the OP, I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. She is obviously really jealous and unfortunately going about things in a really immature way. Don't let her get to you